Lockdown/Covid Check In
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@R-L But it conjures up such a lucid picture.
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@Catogrande said in Lockdown Check In:
@R-L But it conjures up such a lucid picture.
Reminds me of a skit from some British comedy, can’t remember what show. A guy detective is at a crime scene and they have that black light looking for bodily fluids on the victim. His partner (female) arrives late Apologetic that something came up. He looks up at her with the black light and all around her mouth and face is glowing with white stains...
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So resurrecting this thread.
How is everyone doing?
Too many individual stories to call out, but I hope people are finding a way through this mess.
For me, the clusterfuck continues. I'm in the deep south, spending some time on the slopes which is nice, but I'm still a long way from home and where we'd rather be.
By way of update, the wife is about to head back to Straya as she has a job to start, so I'll be solo Dad here in NZ for the next little while.
The old lady is doing pretty well, which is great, but also surprising, and a pretty unexpected turn of events.
So I'm now balancing life as a solo dad here in NZ trying to entertain 3 kids for the next however long, who have no sport, school, friends, activities etc.
I'm half tempted to relocate back to Palmie, but that's kind of shit for everyone. But the longer I stay here in the south, the closer I am to getting that call to rush home and I guess maybe missing that windrow.
Has anyone been through this with parents before? How bad does the guilt manifest?
And if mum carries on doing well, at what point do I just go back to Australia and take the risk on hotel quarantine days (and potentially missing her passing) ? At the end of the day I have a family to support, despite being an only child here.
The lack of a travel bubble is fucking killing me!!!
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@voodoo Bloody tough mate. You never know when its her time, at some time you have to live your own life. Its easy to say but at some point you may need to get on with things, make sure you say and do everything you need to do just in case you don't make it back in time
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Poor bugger.
Hang tough, shout out to your bros when you need support
I was thinking today how, travel excluded, my life has returned to normal. Work. Kids sport. No time.
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@voodoo Tough situation to be in mate and tough choices to be making. I doubt there is a right or wrong, only circumstances will decide that in hindsight. Whatever your decision as long as you know you made it for the right reasons then that is as much as anyone can do.
Good luck with it all.
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@voodoo dude, that is rough as. Remember that you're grappling with this during mental times, so everything is harder. Doesn't real help with the decisions-making but don't beat yourself up bro.
Any other options in the NI so you'd be closer to palmy? But i can totally see why you'd prefer to stay south!
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@voodoo Personally - spend as much time with your Mum as you can. Mine dropped dead on the kitchen floor a few years ago. I missed her last breath but saw the whole trying to revive her, etc. Not fun.
You have the rest of your life and it seems that hers wills be shorter. Enjoy it with her.
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@Snowy said in Lockdown Check In:
@voodoo Personally - spend as much time with your Mum as you can. Mine dropped dead on the kitchen floor a few years ago. I missed her last breath but saw the whole trying to revive her, etc. Not fun.
You have the rest of your life and it seems that hers wills be shorter. Enjoy it with her.
Well said. Its not whether you are there at that end moment, or if you can get back for the funeral, its the time and the things you share while she's here that matters
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Cheers fellas (or ladies). I'm not so torn by the next month, I tbi k we will spend a couple more weeks here then head to Palmy. It's the decision in Sep/Oct that is so much harder. Return to Oz, accept the quarantine at both ends and the idea that the goodbye with Mum might be the last - just seems a weird concept! Pre-Covid even when you're on the other side of the world you're only 40hrs away max if you get the call. How the world has changed.
But I can't keep the kids here treading water forever, they need to get on with their lives at some point. As do I, I guess.
Life would be easier without parents or kids - or Covid!
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@voodoo said in Lockdown Check In:
@Snowy how's your Dad mate?
Shitty couple of weeks for him. Had half his ear cut off (yes I make Van Gogh jokes), but upside is it looks like they got all of the cancer. Then he had to have his eyes injected again to stop the macular degeneration. Pretty awful experience every time (needles in eyeballs). Upside, it does seem to work and he isn't completely blind. Hearing is deteriorating still but, upside, new hearing aids, bluetooth to TV makes it better.
Getting old fucking sucks.
I'm most worried about his mental state now. He is prone to depression and the "I'm just sitting around waiting to die" comments aren't great. Upside, I take the dog down to see him every couple of days and its a fucking miracle what happens to his demeanour. They completely adore each other.
Overall, he is hanging in there but we are still waiting on biopsy / test results to be sure about the cancer.
@voodoo said in Lockdown Check In:
the idea that the goodbye with Mum might be the last - just seems a weird concept
Yeah that is rough, but at least you will get to do so if that is how it turns out. Kia Kaha.
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@voodoo said in Lockdown Check In:
@Snowy sounds rough mate, all the best.
Cheers for the advice (@canefan too). That's a good way to look at it, hadn't really thought of it that way.
No worries mate. I was really close to my Grandma, used to spend lots of time with her, do errands, everything. I went on overseas holiday with a mate after graduation and a few days into the trip she passed away. The old man told me to stay on, said I had been a great grandson and there was no need to come back, I had done everything already