Parenting
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@MajorRage said in Parenting:
@ACT-Crusader My first thought when I saw you had 5 kids was what car do you drive ....
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@ACT-Crusader I knew you were a sleeper Canes supporter! Go the Yellow bus!!
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@ACT-Crusader liar. You drive a Bongo van
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If only I had...
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@ACT-Crusader just missing some pointy white hoods bro.
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@ACT-Crusader said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
@ACT-Crusader having 5 kids goes a long way to explaining his repetitive ongoing team selection Dad joke. The dude must be a fucking master at driving his kids insane with the same jokes over and over.
I might not get 5 laughs every time I tell my dad jokes at home but at least I get 5 upvotes for my AB selections.
Shout out to @Chris-B @Canerbry @shark @Chris @Stargazer
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Tagging people and blatantly fishing for upvotes.
This is a new fern low
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Without distracting us overly much from this awesome thread - when was the last time you checked your kids search history?
Incognito kiddos, incognito!
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@ACT-Crusader said in Parenting:
In my view kids need to be challenged. They need opportunities to build resilience. They need hard lessons. But they also need to learn love and trust. More often than not it’s the little things done consistently that make the biggest difference. What those little things are different for each kid.
Upvote this! But also in a slightly different context.
Little things done consistently will create a framework of boundaries. Letting them know when they have overstepped those boundaries or are close to it and providing consequences when they have busted the boundary is a key. Also be prepared to adjust those boundaries out when trust is gained. Kind of like a dog
I'll refrain from the 'in my day' comments as I feel you guys seem to be dealing with a slightly different world that your kids are growing up in. I'm amazed at how young all of your kids are when you aren't that much younger than me!
We were quite lucky in that our son spent his younger years with his grandparents during the day and on the farm. You don't have much option but to just get on with things and listen to what you are being told in those circumstances.
Certainly can't say he was perfect. As they all do there were phases where you wonder what you have done to create a surly, lazy shit that has to be asked multiple times to do things but looking back it is just a growing up/hormonal thing.All I know is that we ended up with a kid that we couldn't be prouder of. Has his head screwed on (more than us) and has a great partner.
Given you're at least 5 years older than me (somewhere recently you said you were at Uni in 1982 ... ), and I reckon most of these blokes are about 10 years younger than me (based on their taste in music...) I reckon you're kind of a little in denial about your age dude ... just step away from the Grecian 2000 ...
Still think most, if not all, of us here seem to be tending toward being caring concerned parents.
And therefore hopefully our kids are heading in the right direction.
@antipodean 's Jesuit maxim rings true.
BTW MBJ was buzzing on arrival home from school today: exams done.
Makes one feel so much better that they're happy.
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@raznomore said in Parenting:
@mariner4life said in Parenting:
@taniwharugby the fuckers never go to sleep fast enough though!
go to sleep! i wanna watch stuff on TV that's violent and also has tiddies!
I feel that pain but more because I want to give the Mrs one and not have to worry if the punk son is still awake these days.
My daughter is an adult splits her time between home and her bf parents house. She’s never home in the weekend which I like. But soon to be teen son is a fucken night owl and his room is next to ours - with our next house I could give 2 shits about a pool or deck. It’s all about the distance the kids rooms are from mine. I’ve spent far too much money on wd40 this past year.
Jesus mate. WD40? You could at least splash out for KY.
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@barbarian said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
@mariner4life said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
It's that he's just wayyyy too fucking over cautious. About everything, to the point that it has stopped him from doing fun things - he's still not that confident on his bike and doesn't really enjoy it because "what if I fall off Dad???".
that's my youngest. He's very anxious. It's why he is very slow to start new things. All he can think about is what can go wrong. He absolutely gets that from his mother. I just can't understand it, it's not how i am wired, and my eldest doesn't get it either. And i am sure i react incorrectly.
For instance, up at the lake on the weekend. Kids doing biscuit rides behind the boat. Eldest jumps in, and he's actively trying to throw himself around, despite never having done it before. The youngest? got in, but instantly said he didn't want to do it. I pretty much didn't give him a choice, and he fucking hated it, got off after one lap, and didn't get back in. Apparently just seeing it's safe wasn't enough
Then he told his mother that "dad made me do something i didn't want to do!" oops
It's hard to know what to do. I took the approach of just forcing him to do shit, with the view that once he actually did it he'd realise how fun it was. That has backfired many times.
When he was four we had an incident at Movie World on the Gold Coast. I made him go on the log ride with me as there didn't appear to be any age or height requirements. I figured I'd get him all geared up for the final drop during the initial stages where you float around and he'd end up having a blast.
Little did I know that on this particular log ride half way through it puts you into a dark room, turns you backwards, and shoots you down a significant drop at speed. He was fucking petrified after that (understandably so it was pretty intense), and then didn't trust me when trying to get him to do anything else.
Wow I had a real flashback reading this. I went to Movie World about 20 years ago, and really have no memories of it.
But reading the post I now distinctly remember going on that log ride, and the backwards drop being terrifying. So I totally understand your sons feelings on that one!
Wait, I've been to Movie World lots - probably used to go at least every second year between 2001 and 2014 when visiting my Mum, then for two years I'd go quite often when up on the GC campus (at the film studio so had free access), and yet I have no recollection of the log ride going backwards at the end.
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@raznomore haaa exactly! I can only remember one, but I'm sure there were more. One of those kinda guys that was about 5'6", wore a black bomber jacket with the name of his tae kwan do school on the back and worked as a floor salesman at an appliance store.
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@raznomore haaa exactly! I can only remember one, but I'm sure there were more. One of those kinda guys that was about 5'6", wore a black bomber jacket with the name of his tae kwan do school on the back and worked as a floor salesman at an appliance store.
you fucking made that up!!!
That's an 80s movie douchebag cliche!
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@mariner4life I know right. Oh and ginger, with almost like a flat top. And Lennon sunnies.
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@barbarian said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
@mariner4life said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
It's that he's just wayyyy too fucking over cautious. About everything, to the point that it has stopped him from doing fun things - he's still not that confident on his bike and doesn't really enjoy it because "what if I fall off Dad???".
that's my youngest. He's very anxious. It's why he is very slow to start new things. All he can think about is what can go wrong. He absolutely gets that from his mother. I just can't understand it, it's not how i am wired, and my eldest doesn't get it either. And i am sure i react incorrectly.
For instance, up at the lake on the weekend. Kids doing biscuit rides behind the boat. Eldest jumps in, and he's actively trying to throw himself around, despite never having done it before. The youngest? got in, but instantly said he didn't want to do it. I pretty much didn't give him a choice, and he fucking hated it, got off after one lap, and didn't get back in. Apparently just seeing it's safe wasn't enough
Then he told his mother that "dad made me do something i didn't want to do!" oops
It's hard to know what to do. I took the approach of just forcing him to do shit, with the view that once he actually did it he'd realise how fun it was. That has backfired many times.
When he was four we had an incident at Movie World on the Gold Coast. I made him go on the log ride with me as there didn't appear to be any age or height requirements. I figured I'd get him all geared up for the final drop during the initial stages where you float around and he'd end up having a blast.
Little did I know that on this particular log ride half way through it puts you into a dark room, turns you backwards, and shoots you down a significant drop at speed. He was fucking petrified after that (understandably so it was pretty intense), and then didn't trust me when trying to get him to do anything else.
Wow I had a real flashback reading this. I went to Movie World about 20 years ago, and really have no memories of it.
But reading the post I now distinctly remember going on that log ride, and the backwards drop being terrifying. So I totally understand your sons feelings on that one!
Wait, I've been to Movie World lots - probably used to go at least every second year between 2001 and 2014 when visiting my Mum, then for two years I'd go quite often when up on the GC campus (at the film studio so had free access), and yet I have no recollection of the log ride going backwards at the end.
It's not the final drop, it's halfway through the ride. And like @barbarian your brain has probably suppressed that traumatic experience.
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@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
@barbarian said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
@mariner4life said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
It's that he's just wayyyy too fucking over cautious. About everything, to the point that it has stopped him from doing fun things - he's still not that confident on his bike and doesn't really enjoy it because "what if I fall off Dad???".
that's my youngest. He's very anxious. It's why he is very slow to start new things. All he can think about is what can go wrong. He absolutely gets that from his mother. I just can't understand it, it's not how i am wired, and my eldest doesn't get it either. And i am sure i react incorrectly.
For instance, up at the lake on the weekend. Kids doing biscuit rides behind the boat. Eldest jumps in, and he's actively trying to throw himself around, despite never having done it before. The youngest? got in, but instantly said he didn't want to do it. I pretty much didn't give him a choice, and he fucking hated it, got off after one lap, and didn't get back in. Apparently just seeing it's safe wasn't enough
Then he told his mother that "dad made me do something i didn't want to do!" oops
It's hard to know what to do. I took the approach of just forcing him to do shit, with the view that once he actually did it he'd realise how fun it was. That has backfired many times.
When he was four we had an incident at Movie World on the Gold Coast. I made him go on the log ride with me as there didn't appear to be any age or height requirements. I figured I'd get him all geared up for the final drop during the initial stages where you float around and he'd end up having a blast.
Little did I know that on this particular log ride half way through it puts you into a dark room, turns you backwards, and shoots you down a significant drop at speed. He was fucking petrified after that (understandably so it was pretty intense), and then didn't trust me when trying to get him to do anything else.
Wow I had a real flashback reading this. I went to Movie World about 20 years ago, and really have no memories of it.
But reading the post I now distinctly remember going on that log ride, and the backwards drop being terrifying. So I totally understand your sons feelings on that one!
Wait, I've been to Movie World lots - probably used to go at least every second year between 2001 and 2014 when visiting my Mum, then for two years I'd go quite often when up on the GC campus (at the film studio so had free access), and yet I have no recollection of the log ride going backwards at the end.
It's not the final drop, it's halfway through the ride. And like @barbarian your brain has probably suppressed that traumatic experience.
Ah right. I love that stuff. I have a mate who is scared of roller coasters - we went on the Scooby Doo ride thinking it was a ghost train. I looked back as we were being raised up, and saw the roller coaster - I didn't tell him - before we got sent flying backwards. Men shouldn't scream like that.
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@NTA after watching 7 boys from the team I have coached for 8 years play under another coach, I felt a bit for my boy as i think this would have a huge opportunity to get a bit of confidence in his game now that he is a bit more savvy and bigger...and for me, despite thinking it'd he great not coaching, I felt a pang of disappointment watching the boys carve today...my boy then spent an hour telling me about wanting to do more exrecise and game less...first opportunity to do something, wanted to sit on his phone instead...