Lockdown/Covid Check In
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@taniwharugby said in Lockdown Check In:
Tough watching someone you care about deteriorate like that.
Sounds like you are living next to my Dad. He struggled with it as well. Hasn't been back to golf, and is wondering where he is going to live when he can't manage anymore. He has become quite reclusive and depressed.
Throw in some skin cancer and having half his ear cut off I can see why.
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OK. I'm officially finished. Took the dog for a walk, went past the pub. Came back, went past the pub. This bloody lockdown has had far reaching consequences. I'm not sure where to go from here.
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@R-L But it conjures up such a lucid picture.
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@Catogrande said in Lockdown Check In:
@R-L But it conjures up such a lucid picture.
Reminds me of a skit from some British comedy, can’t remember what show. A guy detective is at a crime scene and they have that black light looking for bodily fluids on the victim. His partner (female) arrives late Apologetic that something came up. He looks up at her with the black light and all around her mouth and face is glowing with white stains...
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So resurrecting this thread.
How is everyone doing?
Too many individual stories to call out, but I hope people are finding a way through this mess.
For me, the clusterfuck continues. I'm in the deep south, spending some time on the slopes which is nice, but I'm still a long way from home and where we'd rather be.
By way of update, the wife is about to head back to Straya as she has a job to start, so I'll be solo Dad here in NZ for the next little while.
The old lady is doing pretty well, which is great, but also surprising, and a pretty unexpected turn of events.
So I'm now balancing life as a solo dad here in NZ trying to entertain 3 kids for the next however long, who have no sport, school, friends, activities etc.
I'm half tempted to relocate back to Palmie, but that's kind of shit for everyone. But the longer I stay here in the south, the closer I am to getting that call to rush home and I guess maybe missing that windrow.
Has anyone been through this with parents before? How bad does the guilt manifest?
And if mum carries on doing well, at what point do I just go back to Australia and take the risk on hotel quarantine days (and potentially missing her passing) ? At the end of the day I have a family to support, despite being an only child here.
The lack of a travel bubble is fucking killing me!!!
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@voodoo Bloody tough mate. You never know when its her time, at some time you have to live your own life. Its easy to say but at some point you may need to get on with things, make sure you say and do everything you need to do just in case you don't make it back in time
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Poor bugger.
Hang tough, shout out to your bros when you need support
I was thinking today how, travel excluded, my life has returned to normal. Work. Kids sport. No time.
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@voodoo Tough situation to be in mate and tough choices to be making. I doubt there is a right or wrong, only circumstances will decide that in hindsight. Whatever your decision as long as you know you made it for the right reasons then that is as much as anyone can do.
Good luck with it all.
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@voodoo dude, that is rough as. Remember that you're grappling with this during mental times, so everything is harder. Doesn't real help with the decisions-making but don't beat yourself up bro.
Any other options in the NI so you'd be closer to palmy? But i can totally see why you'd prefer to stay south!
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@voodoo Personally - spend as much time with your Mum as you can. Mine dropped dead on the kitchen floor a few years ago. I missed her last breath but saw the whole trying to revive her, etc. Not fun.
You have the rest of your life and it seems that hers wills be shorter. Enjoy it with her.
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@Snowy said in Lockdown Check In:
@voodoo Personally - spend as much time with your Mum as you can. Mine dropped dead on the kitchen floor a few years ago. I missed her last breath but saw the whole trying to revive her, etc. Not fun.
You have the rest of your life and it seems that hers wills be shorter. Enjoy it with her.
Well said. Its not whether you are there at that end moment, or if you can get back for the funeral, its the time and the things you share while she's here that matters
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Cheers fellas (or ladies). I'm not so torn by the next month, I tbi k we will spend a couple more weeks here then head to Palmy. It's the decision in Sep/Oct that is so much harder. Return to Oz, accept the quarantine at both ends and the idea that the goodbye with Mum might be the last - just seems a weird concept! Pre-Covid even when you're on the other side of the world you're only 40hrs away max if you get the call. How the world has changed.
But I can't keep the kids here treading water forever, they need to get on with their lives at some point. As do I, I guess.
Life would be easier without parents or kids - or Covid!