No kids, any regrets?
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@Hooroo said in No kids, any regrets?:
@chimoaus said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Hooroo Thanks for sharing, yes can be tough that is for sure. The wife had some big regrets in her 30's when friends etc were having kids, but now we are past that age it's not really an issue. We couldn't bring ourselves to tell the MIL at the time, she took it pretty hard. My mum was ok as she already had plenty of grandkids.
The only "gloat" time is when I catch up with a bunch of mates and their families and we have a massive bbq late into the night and having to see/hear them deal with their kids first thing the next morning.
I generally smile and roll over for some more sleep
Mine can make coffee now and cook bacon and eggs in such situations. They first 8 or so years though......useless
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Some heartbreaking stories for those of you that can't have kids. Makes me feel guilty for chosing not to! When people ask why I haven't got any, my relpy is usually either "I don't like them" or "you think a child should be raising children?" If they know me well enough the last one shuts them up.
I think my neighbours had fertility treatment, either that, or a freak of nature gave them triplets. They definitely weren't planning on that, but great parents nonetheless. It does work for some I suppose.
@Virgil said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Mokey think of us as all your children... sorry that was meant to make you feel better!...
That pobably didn't work.
I think "I blame the parents" would be the normal cliche, which seems a little unkind as well in this instance. If we were all well behaved Polish chicks it might have worked, but a bunch of grumpy, juvenile middle aged men, not so much.
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@Snowy did you watch the series Dexter? He struggled with his family life while doubling as a serial killer!
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@taniwharugby said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Snowy did you watch the series Dexter? He struggled with his family life while doubling as a serial killer!
Yes, seen all of the TB shows and read all of the textbooks. Very, ummm, educational.
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@booboo thanks. Endo is terrible. And the worst aspect is, so many women are dismissed when it comes to bad periods. Just 'unlucky' or 'complainers'. I had several doctors shrug, then at last one who was all oh hell no, you are getting referred to a obgyn. Very nice specialist diagnosed me in oh about 20 seconds, surgery 6 weeks later.
I just hate thinking of all the infertile chicks who might have had a different outcome if someone had taken them seriously rather than patting their head and recommending ibuprofen and a wheatie pack. -
@Snowy said in No kids, any regrets?:
Some heartbreaking stories for those of you that can't have kids. Makes me feel guilty for chosing not to! When people ask why I haven't got any, my relpy is usually either "I don't like them" or "you think a child should be raising children?" If they know me well enough the last one shuts them up.
I think my neighbours had fertility treatment, either that, or a freak of nature gave them triplets. They definitely weren't planning on that, but great parents nonetheless. It does work for some I suppose.
@Virgil said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Mokey think of us as all your children... sorry that was meant to make you feel better!...
That pobably didn't work.
I think "I blame the parents" would be the normal cliche, which seems a little unkind as well in this instance. If we were all well behaved Polish chicks it might have worked, but a bunch of grumpy, juvenile middle aged men, not so much.
Why ?
You're not obligated to and anyone who tries to tell you otherwise can get fucked and mind their own business, people like that are almost as bad as politicial piston wristed gibbons telling you who they think you should vote for.
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@Snowy said in No kids, any regrets?:
It just seems unfair that people who want to can't
then you get the ferals that cant stop having kids, and damn well should never have started...but I expect that is a thread all on it's own.
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@taniwharugby said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Snowy said in No kids, any regrets?:
It just seems unfair that people who want to can't
then you get the ferals that cant stop having kids, and damn well should never have started...but I expect that is a thread all on it's own.
Yeah, there should also be "those who shouldn't" or "shouldn't be allowed" as well.
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@Mokey said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Snowy I support people choosing to be childfree 100%. Live your best life, knowing what's best for you.
The Simpsons said it best....
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@Snowy I always remember one time at winz when I was unwell and getting assistance, being in line behind a woman on the dpb who told her (incredibly pissed off) caseworker that she was pregnant again. I think it was like #5 or #6. That old quandary, increasing money to feed/house innocent kids vs rewarding lazy skanky bitch.
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@Mokey said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Snowy I always remember one time at winz when I was unwell and getting assistance, being in line behind a woman on the dpb who told her (incredibly pissed off) caseworker that she was pregnant again. I think it was like #5 or #6. That old quandary, increasing money to feed/house innocent kids vs rewarding lazy skanky bitch.
Slightly off topic but it's always nice going to WINZ if you ever need motivation or to feel better about yourself. Some years back I had to go through the processes as I had been made redundant and the payout money was starting to dwindle.
Some people are just beyond help.
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There definitely woman out there who see having kids as a career, the more they have the higher their DPB goes up. The amount they can get is ridiculous. They often hide the fact the dad is living with them as well..
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@MN5 said in No kids, any regrets?:
Slightly off topic but it's always nice going to WINZ if you ever need motivation or to feel better about yourself. Some years back I had to go through the processes as I had been made redundant and the payout money was starting to dwindle.
I was thinking the same thing (having been through that redundancy thing, and thought I'd talk to WINZ about my options)
sure they (people at WINZ) likely deal with some of the real scum of society and it must wear them down, but plenty still need to learn how to deal with people better.
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@Mokey said in No kids, any regrets?:
That old quandary, increasing money to feed/house innocent kids vs rewarding lazy skanky bitch.
Yep. I had a Vicky Pollard renting a place off me for a while. Five or six kids by the time she left. Never missed a rent payment, though. Thanks WINZ.
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@taniwharugby said in No kids, any regrets?:
@MN5 said in No kids, any regrets?:
Slightly off topic but it's always nice going to WINZ if you ever need motivation or to feel better about yourself. Some years back I had to go through the processes as I had been made redundant and the payout money was starting to dwindle.
I was thinking the same thing (having been through that redundancy thing, and thought I'd talk to WINZ about my options)
sure they (people at WINZ) likely deal with some of the real scum of society and it must wear them down, but plenty still need to learn how to deal with people better.
The paperwork that myself and the ex wife had to go through was absolutely ridiculous. We had to set aside an entire afternoon just to get things done, not easy with a toddler and newborn.
I have no idea how genuine ferals even get on the DPB, do case managers just look at them, shrug their shoulders and approve their applications ?
But as you allude to, fuck working at WINZ, no wonder there is security at every site just in case feral families don't get more money approved in time when female feral pops out baby number eight.
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@Snowy said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Mokey said in No kids, any regrets?:
That old quandary, increasing money to feed/house innocent kids vs rewarding lazy skanky bitch.
Yep. I had a Vicky Pollard renting a place off me for a while. Five or six kids by the time she left. Never missed a rent payment, though. Thanks WINZ.
I think you mean thank us, the tax payers
