Modern Day Parenting
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<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="Nepia" data-cid="551694" data-time="1452416975">
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<p>It's big time hipster food, in all the hipster cafes - actually all the franchises on now peddling it too, so maybe it's cross over to general boganry so will fit well in Northland?</p>
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<p>I really wish hipsters weren't known for beards, it took me 39 odd years to get the courage to grow one, and admittedly it is shit but I just hate shaving so want to keep it. </p>
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<p>So you admit going to hipster cafes? Hellers sell pulled pork in sealed packets like shaved ham here, its too mainstream to be a hipster thing in NZ. Must be a Sydney thing.</p>
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<p>I've never understood the beard thing, haven't you got enough extra hair growing out your nose and ears?</p> -
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<p>So you admit going to hipster cafes? Hellers sell pulled pork in sealed packets like shaved ham here, its too mainstream to be a hipster thing in NZ. Must be a Sydney thing.</p>
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<p>I've never understood the beard thing, haven't you got enough extra hair growing out your nose and ears?</p>
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<p>I admit to walking past hipster cafes ....</p>
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<p>As for the ear and nose hair, I'm not very hairy so not really growing strongly in those regions.</p> -
<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="Nepia" data-cid="551697" data-time="1452417721">
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<p>I admit to walking<strong> into</strong> hipster cafes ....</p>
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<p>As for the ear and nose hair, I'm not very hairy so not really growing strongly in those regions<strong> yet</strong></p>
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<p>Made some adjustments there. A mate put me onto this old retired engineer that like to small bits of fabrication work and called him the "ewok" when I asked why he said "you'll know when you see him". I understood when I saw him ,but from memory ewoks don't grow hair on the external surfaces of their nose.</p> -
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<p>says the man with a pic on FB with 'designer stubble' claiming 'I miss my beard' </p>
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<p>Anywhoo, back on point...PEace and quiet, <strong>kids asleep</strong> :dance1: :dance:</p>
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<p>Does the younger one still get into your bed in the middle of the might? My boy was like a ninja, he never woke me up once getting into bed.</p> -
Nope, that is another thing we have been strict on, kids sleep in their own beds, we sleep in ours.
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<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="taniwharugby" data-cid="551710" data-time="1452449774"><p>Nope, that is another thing we have been strict on, kids sleep in their own beds, we sleep in ours.</p></blockquote>
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Back at work today, no kids!
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<p>It would appear my boy is scared of the dark, which probably explains why he has been more and more reluctant to go to bed recently. After reading to him and signing him a song last night he wouldn't let me leave, and ended up saying "I'm scared daddy". Managed to work out that it was the dark, and when I turned on the hallway light and left his door open he was happy to go to sleep. I guess a night light is the best solution for that?</p>
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<p>Also with feeding, like others he seems to want to eat every hour or so, meaning by the time I serve dinner he is not really hungry and thus less likely to eat things like vegetables which we are struggling with a bit. He loves fruit and most other things, but always refuses his veges.</p> -
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<p>Also with feeding, like others he seems to want to eat every hour or so, meaning by the time I serve dinner he is not really hungry and thus less likely to eat things like vegetables which we are struggling with a bit. He loves fruit and most other things, but always refuses his veges.</p>
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<p>Like sleep, or dummies, that's another pattern that needs consideration on how to adjust. Go through a couple of days of utter shit with refusing him food, and he'll learn. Also with the veges, mash that shit up and put cheese in it.</p> -
<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="Crucial" data-cid="551768" data-time="1452472517"><p>If kids have food available to them all day they will eat all day.<br><br>
I seem to remember having rules around what was available in between meals. Never had open access to whatever was in the fridge/cupboard</p></blockquote>
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Our kids have to ask for food if it's not during meal time. We have 5 kids and we've found it useful in having conversations with them about food and what they eat. They come and ask for a something, we ask them what have you eaten today? Have you had any veggies or fruit? Have you been drinking water etc. Then we can help them decide what will be good to eat or if they need to wait a bit longer. -
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Our kids have to ask for food if it's not during meal time. We have 5 kids and we've found it useful in having conversations with them about food and what they eat. They come and ask for a something, we ask them what have you eaten today? Have you had any veggies or fruit? Have you been drinking water etc. Then we can help them decide what will be good to eat or if they need to wait a bit longer.</p></blockquote>
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<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="Kirwan" data-cid="551845" data-time="1452503680">
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<p>I would be absolutely insane with five kids.</p>
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<p>My mum still bleats about the time the washing machine shat itself when she had three kids in nappies. She rang the local dry cleaner in tears out of desperation , he sent around his wife to pick up the washing and they dropped back the huge pile of clean nappies then refused to take any money for it.</p> -
Re scared of dark.<br><br>
Our one was fine for a while but then convinced herself she was scared of the dark about 2 years ago and we had to reinvest in a night light. She got to the stage where she was more likely to be awake when we went to bed and closed her door, turned off the hall light. <br><br>
No sense making her put up with it when a little extra light had no effect on her ability to sleep.<br><br>
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<p>Nope, that is another thing we have been strict on, kids sleep in their own beds, we sleep in ours.</p>
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<p>Worked with a guy who had real issues with his two boys(8 and 5). The oldest was 5 when I started working with him and he was happily pissing on his hot wheels in the middle of his bedroom then. This guy said his kids were about the naughtiest in their group of friends and his own mother refused to look after them.</p>
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<p>He said his mrs just shouted at them when they were naughty, which was almost every minute of everyday and he was very passive(at work he would avoid confrontation by any means). It was causing their marriage to break down as you could well understand it might.</p>
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<p>I said that if his wife screamed at them all the time then the boys think that's normal behaviour and will be conditioned to it. He needed to grow a sack and help his wife out and discipline his kids so she didn't have to all the time. After a few months he said things had started to get better and he had gotten quite good at scolding them when needed and his wife was also calming down. The kids knew if dad got involved it was trouble.</p>
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<p>Anyway he tells me about 6 months ago things had gotten bad again but in a different way. His oldest son has behavioural issues and isn't fitting in at school. Then he dropped it on me. He said he was having nightmares every night and none of them could sleep. I said shit is he getting up and waking you or is he screaming in his sleep. Old mate said he was kicking in his sleep! His 8 year old son is still sleeping in his parents bed!</p>
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<p>I said there was no way their son could possibly mature if he was sleeping in their bet at that age. As it turned out my mate would sleep in his son's bed and the kids were with mum. I said this is another reason why his marriage is probably fucked as there is no way you can get your end away sleeping rooms apart.</p>
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<p>He left work not long after. No idea if things have gotten worse or better but he was a funny, almost slow kind of guy when it came to his personal life but he was an exceptional draftsman.</p> -
<p>my kids are both at their Nanas this week, house is strangely quiet, and empty...</p>
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<p>my kids are both at their Nanas this week, house is strangely quiet, and empty...</p>
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<p>yea, i always look forward to the kids sleeping over at the in-laws, and then when they aren't there, the house is very boring...</p>
