@gt12 said in Veitch is done:

Firstly, Veitch is a FW.

But responding to the current discussion, as someone who has had an abusive partner, I can only say that I had to constantly remember not to return fire because I knew I’d get dragged off (and kicked out of the country).

Ridiculously, it took me quite some time to realize that the behavior was a pattern and that it wouldn’t change.

Luckily, I also knew that my actions reflected my choices. For that reason, regardless of the circumstances, she would have to be armed for me to fire away, and for that I can’t really see clear to give Veitch any room here.

I too had an abusive partner years ago. I was a young fella a long way from home and I had no idea how to cope. I was never physically hurt, but fuck me the emotional shit was out of this world. This girl made me the angriest I have ever been in my life. She knew the buttons to push and she wouldn't let go. I would often cop it for something as trivial as walking into a room with a smile on my face. I would try to walk away from her but she would follow and keep going at me. I found out during that relationship that I would never hit a woman because if I was capable of it I surely have belted her. The relationship ended for other unrelated reasons, but I still wonder what would have happened if we stayed together longer.

She told me her last partner threatened and attacked her with a knife and I started to understand why as our relationship progressed. She did me a favour in the long run, my Crazy Lady Radar is finely tuned. Trust me, it's all in their eyes and their hair if you know what to look for.

My experience is so common. Every day I go to DVs where the female says one thing and the male says another thing, or doesn't say anything at all. I have lost count of the times I have been told by the male that he and she had been arguing and she would not let it go. He has tried walking away but she has followed him and said something that made him snap. "You'll never get to see the kids!" is common. He punches a hole in the wall, or gives her a push, and suddenly we turn up and we are dragging him away.

These things build, the frustrations grow and tolerance levels drop over time. A bit like Chinese water torture I suppose. One drop seems trivial but when you are exposed to a drop over and over again sooner or later you are going to lose it.

In Queensland the law is set up to view the female as the victim. As first response officers we are trained to determine who is 'most in need of protection'. And guess who is usually deemed as 'most in need of protection'? Yep, the female. All through our training the aggrieved (victim) is the female and the respondent (abuser) is the male. As males in these training sessions we speak up but we are talked down by the desk bound females running the course. On the plus side, female colleagues are starting to speak up as well, but they too are talked down by the facilitators.

Every DV we go to we are obliged to record the details on the computer system and we have to designate an aggrieved and a respondent. Most of the time we have conflicting versions. Earlier I said we are trained to view things as who is 'most in need of protection'. Parity disparity in terms of strength is most often used as a way of determining 'most in need of protection', so given the male is almost always stronger than the female the male is recorded as the respondent.

Policy makers, law makers and other stake holders use police statistics to further the agenda they are pushing. If the stats are not accurately recording what is actually happening between couples how can the policies and laws be effective?

We have many support agencies we can refer females of DV to. Support agencies for men? Yes there are one or two. But they are set up first and foremost to deal with males as the respondent, to help the male deal with his anger issues and violence. There is bugger all help out there for male victims. If you are a male, and you are getting abused, you are all but on your own.

I can’t help but wonder how many male suicides, how many family tragedies where the male kills himself and the kids, and how many murders of wives/partners are the result of DV where the female has been a psychological abuser and the male had nowhere to go for help, nowhere to go where he would be listened to and taken seriously.

I said in an earlier post that I could go on. I guess I just did and there is plenty more that I could ramble on about. This subject is close to my heart. I have been on the receiving end of DV and I have investigated DV. I am frustrated as hell because as a society we are getting it wrong, and while we are getting it wrong people are suffering.

It sucks that I feel I have to say this last bit, but…What I wrote above is not meant to be a reference to the Veitch case.

@jegga said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:

Ffs stuff

https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/109924118/the-faces-of-fatal-police-chases-teens-make-up-half-of-crash-victims

For most of my fifteen years as a first response copper in Qld I have been navigating a restrictive pursuit policy. Gradually over the years more and more restrictions have been placed on police, leading to what we effectively have now – a no pursuit policy. This is not strictly true, police are allowed to pursue if there is a proven imminent threat to life (not allowed to use officer instinct) and the risks of not pursuing outweigh the risks of pursuing. Without having the policy in front of me to quote, the way it is written there are very few scenarios that would allow police to pursue in accordance with the pursuit policy. Instructions from the police union are very clear – do not pursue because if it goes wrong the officers involved risk having the book thrown at them, criminally and civilly.

So how did Qld get to this point? We followed the same path NZ seems to be going along. There would be pursuits where the fleeing motorist crashed and died and the media would report them. There would be sounds bites from a member of the public or a family member saying if police hadn’t pursued little Johnny would still be alive. Channel Nine and the Courier Mail were two media outlets that couldn’t resist being vocal in their opposition towards pursuits. As more people died during pursuits the State Coroner started pointing the finger at police. It all came to a head a few years ago when a school girl (thirteen I think) was struck and killed by a fleeing driver as she walked home from school.

Early in my career (when we still pursued) I experienced the wrath of an old lady following a pursuit. My partner and I had been patrolling through a petrol station when a vehicle caught our eye. It was being driven by a male and there was a female in the passenger seat. We attempted to intercept the vehicle but the driver fled. We pursued for about fifteen minutes (that is actually a long time for a pursuit) before the vehicle lost control and wrecked it’s tyres on a gutter. The driver decamped on foot and we eventually ran him down. Upon walking him back to our police vehicle we were set upon by an angry older female. While she was spraying vitriol at us I saw a younger female standing behind her holding a baby. Then it dawned on me. The old lady was the grandmother of the baby, the younger female was the female who had been the passenger in the fleeing vehicle and the baby belonged to the female passenger and the male driver. The baby had been in the vehicle during the pursuit. The old lady was giving it to us, no holds barred. “How dare you chase a car while there was a baby in it” or words to that effect. I recall the pure hatred in her eyes and the spittle coming from her mouth as she unleashed on us. In her mind we had put her baby grandchild at risk by pursuing her son in-law and daughter. There were two people who knew there was a baby present during that pursuit and those two people were not in the pursuing police car. If we had a known there was a baby in the car that day we would not have pursued, but there was no way in hell we were going to convince the grandmother of this. And it was all because the driver had a suspended licence.

Nowadays we have effectively handed over the streets. Gangs of youths go on their crime sprees in stolen vehicles and we are virtually powerless to stop them. They drive around like fluffybunnies. It seems like nary a shift goes by without an instance of a vehicle failing to pull over for police. Stolen vehicles are seen roaming the streets every night, but there are restrictions placed on us that can stop us even attempting to intercept those stolen vehicles. It has come to a point where I (and numerous over officers I have spoken to) think twice about patrolling for a stolen vehicle that has been reported to us for fear of things going wrong, our every move scrutinised and us being hung out to dry. More often than not, we keep well away from the area the stolen car is in.

I haven’t seen any stats, but anecdotally it seems like instances of vehicles being driven directly at police have increased since the restrictive pursuit policy. The grubs know that if they are being closed in on by police all they have to do is get out of the immediate area and they will be home and dry. They will do anything to get away.

People say why don’t police arrest the driver later? It’s not that easy. A lot of the cars are stolen and even if you recognise the driver you still have to convince a magistrate. And that is very hard when all you had was a fleeting glimpse as the car sped away. If the cars aren’t reported stolen at the time of an evade, you can bet your arse they will be reported shortly afterwards. Old matey drives off from police and then shits himself thinking police got his number plate. No worries, all old matey needs to do is dump the car somewhere and report his car stolen. Tell police he must have left his front door unlocked and some grub came in and got the car keys and stole the car. It’s pretty bloody hard to prove otherwise.

It has been many years since somebody has been killed during a police pursuit in Queensland. I am conflicted as to whether police should be pursuing with the way society is today. I make it quite clear to younger officers, don’t fucking pursue. It is not worth your job, your house, and your freedom. On the one hand the roads have turned into a free passage for the grubs and it fucking bugs me. I could provide examples of grubs that have been in police sights, have been allowed to get away because of the pursuit policy and have subsequently caused injury or worse to innocent people. On the other hand, no innocent parties have been killed during pursuits. I couldn’t give a shit if the fleeing grubs kill themselves, but I care about the innocent people who are hit by these grubs. Innocent people acceptable collateral damage? What if that person is one of your loved ones? Still acceptable?

And there is one last powerful motivating factor for police departments around the world to head towards a restrictive pursuit policy. They are scared of getting sued when things go wrong.

@NTA said in Happiness Scale:

@Crazy-Horse I'm absolutely fine if she wants to bring her hot divorced friend in to spice things up.

He would probably love to join you and your wife too. Go for it!

@barbarian said in Aussie Cricket:

What a great series.

I don't know about the rest of you, but I am tempted to say this is the best series since 2005.

I can feel her pain. I get described as the bald guy all the time. It hurts because I just want to be treated like everyone else. Bald guys have feelings too. To make me feel better I take it out on red heads, especially the balding ginger at work. Loser.

Finlay is big trouble I think. Being a ginger this is the opportunity they would have been waiting for to throw the book at him.

Stuff playing the Pacific Islands, Japan, Argentina and whatever is left of Australia every year.

If the Saffas leave I can't see it being good for NZ.

Weird people are finding a way to down play Robertson's decision to stay in NZ when at the same time we are lamenting the knowledge we are losing overseas. I am bloody stoked he's staying on longer, he seems to be a damn good coach and fucked if I want the likes of England getting their mits on him.

Haven't seen the game but this thread was classic fern. Christie went from something like "'It's great we finally have a quick passing 9 and why can't Rangi see this and start Christie' to 'Useless Ginga' to 'Nock should be starting and the coaches should be sacked if they don't see it'. We also got the usual referee and commentary bashing comments, a continuation of the new, but highly entertaining, 'fucking referrals have to go' posts, and there was at least one random Crusader dig.

We really are a bunch of grumpy old men

It's pretty bloody difficult policing this shit because it is very much a 'damned if you do and damned of you don't' type scenario - a bit like enforcing school parking restrictions at drop off and pick up.

We are getting jobs where people are dobbing in people for sitting in parks, sitting out the front of their houses talking to neighbours, swimming at the local swimming hole, having too many cars parked outside their address, and we are copping people whinging that we aren't doing enough.

Then, when we attempt to enforce the restrictions we are abused for acting like a police state and Nazis.

Don't ring your cop shop for advice about what you can and can't do. We know just as much as the rest of you and you may end up with a cop who guesses the answer to your question and gives you the wrong advice. Also, I don't want to hear you babble on about why you think you should be allowed to tow your boat up to the Sunshine Coast and park it at your holiday home because my coffee is getting cold and I hate cold coffee. Look up the answer yourself.

@snowy said in Electric Vehicles:

@nta said in Electric Vehicles:

@snowy additionally, nobody talks fuel efficiency of ICEV towing. The range of a petrol or diesel vehicle is drastically affected by load in the same way as EV.

For sure. If I tow my digger around on the trailer fuel consumption goes up considerably behind the diesel hilux. If I tow the same trailer over a longer distance with the V8 car it isn't so noticeable.

Range anxiety isn't a thing when people can just pull over and fill up though.
E.G. If I was to tow my boat down to the bach with an EV I think that I would need 3 half hour stops to recharge and add 30% to the time traveling. So it is an issue depending on what you are doing.

A digger, a V8, a boat and a batch. Can I be your friend?

@gunner said in NRL 2021:

Penrith 30-0 up at halftime against the Titans.

To rub salt into the Titans wounds, they had a man sent off 2 minutes before half time.

It’s unreal seeing high shots actually being dealt with in the NRL, how long will it last? Until a star player does it perhaps?

Hard to imagine Origin being reffed the same way

I hope these fuckers don't get the AB games. My head will explode if the feed is as bad.

@hydro11 yeah I suspected that was the case. Too early to be writing the Chiefs off I reckon.

What's this talk about Chiefs not making the final because they didn't get a bonus point? Am I missing something or are Chief fans being negative Nellie's again?

@bones wasn't my house. It was a hotel.

@mn5 thanks. I have never watched Star Trek so didn't know who that was.

Two days ago I walked smack bang into a glass door. Didn't know it was there until I head butted the thing at full tilt. The look on Mrs Crazy"s face was priceless.

Today I discovered I have quite the wee collection of grey chest hairs sprouting. They match my ear hairs.

Surely things can only get better from here right?

@voodoo said in Nomination - Ferner most like to have a beer with:

Shameless attempts to win the Thread Diversion fernie at play here

I was just having a giggle wondering how the hell a thread about having beers with people morphs into talking about tennis courts.

Edit: and now we have moved on to the intelligence service and rabies.

@r-l I know