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Thanks guys for all of your kind messages, support, lots of good advice, and also speaking about your own experiences. It's a bit overwhelming, you really are a good bunch of fluffybunnies (or Polish chicks, whichever). It has helped. It feels like my life has crumbled before my eyes and I've been powerless to do anything about it, but at least talking about it and hearing other peoples experiences makes me feel a bit less alone.
One positive of having the boys is that they've forced me to do some positive things with them, as I want them to form some good memories through all of this. Over the last few weeks we've watched 6 star wars movies, the originals and the prequels, which none of us had really seen before (I think I watched some of them when very young). Was great fun and the boys absolutely loved it so was a fun bonding experience.
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@No-Quarter father and son Star Wars watching, sounds like you’ve got it all together bro 😎
They’ll love Clone Wars series. I watched them all through with my two sons and they are 10 years apart in age. Was just our little thing to bring us together which is amazing how therapeutic it can be.
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@No-Quarter said in Happiness Scale:
Thanks guys for all of your kind messages, support, lots of good advice, and also speaking about your own experiences. It's a bit overwhelming, you really are a good bunch of fluffybunnies (or Polish chicks, whichever). It has helped. It feels like my life has crumbled before my eyes and I've been powerless to do anything about it, but at least talking about it and hearing other peoples experiences makes me feel a bit less alone.
One positive of having the boys is that they've forced me to do some positive things with them, as I want them to form some good memories through all of this. Over the last few weeks we've watched 6 star wars movies, the originals and the prequels, which none of us had really seen before (I think I watched some of them when very young). Was great fun and the boys absolutely loved it so was a fun bonding experience.
To maintain that positively, please, for the love of God do not expose them to the sequels!
Your boys are lucky to have you Mate.
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@Rancid-Schnitzel LOL yeah my 11 year old has already looked those up, read the reviews, and decided we shouldn't both with that. That latest show "The Acolyte" looks absolutely diabolical. @ACT-Crusader yes the Clone Wars series is next on the list. They've also said they want to watch Transformers, there's stacks of those to watch as well, so plenty to keep us entertained over winter
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@No-Quarter said in Happiness Scale:
@Rancid-Schnitzel LOL yeah my 11 year old has already looked those up, read the reviews, and decided we shouldn't both with that. That latest show "The Acolyte" looks absolutely diabolical. @ACT-Crusader yes the Clone Wars series is next on the list. They've also said they want to watch Transformers, there's stacks of those to watch as well, so plenty to keep us entertained over winter
He's old enough to embark on some Arnie films. Start with Commando and work up to Predator and Terminator. Funny that 12 year old CF Jr thought Predator was a bit lame. Bloody Fortnight/ Tiktok generation
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How can he think for one minute it's lame when it has a line like "ain't got time to bleed"?
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@Catogrande said in Happiness Scale:
How can he think for one minute it's lame when it has a line like "ain't got time to bleed"?
It didn't dampen my enjoyment of the film, he can be a disappointment at times. He did thoroughly enjoy Commando though
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@canefan said in Happiness Scale:
@No-Quarter said in Happiness Scale:
@Rancid-Schnitzel LOL yeah my 11 year old has already looked those up, read the reviews, and decided we shouldn't both with that. That latest show "The Acolyte" looks absolutely diabolical. @ACT-Crusader yes the Clone Wars series is next on the list. They've also said they want to watch Transformers, there's stacks of those to watch as well, so plenty to keep us entertained over winter
He's old enough to embark on some Arnie films. Start with Commando and work up to Predator and Terminator. Funny that 12 year old CF Jr thought Predator was a bit lame. Bloody Fortnight/ Tiktok generation
You have no son !!!!!
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Off topic and I’ve probably mentioned it numerous times but I always found it odd that Commando never got a sequel.
Is there any other big budget 80s action flicks you can say that about ?
Aliens, Robocop, Terminator, The Thing, Rambo, Rocky, Lethal Weapon, Blade, Top Gun ( albeit years later )…..the list goes on
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@MN5 said in Happiness Scale:
Off topic and I’ve probably mentioned it numerous times but I always found it odd that Commando never got a sequel.
Is there any other big budget 80s action flicks you can say that about ?
Aliens, Robocop, Terminator, The Thing, Rambo, Rocky, Lethal Weapon, Blade, Top Gun ( albeit years later )…..the list goes on
Well everyone was dead when he finished.
https://i.imgur.com/x4eGvwu.mp4
Even Sully
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@canefan said in Happiness Scale:
@MN5 said in Happiness Scale:
Off topic and I’ve probably mentioned it numerous times but I always found it odd that Commando never got a sequel.
Is there any other big budget 80s action flicks you can say that about ?
Aliens, Robocop, Terminator, The Thing, Rambo, Rocky, Lethal Weapon, Blade, Top Gun ( albeit years later )…..the list goes on
Well everyone was dead when he finished.
https://i.imgur.com/x4eGvwu.mp4
Even Sully
Sully might have survived that fall…..
….and all the other scumbags woulda had friends and relatives eager to avenge them
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@MN5 said in Happiness Scale:
Off topic and I’ve probably mentioned it numerous times but I always found it odd that Commando never got a sequel.
Is there any other big budget 80s action flicks you can say that about ?
Aliens, Robocop, Terminator, The Thing, Rambo, Rocky, Lethal Weapon, Blade, Top Gun ( albeit years later )…..the list goes on
The Matrix.
(Wrong thread, I know)
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@canefan said in Happiness Scale:
He did thoroughly enjoy Commando though
Are...are we still talking movies?
Also...@ACT-Crusader you god bothered you, you're not supposed to be such a hippy.
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I'm just here to help @No-Quarter
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For the last few weeks I've had to work until 3am to make lectures, apply for grants etc. A lot of it because someone high up cancelled and I had to fill in.
Have been absolutely exhausted, have come to some good conclusions, but really don't want to continue working like this. The problem is that to succeed as an academic you have to do this for years. I could take a risk, leave for a company on six months funding, then might be locked out of academia for ever.
Have a big deadline coming up, but need to go home for a rest. I've barely been insufferable even when we've won.
Most weekends now I am completely empty and can't socialise, so just stay home.
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The basic operating principle in serious academia is that you are a failure because you haven't published in journal x or gotten grant y this year. So it is a huge amount of work to make a standard to not fail, rather than be rewarded regularly.
I did some work for a hedge fund a few years ago, and I was treated with respect and rewarded monetarily for finishing projects.
Academia can be a really negative environment.
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Hang in there fella. Sounds like you need a holiday/break to get perspective.
I'm on the fringe of academia professionally. It is a tough gig, and honestly can't see a step change in improvement in the future. I think it'd have to be a passion to do it.
Good luck, and good work sharing
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