Dad advice sharing thread.
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@JK said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
Dont think I mentioned the first game incident but HELMETS are a yes from me too.
Anyway, first game of season and my lads team won toss and chose to bowl first (all shit scared of batting against the hard ball I think).
First bowl of the game/season/hardball career and the most confident of the boys comes firing in and a full toss straight in the batsmens head...BANG! Down he goes. Lot's of 'Oh fuckkkk!!!' from the sidelines but after a few mins he is ok. Bowler told to try 'keep it down'. Next two balls are also full tosses but waste highish so umpire has another chat....'gotta keep it down son otherwise you are off'. Not the best start to season and the young fella bowling is now letting out a few tears.
Ok so 4th ball....this was the closest one of the over to bouncing....gets the batsmen on the toe on the full!! Again hes down in a heap. This one hurt and no pads there, just a cheap pair of runners...OUCH!!
Batsmen (and bowler) did see out the over and the next two balls were full tosses around knee height so allowed but thank god the kid had the helmet. That first ball could have done some real damage!
Aye?
What bloody grade is your kid playing? year 35? Most kids in this area are FAR more likely to bounce it twice than bowl a full toss. The pitch is only 2 paces shorter than a full pitch. -
First year hard ball so year 5 of school.
Some of the kids have pretty good pace and to be honest I wouldnโt want to face them unless padded up.
JKjnr though isnโt one of those kids, just slow to medium but great line and length so gets plenty of wickets
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@JK said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
Some of the kids have pretty good pace and to be honest I wouldnโt want to face them unless padded up.
I've got there too. Won't go into the nets to face without protection ... pace and bounce means if you miss it, the old family jewels could be rearranged.
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I have an 11 year old son. He is probably the most innocent kid at his school. He's well liked by the kids and a teachers dream. He and I have a very close relationship and he is suddenly talking to me about a girl he likes. I asked him if he had told her how he feels and he said no. But then he said "But i guess if I don't do anything about it I won't get anywhere". I liked that he realises this, I say shit like that to him is sports(you miss 100% of the shot you don't take etc..). He's so bloody sensitive Im concerned she'll crush him if its not reciprocated. That's life, it has to happen to grow and I can live with him learning that lesson. But I have absolutely no idea what to do if he ends up with a mrs...
Any tips?
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My Ten year old has more game than me. He has had a girlfriend since last year. They have gone to different intermediates but stay in touch thanks to modern technology. I dropped him off for a movie date the other weekend. It is all innocent at this stage.
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TR Jnr (13) started High School this year...end of Week 2...has his first 'proper' g/f (Valentines day I thnk..she asked him)
With modern tech the communication thing is pretty intense...anywhoo, didnt last long, week or so...I thought he'd be crushed, cos he is like that, especially when she said she thought she could do better...I told him she was dreaming if she thought that!
Anywhoo, I gave him the whole be nice, you can be friends, maybe in a few years things might work out, dont burn bridges etc. Told him that even if she did want to get back he should say lets just be friends and we will see how things work out...
She got another b/f quickly, a 15yr old FFS!
Anywhoo, she has this week been saying I think we should get back together, but I saw that he has messaged her telling her that she broke his heart once, she doesnt get a 2nd shot...which was interestign as 1 we can tell when he is upset, and he wasnt really upset over her, but 2nd, I was impressed with the reply.
BUt then they have been away at camp all week...so will no doubt hear more tomorrow.
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Good luck I am dreading that stuff when my boys get older.
My old man used to tease us mercilessly about having friends who were girls.
Did not serve my self confidence well in my teenage years. Getting dumped or just rejected was not something I handled well. I hope I have better equipped my boys to handle that sort of stuff then my parents equipped me.
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@taniwharugby go junior! Good to see him sticking to his guns. Expect his stocks will rise as a result too!
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At this end I've been trying to sound out the boy on who he's interested in. It is a pretty blank wall so far, though it is hard to get conversation through to him when he's on the PS4 all the time
He's going to see Captain Marvel today with a bunch of his primary school friends he doesn't get to see that often as they all ended up at different high schools. Mrs TA and I (and Miss TA) will totally NOT be observing them from within the same cinema.
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@taniwharugby yep. Getting out of the car at school the other day - they had a mufti day for St Pats or something - there was a young lass who was quite well-endowed in the chest area, and I saw him looking, but didn't say anything.
But I'll occasionally drop a "... ladies!" with arched eyebrow at the end of a sentence and he'll give me the "ugh... Dad!" stuff.
I've given him the knowledge of steering clear of crazy week, but that's about all he'll take in so far. His Mum will probably give him a bunch of advice from the female point of view, and use a thousand words where ten will do. I've already told him he needs to nod, smile, thank her for the advice, and then basically throw most of it away.
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Haha shit this is going to come as a shock to my wife, she has it in her head that the boy won't have his first girlfriend until his 20s. Awesome.
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@No-Quarter haha yeah Mrs TR is always like you are too young for girlfriends, you should just be playing sports and doing school!
I'm not encouraging, but if I see him looking, I make sure he knows I seen him
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So went to the movies, nothing obvious happening but there were a heap of kids from his school out tonight.
Crossing the street at one stage, there were three little things waving and giggling at him, saying hi. I asked who they were and he said they were in his grade but he didn't hang out with them.
Mrs TA had an eyebrow raised and said "they seem interested in saying hi", so I proclaimed "well they're women mate, so they're probably just messing with you."
"EXACTLY, Dad!"
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@NTA said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
So went to the movies, nothing obvious happening but there were a heap of kids from his school out tonight.
Crossing the street at one stage, there were three little things waving and giggling at him, saying hi. I asked who they were and he said they were in his grade but he didn't hang out with them.
Mrs TA had an eyebrow raised and said "they seem interested in saying hi", so I proclaimed "well they're women mate, so they're probably just messing with you."
"EXACTLY, Dad!"
it's never to early for the "bitches be trippin" lesson
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@mariner4life yeah double-confirmed with him later, once the trippin bitchez in our household were out of earshot.
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@raznomore said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
I have an 11 year old son. He is probably the most innocent kid at his school. He's well liked by the kids and a teachers dream. He and I have a very close relationship and he is suddenly talking to me about a girl he likes. I asked him if he had told her how he feels and he said no. But then he said "But i guess if I don't do anything about it I won't get anywhere". I liked that he realises this, I say shit like that to him is sports(you miss 100% of the shot you don't take etc..). He's so bloody sensitive Im concerned she'll crush him if its not reciprocated. That's life, it has to happen to grow and I can live with him learning that lesson. But I have absolutely no idea what to do if he ends up with a mrs...
Any tips?
He sounds like a lovely kid and I share your concern about the effect rejection can have on him. Any rejection I suffered destroyed my confidence. Some people can just brush that shit off but others can get laid low about it. I think the most important thing is to build up his self-esteem and self-confidence.
If it does go well then I don't think there are too many concerns in terms of doing certain stuff too early. My son was labelled a manwhore by the girls at his school last year, but even at 13 it all seemed very innocent. The problem is the distraction. With all the farking texting and social media bullshit they don't concentrate on school or stuff they need to do. He's at an all boys school now and he's far more focused.
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@NTA said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
At this end I've been trying to sound out the boy on who he's interested in. It is a pretty blank wall so far, though it is hard to get conversation through to him when he's on the PS4 all the time
He's going to see Captain Marvel today with a bunch of his primary school friends he doesn't get to see that often as they all ended up at different high schools. Mrs TA and I (and Miss TA) will totally NOT be observing them from within the same cinema.
He won't tell you shit. My son was telling me he wasn't interested in girls and then a few days later one of his mates comes around and tells me how he was churning through them and was getting quite the reputation. Lucky bastard.
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@Rancid-Schnitzel this girl that is (still) chasing TR Jnr, at 13 has already gained a 'reputation' without actually doing anything (physical) but that label will stick with her, all because she has had about 7 or 8 boyfriends since school started 6 weeks ago.
I expect once she gets to that age of activity, she will either be that label, or the other (opposite) label.
He wont tell me who he actually likes, reckons I wont know her, but I said if I don't know her, what difference will it make if he tells me her name...
I have made a point of talking about this stuff with him in hope that when it comes time to talk properly, he feels he can talk to me about it.