Modern Day Parenting
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Cheers guys, yeah I read to the little man every night, but he demands I read every single book in his entire library to get out of going to sleep. I generally read a couple of books, then turn out the lights and sing a couple of songs and he's all good.<br><br>
I'm finding now that if he has a nap during the day then he is still bouncing off the walls at 9pm, so am thinking about stopping the naps. -
<p>Anyone who thinks they're in a shit situation with kids:<br><br>
My daughter had a friend over today, who we've always wondered a bit about - the Mum is 10 years older than us, kid has a different surname from the Mum and her hubby, as well as her older kids. Accident? Other marriage or some weird shit?<br><br>
Weird as fuck, as it turns out - "Mum" is biological aunt, took the girl off her Ice (Meth) addict brother and basically bankrupted themselves to do it because of the legal challenges they had to mount to save her life as a baby. Other option was giving her back to fuck face, or going into state foster care.<br><br>
Had to air all their laundry in court, which fucked up a bunch of other family relationships (including the grandmother) and now she lives in <strike>great</strike> <strong>fear</strong> the brother will turn up in a rage, or even worse, in secret, and start doing damage, kidnap, etc<br><br>
Fucked. Up.<br><br>
So, next time you're having a shit day, think about those parents who have taken in upon themselves to prove blood is thicker than water.</p> -
<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="No Quarter" data-cid="551556" data-time="1452318817"><p>Cheers guys, yeah I read to the little man every night, but he demands I read every single book in his entire library to get out of going to sleep. I generally read a couple of books, then turn out the lights and sing a couple of songs and he's all good.<br>
I'm finding now that if he has a nap during the day then he is still bouncing off the walls at 9pm, so am thinking about stopping the naps.</p></blockquote>Sounds like it's time. Better to drop the midday break to keep your evenings -
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<p>Sounds like it's time. Better to drop the midday break to keep your evenings</p>
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<p>Thats one thing we have always been hugely strict on, consistent bedtime to ensure we have an evening.</p>
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<p>School nights they are settling down after being read to about 7.40, so that come 8pm they have stopped messing about, most of the time....</p> -
<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="jegga" data-cid="551562" data-time="1452322320"><p>A guy I know lets his kids stay up till 9:30 or so, reckons they don't wake up so early . I'm not so sure about that but he's Chinese and says it's pretty common amongst their community .</p></blockquote>
My kids are solar powered in terms of getting a start in the morning - sun up, they up! -
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How old are they? When my boy got to 11 I'd go in and wake him and he'd pull the covers over his head poke and say " give me five more minutes" . Now I've got to drag him out of bed. -
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<p>A guy I know lets his kids stay up till 9:30 or so, reckons they don't wake up so early . I'm not so sure about that but he's Chinese and says it's pretty common amongst their community .</p>
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<p>Very common in the overseas chinese community. One of my workmates' kids are in their early teens, up at all hours, eat dinner around 8 and stuff, sleep in until late. It means you get no grown up time so my kids go down about 7.30pm</p> -
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<p>Mooshld at the Insistence of the ex I went to a fathers group one night, they were all a bunch of whining twats apart from the guy running the group who had raised his son by himself. He described how he ended the public tantrums , his son tyres himself down on the ground at a supermarket because his dad wouldn't buy him chocolates so he did the same thing waving his arms and legs in the air and moaning. He said within seconds his son was standing next to him tugging his shirt tling him to stop. He reckoned that ended the tantrums .<br><br>
The other guys were wimps moaning about how dad's are made to look stupid in ads on TV , I never went back . I'm surprised their wives/partners were able to conceive at all from such effeminate stock.</p>
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<p>There was a great story a few years back about a mother who would river dance her tween/teen daughter into line when she went postal in public. I don't have any sprogs in my life yet but reckon you lot are a good bunch of parents. I've got a teaching background and for me a big part of it was helping to develop good people. That totally extends to how I interact with relations and friends kids, but nothing beats winding em up and handing em back :whistle:</p> -
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<p>How old are they? When my boy got to 11 I'd go in and wake him and he'd pull the covers over his head poke and say " give me five more minutes" . Now I've got to drag him out of bed.</p>
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<p>He 11, Her 8. The latter more inclined to sleep in. The boy is wired like a mofo.</p> -
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<p>He 11, Her 8. The latter more inclined to sleep in. The boy is wired like a mofo.</p>
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<p>Wait until he hits mid teens, he'll be sleeping late like the rest of them ;)</p> -
I mentioned the fuck up bro in law, there was a while before the mother sorted her shit out when I though we would take their daughter on.<br><br>
Even after she got clean we looked after her a heap. Taught her a heap her dad should have taught her. Surrogated at a "dads" day at school. I feel so sorry for kids with a deadbeat parent. How do the ones with two do it -
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<p>I mentioned the fuck up bro in law, there was a while before the mother sorted her shit out when I though we would take their daughter on.<br><br>
Even after she got clean we looked after her a heap. Taught her a heap her dad should have taught her. Surrogated at a "dads" day at school. I feel so sorry for kids with a deadbeat parent. How do the ones with two do it</p>
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<p> The answer is some do and some don't. Ms Cato no1 had a boyfriend a while back. They first knew each other in primary school, then went to different high schools. He had a very difficult childhood with two drug addict, alcoholic parents and spent a lot of time being looked after by grandparents, friends' parents, foster parents, care homes and the drunk old mad woman next door while his shithead parents were either incapable or in prison. They met again many years later and against all odds the lad had done bloody well. Was clean himself (a major feat just on its own) and had joined the Parachute Regiment - could have joined the Royal Marines but they are locally based and he wanted to make a break. He's now doing really well as far as I can tell (they broke up a year or two back). Though the poor bugger's done three tours in Afghanistan, nasty work too. But his is a story that is quite uplifting and he's done this by his own will. Chapeau!</p> -
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Same as mine...we often have to wake Miss 7 up, but I have to tell TR Jnr he is to read or do something quiet in his room until 7 dos he can't get up and be quiet. -
<p>Not sure if this has been brought up but after having 4 weeks at home one thing is driving me nuts is the constant fucken eating. All they do is eat.</p>
<p>We spend a fortune on fruit and vege (i know i know its good for them) but fuck me its expensive. Id say we spend around $70 or $80 per week easy. Some weeks more.</p>
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<p>In my mind kids only eat for 2 reasons, because they are bored or they are bored. The biggest factor/trigger is when they are watching tv. Its a constant cycle of getting off the couch, going into the fridge and eating what they grab back in front of the box.</p>
<p>10 mins later repeat. Then repeat. (as im writting this guess what!)</p>
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<p>Then come dinner time its a fucken struggle with our youngest (3) to eat what we give her.</p> -
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<p>Then come dinner time its a fucken struggle with our youngest (3) to eat what we give her.</p>
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<p>That is most annoying. It doesn't always work but we try to get dinner on the table before they start diving into the snacks. Part of the problem is they are hungry before normal dinner time, especially CF Jnr after school. Kids are fickle though, one day they love a dish another day they won't touch it. It is a constant battle</p> -
Meal times fucking suck
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<p>fark we had some slow cooked pulled pork with home grown beetroot, carrot and parsnip fritters, home grown plum and apple crumble, I had some home brew cider: kids moaned and groaned all throgh dinner, afte rbeing excited about the crumble, neither ate it, now they are out asking for lollies and biscuits...I did get them to eat all thie rdinner with the bribe of a mouthhful of my cider each.</p>
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<p>Ungrateful little mongrels, no amount of images of starving African children have any effect!</p>
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<p>Only reason we have lollies in the house at present is due to GRandad being here from UK, but I dont usually have them as Miss 7 gets obsessed with them, she knwos they are here she hounds and hounds and hounds, ends up in tears, and she gets massive sugar rushes too.</p>
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<p>My kids are nightmares to feed, but yep, all they wanna do is graze all day long.</p> -
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<p>fark we had some slow cooked pulled pork with home grown <strong>beetroot</strong>, carrot and <strong>parsnip </strong>fritters, home grown <strong>plum</strong> and apple crumble, I had some home brew cider: kids moaned and groaned all throgh dinner, afte rbeing excited about the crumble, neither ate it, now they are out asking for lollies and biscuits...I did get them to eat all thie rdinner with the bribe of a mouthhful of my cider each.</p>
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<p>Ungrateful little mongrels, no amount of images of starving African children have any effect!</p>
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<p>Only reason we have lollies in the house at present is due to GRandad being here from UK, but I dont usually have them as Miss 7 gets obsessed with them, she knwos they are here she hounds and hounds and hounds, ends up in tears, and she gets massive sugar rushes too.</p>
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<p>My kids are nightmares to feed, but yep, all they wanna do is graze all day long.</p>
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<p>I'd be whining about that too - ruin a bunch of good food with those 3 (actually I love plums but prefer apple crumbles to be apple crumbles) ;).</p>
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<p>As for the pulled pork, I didn't even realise Whangarei had hipsters let alone expect you to be one. :whistle:</p>