Parenting
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@No-Quarter I hear ya brother. Most parent I know want their kid to be confident, to become independent, to be able to take on things without fear.
Two of my girls would happily mix it up playing basketball, Aussie rules with the boys, even if it meant getting knocked about or knocking a few about. But my other daughter wouldn’t even think it. One of my son’s is almost too fearless, the other is cautious and overthinks stuff.There are ways to tap into whatever their mindset might be. The little things like riding bikes outside has done wonders for confidence. In fact a lot of outside activities build that confidence, resilience and independence. Tech has its place but outside is where it’s at for kids to learn lessons!
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Always amazes me how different siblings can be. You raise your kids exactly the same but they can be so different.
We have 2 girls only 22 months apart in age ( we thought the 2nd would take much longer to come along) but they are chalk and cheese. Nothing alike don’t even look the same.. hold on...... -
@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
@ACT-Crusader having 5 kids goes a long way to explaining his repetitive ongoing team selection Dad joke. The dude must be a fucking master at driving his kids insane with the same jokes over and over.
I might not get 5 laughs every time I tell my dad jokes at home but at least I get 5 upvotes for my AB selections.
Shout out to @Chris-B @Canerbry @shark @Chris @Stargazer
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5?????
Holy shit man, you're a lunatic.
Came here to post this. I had cold sweats even thinking about it!
Haha. Don’t worry we get the ‘look’ when we all go out together.
In all seriousness though, I feel very fortunate to be able to have children. Many whanau and friends who have tried and haven’t been able to have kids it has brought heartache and disappointment. My wife and I are pretty chill about things when it comes to the kids. We’re definitely not those ones where every conversation is brought back to what our little Johnny or Jane are doing or always offering advice just because we have more kids than so and so.
Like someone posted earlier, we are all learning along the way. There are no “experts” in my view because no two experiences are the same because no two kids or parents are the same. All we can do is share our experiences. I’ve learned some stuff from this thread.
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@ACT-Crusader My first thought when I saw you had 5 kids was what car do you drive ....
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Cracking thread team. Amazing how many things I read on this I find myself nodding along to ... Especially around the confidence of kids.
My son wouldn't even put his head under water until he was about 5. Infuriating when you are shelling out thousands in swimming lessons / pool access etc. OF course, he's now 8 and can swim like a fish (although not in the Rancid' son category), so we really had nothing to worry about.
He got some new trainers today. The sheer joy on his face about this new trainers brought me back to being a kid again. Which ultimately is I think, what most of the parenting joys are about.
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The helicopter parenting thing and what it does to a kids self confidence is pretty important I’d say. Mrs Cato and I have very different ideas around how you look after and discipline kids. She is of Mediterranean extraction and her (and her mum and sisters) are like caricature Italian mommas. (Though not Italian themselves ). Cue lots of screaming and shouting followed immediately by guilt laden gifts of sweets etc. Mixed messages is not in it. With Ms Cato No1 she mollycoddled her, feeding her fears and phobias to the extent that she now has mild but continuous hypochondria. As I saw this happening and being powerless to stop it, the rot having been set in, I had to do my best to manage it and then ensure the same thing did not happen with Ms Cato No2. We did suffer some dreadful times with No1, including bad boyfriend choices, drugs and depression, but you find a way of getting through it intact.
However despite all that we now have two really good young adults that we are both proud of and that are decent human beings. One has branched out, one still lives at home. Guess which one.
My message would be that it is the values you instil in your kids that will be the most formative thing you can do for them. Everything else is just part of the journey.
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@ACT-Crusader aren’t the dad jokes why you become a dad
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@ACT-Crusader aren’t the dad jokes why you become a dad
I make mine worse for them by saying the joke
And then saying out loud "hashtag dad joke"
And then making finger guns at them
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@mariner4life 😂 that’s awesome I say hashtag in front of things the just get filthy looks from Mrs Mikey....but it’s soo worth it
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@MajorRage said in Parenting:
@ACT-Crusader My first thought when I saw you had 5 kids was what car do you drive ....
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@ACT-Crusader I knew you were a sleeper Canes supporter! Go the Yellow bus!!
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@ACT-Crusader liar. You drive a Bongo van
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If only I had...
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@ACT-Crusader just missing some pointy white hoods bro.
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@ACT-Crusader said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
@ACT-Crusader having 5 kids goes a long way to explaining his repetitive ongoing team selection Dad joke. The dude must be a fucking master at driving his kids insane with the same jokes over and over.
I might not get 5 laughs every time I tell my dad jokes at home but at least I get 5 upvotes for my AB selections.
Shout out to @Chris-B @Canerbry @shark @Chris @Stargazer
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Tagging people and blatantly fishing for upvotes.
This is a new fern low