Dad advice sharing thread.
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@taniwharugby said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
ha my boy picked up an injury trying to tackle the biggest kid in the other team (who was basically my size sans a few kgs)
He did say to me on the drive home it was kinda his fault as he saw the big guy coming at him and he hesitated and then didn't fully commit...I told him it was also just bad luck and these things happen.
So the size thing does make it a bit more interesting though. This team was BIG, a country team who had 3 kids who had been both age and weight dispensated (must be 12 on Jan 1 and under 70kg) our only dispensated kid missed out because he was born a month before 1 Jan, and is 37kg, our biggest kid is 62kg.
If those boys hadn't been dispensated for the club, they wouldn't be able to play this season as their club didn't have the team up the age group for them.
We have a few decent sized kids, but nothing like these boys, and it becomes quite intimidating and no amount of 'bigger they are harder they fall' type talks makes much difference.
With 10 to go we were down by 5 I think, then 2 of our bigger boys had to come off, which is where the intimidation thing happens as the other kids look to these guys lining up alongside them and gives them confidence, but as soon as they were off the field, psychologically, the big boys in the opposition seemed that much bigger and they scored 3 tries in 5 mins.
This other team hasn't lost yet, probably wont, we lost 31-19, but the boys were pretty well beaten physically and mentally after this one, that will be what training this week will be about, picking them up.
My son's team don't have a gram of fat on them and it's basically impossible to separate backs from forwards. It's straight out bizarre. They all look exactly the same, just some slight differences in height. Makes it very difficult against bigger teams, particularly in the scrums. They're a well drilled team and have some good players but I think it might be a long season.
A scrum was driven back and collapsed on the weekend and for a second there I thought my son had a neck injury. Luckily it was just a strain (chicken winged). But damn it's scary when that shit happens. Would never let him near the front row.
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@jk said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
Farken cracked it on the weekend with the pre match pep talk. Always try give the lad a bit of a rev up on the way to the game and try and inspire him to put in a good performance.
Usually its very much "do this", 'don't do that' sorta stuff and basically telling him to make sure he gets involved and not swan about in the backs. This week I was crapping on (pretty much all I do) to him about leaving everything out on the field in terms of his effort. I said "if you were to sit back and watch a replay of the game, how would you want to feel about how you played? What would you want to see?" Immediately he said that he would want to feel proud of his efforts and not be seen to be slacking off. I said "That's a good idea Phin, make yourself proud of your performance"
Well what a game, 4 tries and could have been 5 (just touched the sideline apparently). 14 tackles, multiple good runs, clean passing and catching, lots of support. It really was something to behold. He knew it to. When he came off at the end of the game he gave me one of those smiling nods (kinda led by the chin and eye brows at the same time), you know the one. He was chuffed and quite frankly so was I. Only cost me $4.80 too in performance payments.
Any new Instagram videos? The one from last year was bloody impressive.
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@rancid-schnitzel said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
Any new Instagram videos? The one from last year was bloody impressive.
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@rancid-schnitzel up until last year, all the boys in our team were pretty much same height, similar weight (were about 7 in the team last year that had been there since they were 5)
One of our best players last year was a lightweight that played at 8 (even this year he is still only 43kg this year, but has moved out 1 spot to 9, but tackles his heart out week in week out, never gives up) his twin played at 13, mind you, both of them stood out from the day they started ripper rugby when they were 5.
They only started pushing in scrums at U12 I think it was and then is limited to 1m.
I've been teaching them scrumming technique and more importantly, falling technique for when the scrums collapse to minimize risk of injury.
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@taniwharugby said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
One of our best players last year was a lightweight that played at 8 (even this year he is still only 43kg this year,
My son played two seasons ago - and the best player was the smallest on the team. Ran hard, tackled like a demon, and was effective all over the paddock. Awesome to watch, and great to see a little guy do well.
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@nzzp yep he plays reps too and isn't afraid of knocking over guys 25+kg heavier than him.
He is a machine too, won the Northland Yr 7 Cross Country last year too, and then found out 2 weeks later the pain he had had for a month was a phoenix palm spike over a CM long stuck in his foot.
He has just started to get a bit of mongrel to him now too.
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@rancid-schnitzel said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
@jk said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
Farken cracked it on the weekend with the pre match pep talk. Always try give the lad a bit of a rev up on the way to the game and try and inspire him to put in a good performance.
Usually its very much "do this", 'don't do that' sorta stuff and basically telling him to make sure he gets involved and not swan about in the backs. This week I was crapping on (pretty much all I do) to him about leaving everything out on the field in terms of his effort. I said "if you were to sit back and watch a replay of the game, how would you want to feel about how you played? What would you want to see?" Immediately he said that he would want to feel proud of his efforts and not be seen to be slacking off. I said "That's a good idea Phin, make yourself proud of your performance"
Well what a game, 4 tries and could have been 5 (just touched the sideline apparently). 14 tackles, multiple good runs, clean passing and catching, lots of support. It really was something to behold. He knew it to. When he came off at the end of the game he gave me one of those smiling nods (kinda led by the chin and eye brows at the same time), you know the one. He was chuffed and quite frankly so was I. Only cost me $4.80 too in performance payments.
Any new Instagram videos? The one from last year was bloody impressive.
Nah mate. He did ask to see the video after the game and was disappointed when I said I didnt film anything. Think I was too in awe!
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@jk said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
@rancid-schnitzel said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
@jk said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
Farken cracked it on the weekend with the pre match pep talk. Always try give the lad a bit of a rev up on the way to the game and try and inspire him to put in a good performance.
Usually its very much "do this", 'don't do that' sorta stuff and basically telling him to make sure he gets involved and not swan about in the backs. This week I was crapping on (pretty much all I do) to him about leaving everything out on the field in terms of his effort. I said "if you were to sit back and watch a replay of the game, how would you want to feel about how you played? What would you want to see?" Immediately he said that he would want to feel proud of his efforts and not be seen to be slacking off. I said "That's a good idea Phin, make yourself proud of your performance"
Well what a game, 4 tries and could have been 5 (just touched the sideline apparently). 14 tackles, multiple good runs, clean passing and catching, lots of support. It really was something to behold. He knew it to. When he came off at the end of the game he gave me one of those smiling nods (kinda led by the chin and eye brows at the same time), you know the one. He was chuffed and quite frankly so was I. Only cost me $4.80 too in performance payments.
Any new Instagram videos? The one from last year was bloody impressive.
Nah mate. He did ask to see the video after the game and was disappointed when I said I didnt film anything. Think I was too in awe!
But what D & D class does he play?
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Had the last tournament of the year yesterday. It was his home one. He was his usual self for the first 2 games. After lunch I took him and a couple of the other kids who avoid contact and did some mauling and tackling drills with them to get them super fired up. The 3rd game was much better got into some of the mauls and seemed much more interested.
Then the final game he made a great tackle with the smallest fellah in the team coming over the top to help him out. Then in the last play of the game he ripped the ball from the opposition on our goal line it fell at his feet. He looked at the ref then picked it up and went the length of the field to score.
Of course he does this at the one game his mum comes to watch, so I get the whole. I don't know what you're talking about he seemed fine to me speech the way home.
He was super happy so I picked him up a club cap which he wanted to sleep in, and is already talking about the boys coming back for next seasons under 7's.
Will spend the summer doing more ball skills and getting the middle boy pumped up for his debut.
He will be a different proposition. Once at school someone was bullying the oldest, who is 2 years above him. He tackled the kid to the ground and just started mashing him with his head. The teacher was not impressed. Dad let him ride in the front seat for a week though. Bully won't even talk to the oldest now out of fear.
Just glad I am not coaching him, when he doesn't want to do something he is the most stubborn angry 4 year old I have ever seen. His best mate is a little girl though and she seems to be able to control him. Might ask her parents if she would be keen to play.
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@baron-silas-greenback said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
@jk said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
@rancid-schnitzel said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
@jk said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
Farken cracked it on the weekend with the pre match pep talk. Always try give the lad a bit of a rev up on the way to the game and try and inspire him to put in a good performance.
Usually its very much "do this", 'don't do that' sorta stuff and basically telling him to make sure he gets involved and not swan about in the backs. This week I was crapping on (pretty much all I do) to him about leaving everything out on the field in terms of his effort. I said "if you were to sit back and watch a replay of the game, how would you want to feel about how you played? What would you want to see?" Immediately he said that he would want to feel proud of his efforts and not be seen to be slacking off. I said "That's a good idea Phin, make yourself proud of your performance"
Well what a game, 4 tries and could have been 5 (just touched the sideline apparently). 14 tackles, multiple good runs, clean passing and catching, lots of support. It really was something to behold. He knew it to. When he came off at the end of the game he gave me one of those smiling nods (kinda led by the chin and eye brows at the same time), you know the one. He was chuffed and quite frankly so was I. Only cost me $4.80 too in performance payments.
Any new Instagram videos? The one from last year was bloody impressive.
Nah mate. He did ask to see the video after the game and was disappointed when I said I didnt film anything. Think I was too in awe!
But what D & D class does he play?
What what?
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@mooshld said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
Had the last tournament of the year yesterday. It was his home one. He was his usual self for the first 2 games. After lunch I took him and a couple of the other kids who avoid contact and did some mauling and tackling drills with them to get them super fired up. The 3rd game was much better got into some of the mauls and seemed much more interested.
Then the final game he made a great tackle with the smallest fellah in the team coming over the top to help him out. Then in the last play of the game he ripped the ball from the opposition on our goal line it fell at his feet. He looked at the ref then picked it up and went the length of the field to score.
Of course he does this at the one game his mum comes to watch, so I get the whole. I don't know what you're talking about he seemed fine to me speech the way home.
He was super happy so I picked him up a club cap which he wanted to sleep in, and is already talking about the boys coming back for next seasons under 7's.
Will spend the summer doing more ball skills and getting the middle boy pumped up for his debut.
He will be a different proposition. Once at school someone was bullying the oldest, who is 2 years above him. He tackled the kid to the ground and just started mashing him with his head. The teacher was not impressed. Dad let him ride in the front seat for a week though. Bully won't even talk to the oldest now out of fear.
Just glad I am not coaching him, when he doesn't want to do something he is the most stubborn angry 4 year old I have ever seen. His best mate is a little girl though and she seems to be able to control him. Might ask her parents if she would be keen to play.
That's a great read!!
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@rancid-schnitzel said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
Any new Instagram videos? The one from last year was bloody impressive.
here is one from the weekend
Wasnt his best try actually. Had a really good game with 3 tries, heaps of good tackles and runs but there was another try where the kid inside him drew in the tackler beautifully and then passed to phin who hit the ball at full noise (without dropping it) before stepping inside some kid that I thought he was gonna try and go around. So good to see the quality and structure coming through in the play on 7 and 8 year olds
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When the kids start to work out how to use space, and how to use the ball to beat the opposition its awesome.
Really hope the ABs remember that for the third test
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@paekakboyz said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
When the kids start to work out how to use space, and how to use the ball to beat the opposition its awesome.
Really hope the ABs remember that for the third test
Yeah its bloody brilliant to watch. Can really see them learning and bloody quickly too
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Proud dad moment as my son got player of the day. He plays Loosehead Prop so not a position that stands out. He plays Under 11 and because he was too heavy is playing up one grade so is playing with kids a year older. Good that the coach recognised him.
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so like the days you feel the proud glow of when your son does good, today, I saw the devastation in my boys eyes when the Dr said he was putting his arm in a cast for 2-3 weeks as precaution following an injury last weekend.
He had made a Cup team to play up in Kaikohe for a week during the school holidays and yesterday after training (he did all but contact) they tried on all the kit they would be getting.
Just heart breaking seeing his face in that moment when it dawned on him he may not be able to play (possibly can still play as cast will be off the week before, but he'll lose physical trainings and fitness just by not being able to do as much in next few weeks too.
The coach did say he can still be part of the team (TR Jnr doesn't know this yet as I just got off the phone to him) which will be good.
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@jk and while it's cool to dot down yourself, making a primo play or big hit to get the ball back under pressure can feel as good, if not better! Have fond memories of a packing down in a massive defensive scrum then breaking to see we'd done a blindside play and our winger was away. Hmm could have been as much about not running 70m for a ruck tho!!
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@taniwharugby said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
so like the days you feel the proud glow of when your son does good, today, I saw the devastation in my boys eyes when the Dr said he was putting his arm in a cast for 2-3 weeks as precaution following an injury last weekend.
He had made a Cup team to play up in Kaikohe for a week during the school holidays and yesterday after training (he did all but contact) they tried on all the kit they would be getting.
Just heart breaking seeing his face in that moment when it dawned on him he may not be able to play (possibly can still play as cast will be off the week before, but he'll lose physical trainings and fitness just by not being able to do as much in next few weeks too.
The coach did say he can still be part of the team (TR Jnr doesn't know this yet as I just got off the phone to him) which will be good.
Had similar thing actually happen in the back end of last season when Phin busted his elbow (fell out off a swing or something at school) and was told season over. Ended up getting the cast off on the thursday before the last game of the season which he begged to play. Still had a bandage on some made him where a long sleeve under his shirt so it wasnt noticeable
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@jk yeah Josh had Tae Kwon Do grading on Saturday too, so I strapped it up and bandaged it, then one of the sparring sessions, he said the other guy kept hitting his arm as he was blocking him.
I think they are being over cautious TBH, have another appointment next week.
So I'll keep him doing squats and core stuff to keep his strength up (plays Loosehead) and on treadmill for some fitness.
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A bizarre incident occurred at my youngest's rugby match on Sunday. The teams ran out then the opposition coach ran out with a kid over his shoulder and dumped him on the field. The kid (who was the image of a Bogan brat) turned his back on his team and just kept playing with his hair. So the game started and he was just walking around the field with his back to play, tugging on his Bogan locks. It wasn't until 2 tried were scored that a person I presume was his mother ran (or rather waddled) onto the field to have a chat with him. He was then taken off but reappeared in the 2nd half (maybe bribed with a new Playstation) to throw one pass then wander off again. This is under 10s and the only time I've ever seen anything resemble this is from under 5 soccer. Utterly bizarre.
