Parenting
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@aucklandwarlord very tempting cut it short then chill at home later this week. But also want to see my lil sis before she starts walking the length of nz. That'll keep her busy for 6 months or so lol.
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We took our kids to the UK when they were 3 and 6...they were both awesome, flights and on holiday, but 2 weeks in when we all got a spew bug in a hotel and miss 3 projectile vomited all over a restaurant floor narrowly missing a waitress...that wasn't so much fun.
@booboo yeah that is the battle I'm having, I miss the time TR Jnr and I used to hang, kick a ball, movies, swimming, fishing, rugby etc
Now it's just his mates, him shouting at his PS4 or staring at his phone...miss 13 grew up too quick...girls can be horrid creatures.
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Oh, also at the driving stage now...any time we go out together he wants to drive (Mrs TR not keen...) so just him and I or sister in the back, sworn to silence.
He offered to fill up the other day too, came out rather upset at the cost of tank of gas...haha.
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@taniwharugby said in Parenting:
Oh, also at the driving stage now...any time we go out together he wants to drive (Mrs TR not keen...) so just him and I or sister in the back, sworn to silence.
He offered to fill up the other day too, came out rather upset at the cost of tank of gas...haha.
Subsonic Undies 1 of 4 has his full final test on Friday - fingers crossed
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@machpants gold! Lol got yourself a 4-pack aye! 👍
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@paekakboyz said in Parenting:
@machpants gold! Lol got yourself a 4-pack aye! 👍
All 17, 16, 13, 12 (in 2 days)
Really funny that all the way through my service, there is always jokes about the male sperm being killed by all the radar/radio you're exposed to!
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@taniwharugby said in Parenting:
Oh, also at the driving stage now...any time we go out together he wants to drive (Mrs TR not keen...) so just him and I or sister in the back, sworn to silence.
He offered to fill up the other day too, came out rather upset at the cost of tank of gas...haha.
Mrs TA does not want a bar of the boy driving, and has so far hidden behind COVID restrictions that prevent him from having anyone else in the car but the instructor.
When it does happen, I'll also have to get her and the daughter to STFU but not sure how I'm going to do that beyond physical restraint. He's going to be on edge whenever she's in the car. It is a bad combination.
I am also shitty at COVID because road trips to campsites are an easy way to rack up driving hours, and gives me time to look around at the landscape, which I rarely get to do as the main driver.
As a human tho, he's starting to shit me - always got a smart mouth, can't take a joke, not interested in anything unless he's controlling the conversation. As he approaches 18 (6 months away) I'm going to sit him down over a drink on one of our camping trips and give him some helpful advice. Particularly in regard to how he treats his Mum. Sure, she's over-parenting him and can be an interfering, all-knowing cow, but she's still his Mum.
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@nta
"When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant, I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years,"
(Mark Twain apoarently)
Or words to that effect.Something about aging and maturing in various cliches tonight.
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But she will never learn. Caught her taking the bin out one night.
Me: "That's his job"
Her: "Yes but it needs doing now and I'm just going to get snapped at if I ask"
Me: "so ask anyway. Only way he will learn"Yet she will hound him about his homework relentlessly.
🤷♂️
And she wonders why he doesn't respect her. Stop trying to be his friend first and parent after.
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But she will never learn. Caught her taking the bin out one night.
Me: "That's his job"
Her: "Yes but it needs doing now and I'm just going to get snapped at if I ask"
Me: "so ask anyway. Only way he will learn"Yet she will hound him about his homework relentlessly.
🤷♂️
And she wonders why he doesn't respect her. Stop trying to be his friend first and parent after.
Mum's enable their sons
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@paekakboyz said in Parenting:
Can someone tell me why the fuck we bother taking young kids on holiday. Change of venue and routine sends them la la, motel and hotel rooms have zero kid proofing (observation rather than complaint on that one) so you are stopping potential final destination moments constantly.
Ms 4.5 is acting up and Mr almost 2 is yelling and won't sleep. The wife and I are fucking knackered and I don't think we have the energy for a week of this shit.
I'm sure things will be fine in the morning though...right??Right?!!
It's nice to get a change of scenery. But in the end they don't appreciate it; at that age they are just happy to play in a park or on the beach somewhere. Somehow they always know to lose their shit when you least want them to
Mine are teens. All they give a shit about now is how good the wifi is.... then again, so does the wife
In two years you will yearn for this ...
Apropos to nothing ... well kind of related to the above ... tomorrow is the last first day of term for Ms Boo Jr.
18 and year 12 and about to clock out of school. 3 (maybe 4 weeks) and she hits external exams, and school is all over ... gooorne ... mid November.
Am quite emotional really. Is the end of her childhood and in the last 6 months she's been growing up far far too fast.
She's discovered intoxicating substances. Am not going to lose my shit over that ... i mean it would be somewhat hypocritical ... and she's been happy to share (maybe belatedly) some of her experiences.
WRT to boys (she does seem normally inclined in that regard despite society's current imperative to seek alternatives ... ) and stuff she seems to have a solid head on her shoulders (she shares with her Mum ... who obv tells me ) and there's nothing concerinng as Dad.
Funnily enough she's rediscovered her happy self. For a couple of years she was really quite a shit. Last 6 months or so been back to her happy wee self, and a joy to be around.
Anyway, the little shits grow up far too fast. Enjoy them while they're young . Take every minute you can with them. Build sandcastles, make Lego towers, lose at Snap and running races (not too often mind), spray water pistols at each other, because they're not 4.5yo forever.
So they grizzle. So what? Film them and show it at their 16th!
Next thing you'll know is they're heading off to their Formal (I.e., Prom, Ball or whatever you call it locally) after party with multiple drunk teenage boys ( ... I'm looking at you TSF - that was you) looking like a film star while still being the 3yo you left at day care for the first time.
Am just a little sad to be be losing her to adulthood.
So you guys with bubbas , some grizzling is but a delightful inconvenience.
Well, that went fucking quick.
The last last day of term is upon us.
Tomorrow it IS officially all over.
Had a really awesome evening yesterday with a graduation ceremony. Kinda like you see on Merkan tv, with gowns, valedictorian and all.
Some of it inadvertently awesome: MBJ won a special award which blind sided all of us, and the music they walked in to touched our family really deeply. Just watch as many Disney movies on Saturday and Sunday afternoons as you can. Refer link at bottom of page. MBJ can just about recite the whole movie.
So tomorrow there's a last chapel service ... and adulthood.
And fuck knows what for us.
Anyway, she's off to become an author. Apparently. Just loves writing and creating stories and kind of by accident, maybe by serendipity, has fallen on to the exact university course that teaches all the stuff to do that. And at the Uni closest to us. So that's worked out well.
She might need some more advice from @Mokey ...
Am just off to fire the maid for not dusting properly ... dunno how you can be so sad and so proud at the same time.
She's on her way ...
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Per the Straya thread https://www.forum.thesilverfern.com/topic/3682/straya/141 I mentioned my 14yo daughter chose today - a public holiday - to break up with her bf of roughly 13 months.
After a few episodes of drama, where the guy hereafter referred to as That Skinny Dickhead (TSD) started getting a bit on the needy side, she finally made her mind up that the pros weren't outweighing the cons. TSD had been accusing her of spending too much time with her friends and not enough time with him, even tho she has made multiple efforts to hang out with him this summer holidays and he finally came over to our house to meet us only a month ago.
Part of me feels for TSD - first of all he was punching well above his weight in looks, smarts, and personality - but he also appears to have a fairly ordinary home life and some health issues that keep him skinny. Doesn't sound like his Mum is much into fixing them. On the flipside, he's not sporty, not academic, and has spent most of the holiday period staying up late on his Xbox and then waking up after noon. And hey, 14yo me would have probably done something similar... if I had anything resembling an Xbox.... and if I didn't live on a farm...
Anyway, she did it. Quite impressed there is no wailing and bullshit from her at this point, and it is a load off her mind obviously.
If I might be a Grumpy Old Man for a moment: fucked up a perfectly good public holiday.
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Per the Straya thread https://www.forum.thesilverfern.com/topic/3682/straya/141 I mentioned my 14yo daughter chose today - a public holiday - to break up with her bf of roughly 13 months.
After a few episodes of drama, where the guy hereafter referred to as That Skinny Dickhead (TSD) started getting a bit on the needy side, she finally made her mind up that the pros weren't outweighing the cons. TSD had been accusing her of spending too much time with her friends and not enough time with him, even tho she has made multiple efforts to hang out with him this summer holidays and he finally came over to our house to meet us only a month ago.
Part of me feels for TSD - first of all he was punching well above his weight in looks, smarts, and personality - but he also appears to have a fairly ordinary home life and some health issues that keep him skinny. Doesn't sound like his Mum is much into fixing them. On the flipside, he's not sporty, not academic, and has spent most of the holiday period staying up late on his Xbox and then waking up after noon. And hey, 14yo me would have probably done something similar... if I had anything resembling an Xbox.... and if I didn't live on a farm...
Anyway, she did it. Quite impressed there is no wailing and bullshit from her at this point, and it is a load off her mind obviously.
If I might be a Grumpy Old Man for a moment: fucked up a perfectly good public holiday.
Is it normal behaviour for a Dad to be involved so much in teenage daughters boys life? Or are you a massive outlier in the relationship you have with your daughter.
Serious question.
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some health issues that keep him skinny.
Are these contagious, and how does one contract them?
Avoid the devilish temptation of the chocolate biscuits in the kitchen cupboards by not buying them in the first place your fat useless piece of shit.
Best dieting advice, ever.
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@majorrage said in Parenting:
some health issues that keep him skinny.
Are these contagious, and how does one contract them?
Avoid the devilish temptation of the chocolate biscuits in the kitchen cupboards by not buying them in the first place your fat useless piece of shit.
Best dieting advice, ever.
Fried foods, chips are my main kryptonite