Conservative vs Progressive Family Values
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So to kick this off I saw this generating a fair bit of discussion:
Which got me thinking about the modern family and the different values people have. Plenty of people saying this woman is living in the past, with one of the presenters in the clip above saying she must be hypnotised or something, while others are praising her for looking after he husband and family.
There's no real right or wrong answer to this, but I'm interested in the Ferns opinions and what has worked well for them.
For me personally my wife, who is very career driven, is loving doing the stay-at-home mum thing and is cherishing the time she gets with the kids while they are young. According to some she's "living in the 1950s". Once the kids are older she'll resume her career, but the way we look at it is she has the rest of her life to work, but only a very small window to raise and spend quality time with the kids.
Granted we are lucky that we can (just) afford to do this - I know many women have to return back to work early for financial reasons.
I also don't see either of us as particularly Conservative, we're both probably pretty close to the centre. But the way we are right now it appears many would pin us as an ultra Conservative family.
So, for those with kids and those without, what has worked for you? Do you subscribe to traditional values or does your wife tell you to "make your own bloody breakfast!". How have you balanced the need for both parents to work while making time to raise a family?
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Is she getting enough sleep? Does she want to spend her time like that? Is it in fact not a load of media bullshit?
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@jegga said in Conservative vs Progressive Family Values:
She’s hot so she has my support
I knew I could count on the Fern for an in depth philosophical discussion
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@antipodean said in Conservative vs Progressive Family Values:
Does she want to spend her time like that?
like that matters. She has full bodily autonomy (including the right to terminate unborn children), but god help you if you think or express a non-correct viewpoint.
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@No-Quarter I wouldn't trust Bonesetta to make me breakfast. She's almost figured out how to work the microwave for when I'm away though.
Food is my area, she does cleaning, other stuff is shared typically just as to who can logistically do it.
She's extremely career driven too and earns a shitload more than me. It'll probably be me taking more time off should we be lucky enough to get a small thing.
Bonesetta is/was one of those liberals Jonathan Pie moans about but recognises that and has a good laugh at herself.
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@Bones cooking is my area too. Mrs NQ will step in when I'm sick or have worked long hours, but I enjoy it so do 90% of it.
We would probably earn a similar amount, and we've talked about me taking time off to stay home with the kids, but when push came to shove she didn't want to leave them when they were young. Said she carried them for 9 months so wasn't going to just go back to work immediately, and has ended up enjoying being at home with them. I'm sure there's some evolution at play there, she finds it very hard leaving them even for a night. That'll no doubt change once they get older/more annoying.
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@No-Quarter got no choice with us really unless we predominantly eat cold baked beans.
But I'm not sure she can work the can opener.
So I make the baked beans.
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My money’s on Ethan, poly-husband #3.
Polyamorous man lauded by progressive media charged with violent abuse of five-week-old baby
Polyamorous man lauded by progressive media charged with violent abuse of five-week-old baby
A five week old baby was hospitalized in Florida recently after she was violently abused by one of her four fathers in a polyamorous relationship.
Back-story:
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@Salacious-Crumb said in Conservative vs Progressive Family Values:
My money’s on Ethan, poly-husband #3.
Polyamorous man lauded by progressive media charged with violent abuse of five-week-old baby
Polyamorous man lauded by progressive media charged with violent abuse of five-week-old baby
A five week old baby was hospitalized in Florida recently after she was violently abused by one of her four fathers in a polyamorous relationship.
Back-story:
Each of those men is by definition a quarter-beta. Which makes them thetas?
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Back to OP
I'm chief cook & bottlewasher in my house when I'm not away in Japan for the winter.
My partner Nerys has the full-time job out of the house.
I get up every morning to walk the dog then back to make her breakfast and lunch if she wants to take one to work.
Then through the week it's cleaning, shopping, cooking.
That's my role.
To support her.
The lady from Brisbane is doing the same thing.
Unlike a lot of partners these days, she doesn't want her cake and eat it too.
