No kids, any regrets?
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@taniwharugby said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Snowy said in No kids, any regrets?:
It just seems unfair that people who want to can't
then you get the ferals that cant stop having kids, and damn well should never have started...but I expect that is a thread all on it's own.
That reminds me @Virgil, how is young Metallica these days?
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@booboo said in No kids, any regrets?:
@taniwharugby said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Snowy said in No kids, any regrets?:
It just seems unfair that people who want to can't
then you get the ferals that cant stop having kids, and damn well should never have started...but I expect that is a thread all on it's own.
That reminds me @Virgil, how is young Metallica these days?
great memory!
Not sure, havent heard about her in yonks. Tried for ages to pressure my girls into befriending her...apparently thats bad parenting...
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@canefan said in No kids, any regrets?:
@MN5 we deal with people on WINZ. Some are genuinely in a tough spot and they are often the ones who have no idea what they can claim for. Others seem to know exactly what they are eligible for and know what to say, pro WINZers
@canefan said in No kids, any regrets?:
@MN5 we deal with people on WINZ. Some are genuinely in a tough spot and they are often the ones who have no idea what they can claim for. Others seem to know exactly what they are eligible for and know what to say, pro WINZers
I totally get that, I knew it was there for me if I needed it and had no qualms about going on the dole for a bit after years and years of honest tax paying.
But yeah, some will go on it and never get off. Mental or physical illness sure, but also just laziness.
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@Virgil said in No kids, any regrets?:
@booboo said in No kids, any regrets?:
@taniwharugby said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Snowy said in No kids, any regrets?:
It just seems unfair that people who want to can't
then you get the ferals that cant stop having kids, and damn well should never have started...but I expect that is a thread all on it's own.
That reminds me @Virgil, how is young Metallica these days?
great memory!
Not sure, havent heard about her in yonks. Tried for ages to pressure my girls into befriending her...apparently thats bad parenting...
Haha, it's not a name you forget !
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@MN5 said in No kids, any regrets?:
it's not a name you forget !
No, and we have genuine concerns for her future. Given that her parents named her Metallica the kid may not have had the best upbringing, parental role models, not to mention the bullying at school and chance of employment with Metallica as the first word on her CV.
This thread can get a bit depressing.
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@Snowy said in No kids, any regrets?:
@MN5 said in No kids, any regrets?:
it's not a name you forget !
No, and we have genuine concerns for her future. Given that her parents named her Metallica the kid may not have had the best upbringing, parental role models, not to mention the bullying at school and chance of employment with Metallica as the first word on her CV.
This thread can get a bit depressing.
As long as she's happy then nothing else matters.
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A slight tangent on this seeing (some) parents try to gatekeep what education should look like, and that folks without kids should have less (or no!) say. It's like get the fuck out of here brah, education and those kids are going to contribute to what NZ looks like in the future so everyone has a vested interest, kids or not.
I am increasingly concerned that the fern is the most nuanced and empathetic space for conversation in my life at the moment... actually I've just upgraded from concerned to terrified lol
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@Paekakboyz said in No kids, any regrets?:
I am increasingly concerned that the fern is the most nuanced and empathetic space for conversation in my life at the moment...
A visit to a politics thread should remedy that.
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@Snowy said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Paekakboyz said in No kids, any regrets?:
I am increasingly concerned that the fern is the most nuanced and empathetic space for conversation in my life at the moment...
A visit to
athe US politics thread should remedy that.FIFY
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@Snowy said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Paekakboyz said in No kids, any regrets?:
I am increasingly concerned that the fern is the most nuanced and empathetic space for conversation in my life at the moment...
A visit to a politics thread should remedy that.
this ^^^^
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@Mokey after all you’ve been through and you still support the Chiefs? 😉
Thanks for sharing your story sister.
My view is that the more people come to understand that having children is actually a privilege and not a ‘right’ or ‘should just happen’, the greater compassion and understanding they will have for those that can’t or choose not to. Unfortunately some people will always feel the need to judge others and so ask unnecessary questions and say inappropriate stuff.
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@Mokey said in No kids, any regrets?:
@booboo thanks. Endo is terrible. And the worst aspect is, so many women are dismissed when it comes to bad periods. Just 'unlucky' or 'complainers'. I had several doctors shrug, then at last one who was all oh hell no, you are getting referred to a obgyn. Very nice specialist diagnosed me in oh about 20 seconds, surgery 6 weeks later.
I just hate thinking of all the infertile chicks who might have had a different outcome if someone had taken them seriously rather than patting their head and recommending ibuprofen and a wheatie pack.It doesn't help that a good many gynos are men. We had one who basically said sometimes the pain is all in a woman's head. I told him he should give me his mobile number so next time I had a wife passed out from the pain on the bathroom floor he could come and give her a pep talk. Stupid fluffybunny. The nurses are usually fantastic though, very understanding. But it amazes me how many of the doctors' answer is basically dose up on tramadol. That or suck it up, it's just a bit of pain.
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@taniwharugby said in No kids, any regrets?:
I was surprised Mrs TR wanted to have a 2nd given her pregnancy wasnt straight forward (neither were) and the toll it took on her, mentally and physically was tough to watch..didnt help having to big boppers either (one an ounce under 10pd and the other well bver 10pd)
My first pass reading this. I read that as she had two big boobs, and you had weighed each one individually. You, sick, weird sicko.