Modern Day Parenting
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<p>Another one is "if you don't stop doing that you won't be able to play with [insert name of favourite toy here] for [insert amount of time based on how pissed off you are and or how heinous your offspring is being].</p>
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<p>As an added bonus you can then do "if you eat all your dinner/tidy your room etc you can have x back x amount of time sooner". A day is an eternity to a kid so you can't stretch the time out too far or they might get over their favourite toy and move onto something else.</p> -
<p>depending on where you are, sometimes, you just gotta let them go for it, ignore them, go outside, do something else, remove yourselves from the room (removing the temptation to go and comfort, engage with them) ensuring they see you leave though, sometimes there is just no negotiating. </p>
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<p>Agree with others here comforting is not normally very practical. Besides the world is a harsh place my boss dosent comfort me when I get annoyed. So why pretend thats how things work.</p>
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<p>Stick with timeout I say. Its not perfect but having some distance between you and the little gits is always a good thing. As NTA says it allows you to act more reasoned rather then trying to wrestle a psychopathic toddler into a cuddle and discussion about the nutritional qualities of having chocolate for breakfast.</p> -
<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="No Quarter" data-cid="553245" data-time="1453160236"><p>My boys tantrums seem to be worsening of late. The other day he went for 20+ minutes because we wouldn't give him a chocolate bar for breakfast.<br><br>
This article says giving your child a 'timeout' is not a good idea:<br><br><a class="bbc_url" href="http://time.com/3404701/discipline-time-out-is-not-good/">http://time.com/3404701/discipline-time-out-is-not-good/</a><br><br>
That article seems to say you should comfort your child when he is upset. However when said child is screaming for chocolate, attempting to comfort him only winds him up further as he's not getting what he wants.<br><br>
Any tips for managing that situation? :)</p></blockquote>
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Best advice we got was feed the behaviour you want and starve the stuff you don't. <br><br>
So praise for the good behaviour is an important part of dealing with the tantrums. <br><br>
And fuck the hippies, timeouts work. A minute for each year of age. Boredom is a kids enemy. <br><br>
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<p>Huh. Funny how we think that "time out" is now mainstream and un-hippie. Think about where "timeout" would have rated on the hippie-scale when each of us was growing up. :)</p>
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<p>Yeah, growing up, the normal parents used the wooden spoon, a smack or the belt. And the hippy fuckers used timeouts much to everyone's derision. 30 years ago the kid getting timeouts would been slightly pitied due to clearly being raised by a homo & tree hugging lesbian in some weird quiche based union.</p> -
<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="booboo" data-cid="553336" data-time="1453204146"><p>Huh. Funny how we think that "time out" is now mainstream and un-hippie. Think about where "timeout" would have rated on the hippie-scale when each of us was growing up. :)</p></blockquote>
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<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="Siam" data-cid="553339" data-time="1453207086"><p>"Timeout" was the name of Dad's belt I think, as in "I think you need some timeout". Instant behaviour modification :)</p></blockquote>
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And after that, a raised eyebrow from Mum, or grown from Dad, was enough. <br><br>
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It wasn't called timeout was it? In my house it was " go to your room !" So you were sent into your bedroom with your toys and books.<br>
Come to think of it it was mum that said that so it was typical women's logic like thinking the silent treatment is a punishment .<br>
Here's a tip for the younger male ferners, if they do pull the silent treatment on you never ever say "Oh you're not talking to me? So I won't have to put up with you moaning about your mum mates and boss? Shit, how will I cope ? I better go around to my mates for a beer because you won't be able to nag me about all the jobs you want me to do around the house".<br><br>
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When my daughter was of a certain age, she used to lose it and absolutely could not be reasoned with. She was like the frikken terminator, could keep going for hours, relentlessly. We tried everything. <br><br>
Timeouts couldn't work as she would follow us around the house. I would have to literally drag her kicking and screaming to her bedroom and physically hold the door shut on the outside so she wouldn't come out. After about an hour she might calm down, then on release was happy to kick-off again. <br><br>
Then she just grew out of it, been nice as pie ever since. <br><br>
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<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="Godder" data-cid="553398" data-time="1453248154"><p>A quick one-two followed by an uppercut is my plan...<br>
(not really, but it sounds like it will be aggravating)</p></blockquote>
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Cuff downwards to counteract their natural tendacy to cringe away from you. -
OK guys get ready to feel as though you're not putting enough effort in<br><br><a data-ipb='nomediaparse' href='http://imgur.com/a/M6V45'>http://imgur.com/a/M6V45</a>
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<p>OK guys get ready to feel as though you're not putting enough effort in<br><br><a data-ipb='nomediaparse' href='http://imgur.com/a/M6V45'>http://imgur.com/a/M6V45</a></p>
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<p>The very definition of "too much fucking time on your hands"</p> -
<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="Gary" data-cid="553878" data-time="1453470925"><p>OK guys get ready to feel as though you're not putting enough effort in<a class="bbc_url" href="http://imgur.com/a/M6V45">http://imgur.com/a/M6V45</a></p></blockquote>
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Not sure that's great parenting, it's how you create an over indulged entitled little shit I reckon. Whats the bet Lorde and Max Key have trees in their rooms or some similar extravagance ? -
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<p>Not sure that's great parenting, it's how you create an over indulged entitled little shit I reckon. Whats the bet Lorde and Max Key have trees in their rooms or some similar extravagance ?</p>
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<p>I'm not sure I would put Lorde and Max together myself. One is a self made woman who conquered the music world at a young age, the other has done.....?</p>
