Parenting



  • @MN5 said in Parenting:

    @taniwharugby said in Parenting:

    @NTA rarely do either of us ever take our phones into our room, we dont use iPads much either and never for watching stuff in our room (we do have a TV in there though) more so since Miss 11 stood on one of them and has cracked the screen.

    TR Jnr is pushing the boundaries on his phone, but I say we dont have ours in our room, so neither do you.

    Ex and I got the boy an Iphone for his 12th birthday last friday. Needless to say there's already an absolute shitload of Star Wars and Bond memes getting sent. Just totally over the top. Some of them aren't even that funny.

    I suspect he'll get annoyed at the constant bombardment and block my number sooner or later.

    He’s not alone there.



  • Ah man so tonight I have a snorer and then the wildling got into our bed and now I'm wide awake and contemplating whether to have a cup of tea or not. Bed time is a struggle at the moment and this comes and goes I wish I knew the reason for it, she just suddenly decides one week to hate bed then goes back to being fine with it for months on end. It's like exorcist scene tantrums from a normally very well behaved 4yo.
    Electronics aren't a problem for us yet she can fully navigate my phone to find music but I manage to keep her away from it the majority of the time.



  • Is there a worse part of the parenting life then bedtime?
    Our 2nd was horrendous, up till she was nearly 2 every night was a struggle. Be standing in her room sssshing her to sleep and then when you think you had it you would I try and slink off without a sound. Only to hear 5 mins later her crying again. Glad those years are way behind us, now it’s the occasional nightmare or coming into our room at 2am to ask if they can go to the toilet... after standing creepily for a few minutes at our bedside ( thankfully they go to the wife’s side)



  • @Virgil I find the dream giggling and singing more creepy... In the dead of night she laughs or sings a little song, it was shake it off by taylor swift one night. She also says "(her dad's name) look at this mess you've made".



  • @R-L said in Parenting:

    @Virgil I find the dream giggling and singing more creepy... In the dead of night she laughs or sings a little song, it was shake it off by taylor swift one night. She also says "(her dad's name) look at this mess you've made".

    Ha our oldest does that too, she will start saying her sisters name and say random things like it’s her fault or she can’t play at the moment.

    Kids are weird



  • @NTA said in Parenting:

    Miss 12 got busted messaging on her phone at midnight on a school night. Very unfortunate she tried to fire back at her Mum with "You and Dad are on your devices until all hours!"

    I don't give a shit. Mrs TA, however, seems to hold a grudge about the fact she IS on her iPad a lot and generally watches videos to fall asleep at night ... which science has said is fucking awful for you, but what do THOSE people know?

    Is that the equivalent of us reading until midnight with a torch under the covers back in the day?

    I'm with Mrs TA in that you shouldn't always trust the science, I had bad insomnia for years, but found watching old sitcoms has me to sleep pretty much within 15 minutes. It might be a bad way to fall alseep but it's better than being awake all night. (Although, it's probably a mixture of my going to sleep pattern - which the experts always suggest - and the switching off of my brain).



  • @Nepia said in Parenting:

    @NTA said in Parenting:

    Miss 12 got busted messaging on her phone at midnight on a school night. Very unfortunate she tried to fire back at her Mum with "You and Dad are on your devices until all hours!"

    I don't give a shit. Mrs TA, however, seems to hold a grudge about the fact she IS on her iPad a lot and generally watches videos to fall asleep at night ... which science has said is fucking awful for you, but what do THOSE people know?

    Is that the equivalent of us reading until midnight with a torch under the covers back in the day?

    I'm with Mrs TA in that you shouldn't always trust the science, I had bad insomnia for years, but found watching old sitcoms has me to sleep pretty much within 15 minutes. It might be a bad way to fall alseep but it's better than being awake all night. (Although, it's probably a mixture of my going to sleep pattern - which the experts always suggest - and the switching off of my brain).

    It's the blue light from device screens that keeps you awake. iOS has options to filter that out in the evening to help combat that.



  • @R-L we had a bizaare period for Miss 11 (3 or 4 years back) and she was diagnosed with 'Alice in Wonderland Syndrome'

    She would come into our room, and stand there, looking wired AF, talking to us, sometimes clear, other time incoherant about seeing shapes, colours etc, you pretty much had ot wake her up, which sometimes resulted in her becoming hysterical.

    Saw specialists, had scans, all brain activity normal, eventually stopped and didnt come back (also normal with the condition apparently)

    We found that the episodes usually preceeded a change (end of school holidays, going somewhere) so trigger was usually anxiety/excitement.



  • @taniwharugby said in Parenting:

    @R-L we had a bizaare period for Miss 11 (3 or 4 years back) and she was diagnosed with 'Alice in Wonderland Syndrome'

    She would come into our room, and stand there, looking wired AF, talking to us, sometimes clear, other time incoherant about seeing shapes, colours etc, you pretty much had ot wake her up, which sometimes resulted in her becoming hysterical.

    Saw specialists, had scans, all brain activity normal, eventually stopped and didnt come back (also normal with the condition apparently)

    We found that the episodes usually preceeded a change (end of school holidays, going somewhere) so trigger was usually anxiety/excitement.

    That would have been scary to go through.
    Our oldest having the odd night terror or calling out is bad enough. As a kid I used to sleep walk badly, according to the wife I still do the odd weird thing like sitting up etc... so fair to say I’ve no idea why our daughter does it to, must get it from her mother...



  • @Kirwan said in Parenting:

    @Nepia said in Parenting:

    @NTA said in Parenting:

    Miss 12 got busted messaging on her phone at midnight on a school night. Very unfortunate she tried to fire back at her Mum with "You and Dad are on your devices until all hours!"

    I don't give a shit. Mrs TA, however, seems to hold a grudge about the fact she IS on her iPad a lot and generally watches videos to fall asleep at night ... which science has said is fucking awful for you, but what do THOSE people know?

    Is that the equivalent of us reading until midnight with a torch under the covers back in the day?

    I'm with Mrs TA in that you shouldn't always trust the science, I had bad insomnia for years, but found watching old sitcoms has me to sleep pretty much within 15 minutes. It might be a bad way to fall alseep but it's better than being awake all night. (Although, it's probably a mixture of my going to sleep pattern - which the experts always suggest - and the switching off of my brain).

    It's the blue light from device screens that keeps you awake. iOS has options to filter that out in the evening to help combat that.

    I use my laptop but I don't think I've ever used the night shift mode ... I should probably do that even though it's not keeping me awake.



  • eldest boy used to get those. Always between 10 and 10.30. and only if he was really tired

    He would "wake up" and walk around, and talk about random shit to you, but in a hysterical way. You couldn't calm him down without "waking" him up. Then eventually he would go back to sleep, but only after he had yawned (that was the trigger for me to know he was all good).

    Some of the shit he would be saying was weird. He would be asking me to help him (or not hurt him) and i would be standing right in front of him. Took me ages to work out he wasn't awake.

    Next day he would have absolutely no recollection.



  • @R-L said in Parenting:

    contemplating whether to have a cup of tea

    You spelled gin wrong. It's also far more effective than tea, and has no caffeine, along with the anti malarial that comes with tonic. It's basically a health drink.

    So go and have two G and Ts and call me in the morning.



  • I thought you lot were weird but your kids...man



  • @mariner4life yep same with Miss 11.

    No recollection also, too much screen time was another trigger for her.

    There were a couple of times we fully expected her head to spin around, very scary times.

    Sometimes we could guide her back to bed and she would get in and stay until morning.

    Edit: typing my reply on phone @Snowy got it



  • There’s a reddit thread about weird and creep shit people’s kids have said. Will have to try and find it.
    Some of the stuff is just scary as fuck.







  • @Nepia said in Parenting:

    I'm with Mrs TA in that you shouldn't always trust the science, I had bad insomnia for years, but found watching old sitcoms has me to sleep pretty much within 15 minutes. It might be a bad way to fall alseep but it's better than being awake all night.

    Agree with that, however it's the other 8 hours a day she spends on the iPad that get me. First thing in the morning, and every spare minute thereafter.

    Better off putting one of those hours into physical activity.

    Also: bros before hoes.



  • @taniwharugby I'm talking about the need to take a full license driving test, and also the contracting out of the testing to the AA and the introduction of the plastic photo license used for ID to buy alcohol. That was 1999 according to Wikipedia.



  • @nzzp said in Parenting:

    @Snowy said in Parenting:

    My guy had a condescending attitude and a uniform, so I remember him as a cop.

    Jeez, can you imagine that job? Having to be driven around by 15-17yo's every day, with little to no control on the car, ability to survive, etc. My heart wouldn't take it, and I'd get fired for saying some honest truths to them. Fark that.

    That’s parenting material right there.... 😎



  • @Godder said in Parenting:

    @taniwharugby I'm talking about the need to take a full license driving test, and also the contracting out of the testing to the AA and the introduction of the plastic photo license used for ID to buy alcohol. That was 1999 according to Wikipedia.

    Friends of my parents have a daughter ( probably in her early 30s now ) who won't drive purely cos she has failed the practical so many times. Apparently they nitpick everything these days.



  • @MN5 said in Parenting:

    @Godder said in Parenting:

    @taniwharugby I'm talking about the need to take a full license driving test, and also the contracting out of the testing to the AA and the introduction of the plastic photo license used for ID to buy alcohol. That was 1999 according to Wikipedia.

    Friends of my parents have a daughter ( probably in her early 30s now ) who won't drive purely cos she has failed the practical so many times. Apparently they nitpick everything these days.

    I had an ex-staff member who's daughter failed a few times in her home area. Apparently they were more lenient in another area 20 minutes down the road, so she went and got it first time



  • @canefan said in Parenting:

    @MN5 said in Parenting:

    @Godder said in Parenting:

    @taniwharugby I'm talking about the need to take a full license driving test, and also the contracting out of the testing to the AA and the introduction of the plastic photo license used for ID to buy alcohol. That was 1999 according to Wikipedia.

    Friends of my parents have a daughter ( probably in her early 30s now ) who won't drive purely cos she has failed the practical so many times. Apparently they nitpick everything these days.

    I had an ex-staff member who's daughter failed a few times in her home area. Apparently they were more lenient in another area 20 minutes down the road, so she went and got it first time

    I think from what she said they have all the warmth and friendliness of an undertaker. Not exactly encouraging.....



  • @MN5 said in Parenting:

    @canefan said in Parenting:

    @MN5 said in Parenting:

    @Godder said in Parenting:

    @taniwharugby I'm talking about the need to take a full license driving test, and also the contracting out of the testing to the AA and the introduction of the plastic photo license used for ID to buy alcohol. That was 1999 according to Wikipedia.

    Friends of my parents have a daughter ( probably in her early 30s now ) who won't drive purely cos she has failed the practical so many times. Apparently they nitpick everything these days.

    I had an ex-staff member who's daughter failed a few times in her home area. Apparently they were more lenient in another area 20 minutes down the road, so she went and got it first time

    I think from what she said they have all the warmth and friendliness of an undertaker. Not exactly encouraging.....

    Probably need to ask around, find an area with higher pass rate



  • @canefan said in Parenting:

    @MN5 said in Parenting:

    @canefan said in Parenting:

    @MN5 said in Parenting:

    @Godder said in Parenting:

    @taniwharugby I'm talking about the need to take a full license driving test, and also the contracting out of the testing to the AA and the introduction of the plastic photo license used for ID to buy alcohol. That was 1999 according to Wikipedia.

    Friends of my parents have a daughter ( probably in her early 30s now ) who won't drive purely cos she has failed the practical so many times. Apparently they nitpick everything these days.

    I had an ex-staff member who's daughter failed a few times in her home area. Apparently they were more lenient in another area 20 minutes down the road, so she went and got it first time

    I think from what she said they have all the warmth and friendliness of an undertaker. Not exactly encouraging.....

    Probably need to ask around, find an area with higher pass rate

    or maybe it's a good thing she's not on the road 😉



  • @MN5 said in Parenting:

    @canefan said in Parenting:

    @MN5 said in Parenting:

    @canefan said in Parenting:

    @MN5 said in Parenting:

    @Godder said in Parenting:

    @taniwharugby I'm talking about the need to take a full license driving test, and also the contracting out of the testing to the AA and the introduction of the plastic photo license used for ID to buy alcohol. That was 1999 according to Wikipedia.

    Friends of my parents have a daughter ( probably in her early 30s now ) who won't drive purely cos she has failed the practical so many times. Apparently they nitpick everything these days.

    I had an ex-staff member who's daughter failed a few times in her home area. Apparently they were more lenient in another area 20 minutes down the road, so she went and got it first time

    I think from what she said they have all the warmth and friendliness of an undertaker. Not exactly encouraging.....

    Probably need to ask around, find an area with higher pass rate

    or maybe it's a good thing she's not on the road 😉

    It has always surprised me how hard the test is now, considering how many shitty drivers are out there.



  • @MN5 said in Parenting:

    @Godder said in Parenting:

    @taniwharugby I'm talking about the need to take a full license driving test, and also the contracting out of the testing to the AA and the introduction of the plastic photo license used for ID to buy alcohol. That was 1999 according to Wikipedia.

    Friends of my parents have a daughter ( probably in her early 30s now ) who won't drive purely cos she has failed the practical so many times. Apparently they nitpick everything these days.

    I'm sure that's the story she tells. The rest of us are better off not having the likes of her handed licences.

    Driving is a skill and with the amount of safety, both passive and active, engineered into vehicles these days, a diminishing one.



  • @MN5 said in Parenting:

    I think from what she said they have all the warmth and friendliness of an undertaker. Not exactly encouraging.....

    The guy that did my motorbike licence was bloody hilarious. Cheesy cop moustache, looked like an extra from "Chips" was supposed to follow me around on his cop bike and then pass or fail me, but I lost him after a few minutes. Rode around on my own for while then went back to the cop shop. He just started laughing and handed me the "pass" slip.



  • @antipodean said in Parenting:

    @MN5 said in Parenting:

    @Godder said in Parenting:

    @taniwharugby I'm talking about the need to take a full license driving test, and also the contracting out of the testing to the AA and the introduction of the plastic photo license used for ID to buy alcohol. That was 1999 according to Wikipedia.

    Friends of my parents have a daughter ( probably in her early 30s now ) who won't drive purely cos she has failed the practical so many times. Apparently they nitpick everything these days.

    I'm sure that's the story she tells. The rest of us are better off not having the likes of her handed licences.

    Driving is a skill and with the amount of safety, both passive and active, engineered into vehicles these days, a diminishing one.

    By the sounds of it some of you older buggers need to be re-tested



  • By the sounds of it some of you older buggers need to be re-tested

    Fuck that, we're the ones with the skills. Some young punk testing me in a vehicle with traction control, launch systems, ABS, automatic parking. You don't even drive, the bloody car does it.

    I will teach you to drive old school it you like?

    That will involve a 1970's car. Any one of the shit heaps will do. They were all manual, gutless, wouldn't go around corners (as @Bones said, we had to straighten them out), brakes didn't work, just sort of had a slowing down affect before the crash.

    There will be a lot of shouting, which I know you kids don't like. When do we start?

    You really shouldn't have told me that you were a millennial. Bloody kids these days, mutter, mutter...



  • My first car was a 1982 Daihatsu Charade, bought in around 2001 after getting my restricted. Wrote it off after crashing on a sharp corner on a Frosty Foggy morning the day after Queen's Birthday.

    Got my Learners Licence after second test (failed verbal) Got my restricted on third test, My main problem was nerves. I sat on my restricted for over ten years. I did a one day course seven years ago and passed for my full licence test first time.



  • @mikedogz hah I sat on my restricted for about 4 or 5 years I think after getting it at 17.

    Failed for my first go at it - jumped the kerb on the corner right at the start outside Hutt cop shop.

    Full I had to do a test I'd waited so long but booked it for like 7am on a Monday in Welly city. Almost zero traffic around it was classic.



  • @Snowy motorbikes, cars, planes.... Boats? Is there anything you can't control!



  • @R-L said in Parenting:

    @Snowy motorbikes, cars, planes.... Boats? Is there anything you can't control!

    The urges.



  • @JC said in Parenting:

    @R-L said in Parenting:

    @Snowy motorbikes, cars, planes.... Boats? Is there anything you can't control!

    The urges.

    alt text



  • @canefan said in Parenting:

    @JC said in Parenting:

    @R-L said in Parenting:

    @Snowy motorbikes, cars, planes.... Boats? Is there anything you can't control!

    The urges.

    alt text

    Put the fucken lotion in the basket indeed......



  • @R-L said in Parenting:

    @Snowy motorbikes, cars, planes.... Boats? Is there anything you can't control!

    Yes I have a boat. You can add a digger and a tractor to the list too but I have never said I was good at any of them.
    Apart from the urges so kindly mentioned by @JC I have trouble controlling my wife, and the cat.



  • @Snowy said in Parenting:

    @R-L said in Parenting:

    @Snowy motorbikes, cars, planes.... Boats? Is there anything you can't control!

    Yes I have a boat. You can add a digger and a tractor to the list too but I have never said I was good at any of them.
    Apart from the urges so kindly mentioned by @JC I have trouble controlling my wife, and the cat.

    Careful people will start to think you and I are the same person.



  • @Virgil said in Parenting:

    @Snowy said in Parenting:

    @R-L said in Parenting:

    @Snowy motorbikes, cars, planes.... Boats? Is there anything you can't control!

    Yes I have a boat. You can add a digger and a tractor to the list too but I have never said I was good at any of them.
    Apart from the urges so kindly mentioned by @JC I have trouble controlling my wife, and the cat.

    Careful people will start to think you and I are the same person.

    I suspect we aren't the only ones who can't control their pussies.



  • @Snowy said in Parenting:

    @Virgil said in Parenting:

    @Snowy said in Parenting:

    @R-L said in Parenting:

    @Snowy motorbikes, cars, planes.... Boats? Is there anything you can't control!

    Yes I have a boat. You can add a digger and a tractor to the list too but I have never said I was good at any of them.
    Apart from the urges so kindly mentioned by @JC I have trouble controlling my wife, and the cat.

    Careful people will start to think you and I are the same person.

    I suspect we aren't the only ones who can't control their pussies.

    They only give you the illusion of control. And sometimes not even that!


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