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@kiwiwomble said in Happiness Scale:
@rancid-schnitzel said in Happiness Scale:
@kiwiwomble said in Happiness Scale:
...so...my midlife crisis has ended with a blown mcl and acl...And a suspiciously understanding wife
Ah man. Was just reading through and going to say how awesome it all was. This is why I “retired” in my 20s. Love rugby to bits but the injuries make it hard to go back to. Hope you have a speedy recovery 👊
Might look at coming back as a coach
How are you at dealing with children? 🤣
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@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@kiwiwomble said in Happiness Scale:
@rancid-schnitzel said in Happiness Scale:
@kiwiwomble said in Happiness Scale:
...so...my midlife crisis has ended with a blown mcl and acl...And a suspiciously understanding wife
Ah man. Was just reading through and going to say how awesome it all was. This is why I “retired” in my 20s. Love rugby to bits but the injuries make it hard to go back to. Hope you have a speedy recovery 👊
Might look at coming back as a coach
How are you at dealing with children? 🤣
I coach CF jnr's football team. Good excuse to run around after them on the pitch for a bit
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Further update for anyone interested
MRI has confirmed ruptured ACL and high grade tears or MCL and LCL...so I basically have 1/4 ligaments left In my knee, full leg brace until surgery because it’s so unstable
In a weird twist I have been strong armed into managing the 2nds, this is going to be interesting!
Anyone in Melbourne feel like a game of code let me know
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@kiwiwomble fucked.
But also: smack some heads with that clipboard!
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@kiwiwomble said in Happiness Scale:
Further update for anyone interested
MRI has confirmed ruptured ACL and high grade tears or MCL and LCL...so I basically have 1/4 ligaments left In my knee, full leg brace until surgery because it’s so unstable
In a weird twist I have been strong armed into managing the 2nds, this is going to be interesting!
Anyone in Melbourne feel like a game of code let me know
You're probably not the best example for getting back into rugby again....
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@kiwiwomble said in Happiness Scale:
Further update for anyone interested
MRI has confirmed ruptured ACL and high grade tears or MCL and LCL...so I basically have 1/4 ligaments left In my knee, full leg brace until surgery because it’s so unstable
In a weird twist I have been strong armed into managing the 2nds, this is going to be interesting!
Anyone in Melbourne feel like a game of code let me know
Dude, I had a heart attack about a year after giving up rugby ...
... lesson: keep playing
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@canefan said in Happiness Scale:
@kiwiwomble said in Happiness Scale:
Further update for anyone interested
MRI has confirmed ruptured ACL and high grade tears or MCL and LCL...so I basically have 1/4 ligaments left In my knee, full leg brace until surgery because it’s so unstable
In a weird twist I have been strong armed into managing the 2nds, this is going to be interesting!
Anyone in Melbourne feel like a game of code let me know
You're probably not the best example for getting back into rugby again....
But a great example of why you should bay you subs and get the associated insurance!
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@kiwiwomble said in Happiness Scale:
Further update for anyone interested
MRI has confirmed ruptured ACL and high grade tears or MCL and LCL...so I basically have 1/4 ligaments left In my knee, full leg brace until surgery because it’s so unstable
In a weird twist I have been strong armed into managing the 2nds, this is going to be interesting!
Anyone in Melbourne feel like a game of code let me know
Good on you for sticking with supporting the club!
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@canefan said in Happiness Scale:
@kiwiwomble said in Happiness Scale:
Further update for anyone interested
MRI has confirmed ruptured ACL and high grade tears or MCL and LCL...so I basically have 1/4 ligaments left In my knee, full leg brace until surgery because it’s so unstable
In a weird twist I have been strong armed into managing the 2nds, this is going to be interesting!
Anyone in Melbourne feel like a game of code let me know
You're probably not the best example for getting back into rugby again....
Hopefully not a sign of things to come...
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Bright, and crisp, relatively warm weather in Cornwall. Took the Honda 250 out for a quick shakedown before its MoT next week. Coming into a warm house after a ride in crisp weather was great.
Happiness Quotient: 8/10
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@victor-meldrew sensational.
Got the day off today, water on for brewing 50L of pilsner. Lunch out, then pub tonight and the usual weekend fun tomorrow culminating in live rugby.
Good times. Winning the AC was surprisingly enjoyable
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@nzzp said in Happiness Scale:
water on for brewing 50L of pilsner
I've got a Real Ale kit I need to brew soon - should be ready for early summer drinking
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@victor-meldrew said in Happiness Scale:
@nzzp said in Happiness Scale:
water on for brewing 50L of pilsner
I've got a Real Ale kit I need to brew soon - should be ready for early summer drinking
Don't be scared of doing 'all grain' brewing. I've got a mate into it with 10L batches, done on teh stovetop and oven. Very easy to do, and all grain vs kits is like jar curry vs fresh curry. Still not bad, but just not the same punch of flavour.
Edit: and obviously the micro brews have no massive gear or space requirements
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@nzzp Some years back and this coincided with me having no money, I did a bit of home brewing. Tried some kits which were shit (likely go have improved significantly since), but then got a book entitled “Brewing beers like those you buy”. Hands down this was a fucking bible. Great recipes and explicit instructions. Most importantly though was introducing one to a new terminology.
The first time I sparged my wort, I was so happy.
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@catogrande said in Happiness Scale:
@nzzp Some years back and this coincided with me having no money, I did a bit of home brewing. Tried some kits which were shit (likely go have improved significantly since), but then got a book entitled “Brewing beers like those you buy”. Hands down this was a fucking bible. Great recipes and explicit instructions. Most importantly though was introducing one to a new terminology.
The first time I sparged my wort, I was so happy.
I'm married so I do that all the time.
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Back on the serious therapy side of things: Catharsis time!
Fuck, I need to get a holiday in. While I love working from home, and have vocally stated my preference to go back to the office rarely, I realise that I'm slowly getting more and more disengaged with life in general. Rugby season should help with that, but I'll then be operating at two speeds, which is also producing a bit of anxiety in itself.
I've also thought about what happens if I wanted a new job - can I keep these arrangements in some fashion? Because the flexibility is working for me, and I have no aspirations to become Mr Career Man, so maybe I'm just better off having this job that is good enough. Work to live and all that.
I'm also on the flat part of the curve in this work, where a year ago I was learning Google Cloud Platform and building things from scratch. Now I have to get it into production and make it supportable, which is boring as bat shit.
Throw in the fact that we've brought in a team to help, and they're all enthusiastic and stuff, but I keep having to re-state proper ways of doing this, given I've been doing data work since before some of them started school. I then question myself as to whether I'm just a grumpy old man The way they're proposing to do things is nice and fast and Agile and all that, but I've read this book before, and know it isn't going to work over the longer term when I'm the one left holding the can.
Physical relationship with the wife has slowed to a crawl since new year, as she takes over her new position with more managerial responsibility; not that she doesn't push that shit to the limit with working after hours and on weekends. "Oh but this needs to be delivered by X" says she, failing to look ahead and see the lineup of stuff that will always need delivering by X. Or Y. Or Z.
I feel like there is very little time left for me. I don't bother bringing it up; her fallback is to tie everything back to her Mum's dementia and ongoing existence - it isn't much of a life - and really that situation hasn't significantly changed in over a year now, for any of us. But I feel like the wife isn't looking for meaningful ways of dealing with this, and in that she's just like her Mum: pretend like we're just tough women who can deal with anything, when really they're a fucking mess.
I've also noticed us getting a bit snippy with each other; her snippiness is probably in response to mine, which is driven by the fact I do not feel loved/wanted/appreciated. I do my best to keep a lid on that.
At least I've got the kids.
Have started teaching the boy to drive now he's on his learner's permit. Occasionally (very) stressful but it's a life skill, and he can pick me up from the pub in a year or so when I don't need to supervise. His guitar work continues to impress me, as he picked up a classic guitar recently and is working hard on Spanish styles and learning themes from his favourite anime. He's gotten over some of the bullshit he was feeling last year, and maturing into his own person, which is good to see. Also being able to pick his own subjects to study for his HSC has given him an enthusiasm for schoolwork.
The Daughter Unit is my rock as far as support networks go, despite the recent acquisition of a boyfriend (they're both 13). More than ever, I am appreciating the frank and honest discussions we have about life in general, and specific issues when they arise. She's smart, funny, and a little bit weird, but it is her maturity that gets to me sometimes; she got dressed for an outing recently, and I thought she should easily be mistaken for someone several years older.
The skinny little bastard who managed to grab her eye is punching waaaaay outside his narrow-arsed weight division.
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