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@MN5 said in Happiness Scale:
From what I saw ( not much ) Brian Johnson still sounds bloody good for an old fella. You just know he’d be great company over a Newcastle Brown or 20 as well.
Yep. There was something about hearing his voice which just sounded right in the stadium setting. It was a real crowd lifter before they even played a note.
As expected people online are piling into Lars Ulrich which is uncalled for. Sure he comes across as a dick at times but he IS a very good drummer. Not sure why it’s so cool to hassle him ?
Yeah, he was fine and said a few words which were well received. Online dickheads can piss off. Man has more success in his left fingernail than all of them put together. Of course he's not immune from criticism, but he played brilliant, like all the drummers.
Glad I missed Liam Gallagher, whoever mentioned John Paul Jones ( can’t remember ) should remember he’s 76 years old ! Great that he’s still having a hoon on the bass with the young uns.
British crowd, so Liam was spot on. Point about JPJ is that if you compare him to Stone / AC/DC etc he looks like an old man pulled out of his nursing home. The others look like old rock stars. JPJ doesn't, at all. He just looks like an old man.
Dave Grohls nice guy act still grates but he’s obviously very good at bringing together too musos past and present
Why does it grate? Got any inside word that he's an ass? Certainly not in synch with most there!
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@MajorRage just on the drummers, I thought Travis Barker was excellent and absolutely buzzing to be playing with the Foo Fighters.
I also didn’t know that Rufus Taylor was Taylor Hawkins’ god son. And he’s got more than a passing resemblance to Taylor Hawkins too.
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@MajorRage said in Happiness Scale:
@MN5 said in Happiness Scale:
From what I saw ( not much ) Brian Johnson still sounds bloody good for an old fella. You just know he’d be great company over a Newcastle Brown or 20 as well.
Yep. There was something about hearing his voice which just sounded right in the stadium setting. It was a real crowd lifter before they even played a note.
As expected people online are piling into Lars Ulrich which is uncalled for. Sure he comes across as a dick at times but he IS a very good drummer. Not sure why it’s so cool to hassle him ?
Yeah, he was fine and said a few words which were well received. Online dickheads can piss off. Man has more success in his left fingernail than all of them put together. Of course he's not immune from criticism, but he played brilliant, like all the drummers.
Glad I missed Liam Gallagher, whoever mentioned John Paul Jones ( can’t remember ) should remember he’s 76 years old ! Great that he’s still having a hoon on the bass with the young uns.
British crowd, so Liam was spot on. Point about JPJ is that if you compare him to Stone / AC/DC etc he looks like an old man pulled out of his nursing home. The others look like old rock stars. JPJ doesn't, at all. He just looks like an old man.
Dave Grohls nice guy act still grates but he’s obviously very good at bringing together too musos past and present
Why does it grate? Got any inside word that he's an ass? Certainly not in synch with most there!
Not sure, just a personal thing. The whole “I’m a rock star but I’m a REALLY nice guy” schtick I think.
John Paul Jones never really did look like a Rock star but as the Swiss Army knife of Led Zep he did his bit and then some. Absolute legend.
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Of course the camping last night was a good offset to the funeral we attended that morning.
A couple of prelim notes:
7th September 2022 was our 20th wedding anniversary. As it was a Wednesday and I had a work function, and therefore she had to run around after guitar lessons, dance lessons, and making dinner, we decided that we'd celebrate on Friday 23rd by taking the day off together.
Mrs TA has injured her back somehow, and is having trouble sleeping properly, which is making her a little short tempered and emotional. Of course, she hasn't called fucking anyone in the medical fraternity to have a look at it, because she's "flat out at work".... right, while you're not watching Mourning TV. You had all fucking week to make an appointment with a 5 minute phone call and apparently that was too hard.
Back to the story:
A couple of years back, my wife's Aunt passed away from cancer in her late 60s. She was a nurse, smoked in her youth, and in later years didn't really look after herself physically. She declined rapidly, but that is still young.
Yesterday was the funeral of Aunt's best friend (Kiwi born, incidentally), also gone in late 60s. Similar thing in that she'd been a nurse, had some health issues later in life (not of her making tho). Cancer took her in about 9 months. We didn't know she was even that bad until about 2 weeks ago.
Her husband (Phil) is one of the nicest blokes you'll ever meet. Soft-spoken, smart, and very caring toward his whole family and anyone he considered extended family. Not that I knew him that well but every time we caught up with that particular family he'd go out of his way to ensure everyone felt included.
Anyway, the poor fluffybunny is up there, giving his eulogy while just trying to hold it together. He broke a couple of times, and you can't blame him - they would have been married 40 years last Saturday. He is no doubt thinking of the void in his life and how there was so many things they still had planned. I will admit to shedding a few tears on his behalf, wondering how such a nice bloke gets on from here with his best friend taken away.
Mrs TA is shedding tears for the loss of Aunt's friend, and for Phil. She remarked after the service how well he was doing to hold it together.
Given the delicate state of proceedings, and her sore back making her a bit waspish, I refrained from saying "Yeah well that will be one of us up there, one day, thinking about how much we still had to do in life. So let's not waste time worrying about shit we can't fix, like your Mum's fucking dementia, and enjoy our lives to the fullest."
Instead, I went camping to test out the new kit I got for Father's Day.
Discretion is the better part of valour.
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@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
we decided that we'd celebrate on Friday 23rd by taking the day off together.
OK so we did the anniversary on the 22nd instead.
Lunch at Aria in Sydney - $600 worth of fucking fantastic cuisine later and I didn't get my end wet.
"Disappointed" doesn't cover it.
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@Paekakboyz said in Happiness Scale:
@NTA Ref called a free kick but you weren't the one delaying play. Rough bro, super rough.
There are no free kicks. There isn't even a 50/50 call going my way at ruck time.
There is only the mental grind of balancing what is worse for my mental health: getting rejected or not even bothering to try.
I get an opportunity about once a month if she's in the mood and there is precisely zero chance of some other event that might shatter the candyglass vase that is her positive mood. I assume that it is around the time she's ovulating - which is a dangerous criteria to base anything on for a woman in her mid-40s.
When I had COVID late last month, I lamented to her that it was a genuine shame because it was Horny Week. "Oh been keeping count have you?" she asked.
"More that I've noticed a pattern", I replied.
It has not occurred since July. Last week I got the "if my back can handle it" go-ahead in the afternoon, and then she was in bed asleep by 9PM.
Frustrating.
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@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
@Paekakboyz said in Happiness Scale:
@NTA Ref called a free kick but you weren't the one delaying play. Rough bro, super rough.
There are no free kicks. There isn't even a 50/50 call going my way at ruck time.
There is only the mental grind of balancing what is worse for my mental health: getting rejected or not even bothering to try.
I get an opportunity about once a month if she's in the mood and there is precisely zero chance of some other event that might shatter the candyglass vase that is her positive mood. I assume that it is around the time she's ovulating - which is a dangerous criteria to base anything on for a woman in her mid-40s.
When I had COVID late last month, I lamented to her that it was a genuine shame because it was Horny Week. "Oh been keeping count have you?" she asked.
"More that I've noticed a pattern", I replied.
It has not occurred since July. Last week I got the "if my back can handle it" go-ahead in the afternoon, and then she was in bed asleep by 9PM.
Frustrating.
Potentially needs its own thread in regard to love life as we age. I feel for you and that must be tough when partners don't match on that level. I don't think you are alone in your experience, and I am sure many on the Fern can relate. In my teens I had the pleasure of dating a girl who had a very high drive and whilst it was fun, when I wasn't available, she ended up going elsewhere.
Funnily my wife and I had a chat today about the future of virtual reality and I joked that it is likely sex dolls and virtual reality will be a bit of a game changer for many single and married men who have a need that is not met. In theory you will be able to have sex with whoever you want as the VR will map any person you want from a photo, and I am sure the dolls will only get better with time.
The hardest part will be finding a private area to spend some time with your doll lol.
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@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
@Paekakboyz said in Happiness Scale:
@NTA Ref called a free kick but you weren't the one delaying play. Rough bro, super rough.
There are no free kicks. There isn't even a 50/50 call going my way at ruck time.
There is only the mental grind of balancing what is worse for my mental health: getting rejected or not even bothering to try.
I get an opportunity about once a month if she's in the mood and there is precisely zero chance of some other event that might shatter the candyglass vase that is her positive mood. I assume that it is around the time she's ovulating - which is a dangerous criteria to base anything on for a woman in her mid-40s.
When I had COVID late last month, I lamented to her that it was a genuine shame because it was Horny Week. "Oh been keeping count have you?" she asked.
"More that I've noticed a pattern", I replied.
It has not occurred since July. Last week I got the "if my back can handle it" go-ahead in the afternoon, and then she was in bed asleep by 9PM.
Frustrating.
Discrepancy in sex drive is a common problem. Some deal with it by picking up other hobbies and interests. Hanging out with mates in a bid to fill the void. Some resort to finding someone else with a higher drive
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@canefan said in Happiness Scale:
@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
@Paekakboyz said in Happiness Scale:
@NTA Ref called a free kick but you weren't the one delaying play. Rough bro, super rough.
There are no free kicks. There isn't even a 50/50 call going my way at ruck time.
There is only the mental grind of balancing what is worse for my mental health: getting rejected or not even bothering to try.
I get an opportunity about once a month if she's in the mood and there is precisely zero chance of some other event that might shatter the candyglass vase that is her positive mood. I assume that it is around the time she's ovulating - which is a dangerous criteria to base anything on for a woman in her mid-40s.
When I had COVID late last month, I lamented to her that it was a genuine shame because it was Horny Week. "Oh been keeping count have you?" she asked.
"More that I've noticed a pattern", I replied.
It has not occurred since July. Last week I got the "if my back can handle it" go-ahead in the afternoon, and then she was in bed asleep by 9PM.
Frustrating.
Some deal with it by picking up other hobbies and interests. Hanging out with mates in a bid to fill the void.
And with Rugby season over that could be an issue. Need more camping
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@canefan said in Happiness Scale:
Discrepancy in sex drive is a common problem.
I should also add: I don't think her sex drive is dead.
I get home sometimes when she's had the house to herself, and she's got that glow on, indicating she's meeting her own needs on occasion.
In the 2.5 years since COVID sent us all to work from home, we've had ample opportunities at lunch time or in dead spots during the week for sex. It happened once, in the July of 2020.
So, basically, the only conclusion I can draw: it's me.
The most frustrating part is that it has been like this for years, and when I bring it up she eventually gets angry and starts using her Mum's dementia as an excuse. I'm not convinced, TBH.
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@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
@canefan said in Happiness Scale:
@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
@Paekakboyz said in Happiness Scale:
@NTA Ref called a free kick but you weren't the one delaying play. Rough bro, super rough.
There are no free kicks. There isn't even a 50/50 call going my way at ruck time.
There is only the mental grind of balancing what is worse for my mental health: getting rejected or not even bothering to try.
I get an opportunity about once a month if she's in the mood and there is precisely zero chance of some other event that might shatter the candyglass vase that is her positive mood. I assume that it is around the time she's ovulating - which is a dangerous criteria to base anything on for a woman in her mid-40s.
When I had COVID late last month, I lamented to her that it was a genuine shame because it was Horny Week. "Oh been keeping count have you?" she asked.
"More that I've noticed a pattern", I replied.
It has not occurred since July. Last week I got the "if my back can handle it" go-ahead in the afternoon, and then she was in bed asleep by 9PM.
Frustrating.
Discrepancy in sex drive is a common problem. Some deal with it by picking up other hobbies and interests. Hanging out with mates in a bid to fill the void.
And with Rugby season over that could be an issue. Need more camping
You try to find a life partner who is a good person, and at the end of the day after life takes over, all you want is someone to get your rocks off with on a regular basis 🤷
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@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
@canefan said in Happiness Scale:
Discrepancy in sex drive is a common problem.
I should also add: I don't think her sex drive is dead.
I get home sometimes when she's had the house to herself, and she's got that glow on, indicating she's meeting her own needs on occasion.
In the 2.5 years since COVID sent us all to work from home, we've had ample opportunities at lunch time or in dead spots during the week for sex. It happened once, in the July of 2020.
So, basically, the only conclusion I can draw: it's me.
The most frustrating part is that it has been like this for years, and when I bring it up she eventually gets angry and starts using her Mum's dementia as an excuse. I'm not convinced, TBH.
I'm not sure it's you. Lots of mates are in a similar position. Women just don't seem to generally need it the way men do. Oddly some of the women I know that become single again seem to get super horny. Not that I know what their drive was like before that
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@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
@canefan said in Happiness Scale:
Discrepancy in sex drive is a common problem.
I should also add: I don't think her sex drive is dead.
I get home sometimes when she's had the house to herself, and she's got that glow on, indicating she's meeting her own needs on occasion.
In the 2.5 years since COVID sent us all to work from home, we've had ample opportunities at lunch time or in dead spots during the week for sex. It happened once, in the July of 2020.
So, basically, the only conclusion I can draw: it's me.
The most frustrating part is that it has been like this for years, and when I bring it up she eventually gets angry and starts using her Mum's dementia as an excuse. I'm not convinced, TBH.
I dunno what to say. I'm on sex every day level still, but raise my wife isn't. So I'm a big piston wristed gibbon. But man that says to me, time to move on in life. Nothing is forever
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@Machpants said in Happiness Scale:
@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
@canefan said in Happiness Scale:
Discrepancy in sex drive is a common problem.
I should also add: I don't think her sex drive is dead.
I get home sometimes when she's had the house to herself, and she's got that glow on, indicating she's meeting her own needs on occasion.
In the 2.5 years since COVID sent us all to work from home, we've had ample opportunities at lunch time or in dead spots during the week for sex. It happened once, in the July of 2020.
So, basically, the only conclusion I can draw: it's me.
The most frustrating part is that it has been like this for years, and when I bring it up she eventually gets angry and starts using her Mum's dementia as an excuse. I'm not convinced, TBH.
I dunno what to say. I'm on sex every day level still, but raise my wife isn't. So I'm a big piston wristed gibbon. But man that says to me, time to move on in life. Nothing is forever
I know what you are saying. If she was willing I'd happily crack into it a few nights a week. And sometimes i wonder how it would be hitching up to a higher octane wagon. But I've seen some guys move on, and the destruction it does to their kids, their standard of living, and relationships with friends and family. I'm not willing to go scorched earth on my life just for new thrills and pussy
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@canefan which ultimately is why I'm hanging around. My daughter is the apple of my eye and I really enjoy her company. She's 3 years from finishing school. The boy is just about to do his HSC but has an early offer to Uni. I would hate putting that on them, even tho they also have issues with how she treats them sometimes.
Philosophically speaking, the marriage is ok but the relationship is not where it needs to be.
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@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
@canefan which ultimately is why I'm hanging around. My daughter is the apple of my eye and I really enjoy her company. She's 3 years from finishing school. The boy is just about to do his HSC but has an early offer to Uni. I would hate putting that on them, even tho they also have issues with how she treats them sometimes.
Philosophically speaking, the marriage is ok but the relationship is not where it needs to be.
For me the main thing missing is the physical aspect. And that can smooth over minor ills and massively improve the mood. I'm sure I'd let more shit go if my whistle was being blown more often
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