Parenting
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@NTA when I lived int he UK I used to go running along the canals, had to run by a park to get there, I only ran 3 times a week, but sure enough, every time for about 6 months there was this couple who arrived in separate cars shagging in one of them...I may have been wrong, but I assume they were having an affair not just a married couple spicing things up.
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@taniwharugby said in Parenting:
@NTA when I lived int he UK I used to go running along the canals, had to run by a park to get there, I only ran 3 times a week, but sure enough, every time for about 6 months there was this couple who arrived in separate cars shagging in one of them...I may have been wrong, but I assume they were having an affair not just a married couple spicing things up.
Tell me more about this spicing you talk of???
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So yesterday was one of the shittest I have had as a Dad.
TR Jnr and his mate were in town, in a reasonably busy area, and they were sitting on a bench and 2 boys, maybe a year or so older approached them, one smacked his mate in the head, the other made TR Jnr give him his hat, jersey and shoes, asked for his phone but TR Jnr played dumb, and they got distracted and left.
The dude that took his stuff claimed he was homeless and life was tough and thats why he was doing it.
His mate had a cut below his eye.
I was on my way to see a client when he called to tell me about it, so I turned around and got him, drove round town a bit, couldnt see them. Mrs TR picked him up and they went to the cops, much to TR Jnr's protesting.
His mate was down there too.
These boys were caught on CCTV camera, and likely involved in another similar incident soon after.
I went for a wander round town again while he was at the cops, but didnt see anyone matching his descriptions, and I looked for areas where they may have dumped the stuff (cos TR Jnr said there was no way they'd fit his shoes)
Just makes me so mad, lucky I didnt happen across them while on my search, otherwise I would likely have got in more trouble.
TR Jnr is more worried that he was literally scared stiff, didnt know what to do.
After him walking me through it, I have told him, it was the right thing to do just giving them his stuff, it was just clothes, his mate came off worse!
His mate had been punched and was on the ground by the other guy, if he'd cracked this guy in the balls or smashed his nose, chances are, his mate on the ground woulda copped it more.
This kind of petty random shit has always gone on (I had it happen to me in my teens) but by god it made me so fucking mad yesterday, I dunno what I'd of done if I found the little fluffybunnies, but I dont expect it woulda been just walk them to the cops.
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Man that is an awful experience.
Sounds like a beating would do those scumbags good.
Probably not. I would assume that happens to them regularly at home or otherwise.
I think TR's kid did very well. Self preservation is a good thing to have. He made a good decision even if he was scared stiff.
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@taniwharugby said in Parenting:
So yesterday was one of the shittest I have had as a Dad.
TR Jnr and his mate were in town, in a reasonably busy area, and they were sitting on a bench and 2 boys, maybe a year or so older approached them, one smacked his mate in the head, the other made TR Jnr give him his hat, jersey and shoes, asked for his phone but TR Jnr played dumb, and they got distracted and left.
The dude that took his stuff claimed he was homeless and life was tough and thats why he was doing it.
His mate had a cut below his eye.
I was on my way to see a client when he called to tell me about it, so I turned around and got him, drove round town a bit, couldnt see them. Mrs TR picked him up and they went to the cops, much to TR Jnr's protesting.
His mate was down there too.
These boys were caught on CCTV camera, and likely involved in another similar incident soon after.
I went for a wander round town again while he was at the cops, but didnt see anyone matching his descriptions, and I looked for areas where they may have dumped the stuff (cos TR Jnr said there was no way they'd fit his shoes)
Just makes me so mad, lucky I didnt happen across them while on my search, otherwise I would likely have got in more trouble.
TR Jnr is more worried that he was literally scared stiff, didnt know what to do.
After him walking me through it, I have told him, it was the right thing to do just giving them his stuff, it was just clothes, his mate came off worse!
His mate had been punched and was on the ground by the other guy, if he'd cracked this guy in the balls or smashed his nose, chances are, his mate on the ground woulda copped it more.
This kind of petty random shit has always gone on (I had it happen to me in my teens) but by god it made me so fucking mad yesterday, I dunno what I'd of done if I found the little fluffybunnies, but I dont expect it woulda been just walk them to the cops.
That’s horrible. Hope JR is able to get past it quickly. The worst thing is that these lowlifes won’t even get a slap on the wrist while you’d get into serious trouble if you found them and slapped them around. The system is completely fúcked.
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@Rancid-Schnitzel when we said he needed to go the police he said I cant, they'll be looking for me...I was like mate, I garantee you could walk past them tomorrow and they wouldnt remember you, just random fluffybunnies.
He also said the cops are useless, they cant do anything, which is where I had to say something, told him it's not that the cops dont want to, its often there is little they can do, and if they do catch them, thier hands are tied as to what they can do about it.
But I said in reporting it, if they do get caught, it might stop them before they escalate to the next level.
But am about to go for a stroll again shortly....
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@taniwharugby Jesus that's rough. Hope your son is coming to terms with it.
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@taniwharugby said in Parenting:
@Rancid-Schnitzel when we said he needed to go the police he said I cant, they'll be looking for me...I was like mate, I garantee you could walk past them tomorrow and they wouldnt remember you, just random fluffybunnies.
He also said the cops are useless, they cant do anything, which is where I had to say something, told him it's not that the cops dont want to, its often there is little they can do, and if they do catch them, thier hands are tied as to what they can do about it.
But I said in reporting it, if they do get caught, it might stop them before they escalate to the next level.
But am about to go for a stroll again shortly....
I sincerely hope you don't find them. We both know you the Police wouldn't cut you the same slack as these losers if you gave them what they deserve, sadly.
When I was a young fella in Whangarei the cops used to deal with that sort of shit in a much more traditional manner. There was one hard-arsed Maori cop in particular who everybody (probably including you) knew who used to get sent round to teach the ferals some respect. I remember particularly well one night when he told a couple of guys who kicked off outside a party we were at "Don't call me mate. I am not your mate, as you are about to find out. Get in the fuckin' car". You didn't fuck with Paddy. I can't imagine someone like him would last more than 5 minutes in the Police nowadays.
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@JC do you remember 'Bubba'?
Big Maori kid, lived up off High Street.
Anyway, he stole my rugby ball one time, and my 5ft noting mum went round to his place and got it back, he got a wopping from his parents, and from that day always called out and said 'Hi Mrs B' and always kept an eye out for me at school (given I was a midget at Primary school)
Yeah things were different, IMO same amount of shit, but it escalates quicker, social media also plays its part, and those who will find anyone other than the fluffybunnies who do it to blame.
The stories my old man used to tell of going down the Police Bar on Fridays or he and 2 rather large Maori boys who played pro league back in the day going out to the Sets and getting in fights with gang members!
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@taniwharugby I probably would if I knew the last name.
I remember in the Setts (Kumara Pit bar) one night around New Year there was a whole lot of pissed guys dancing on tables, singing the old standard rugby drinking songs complete with obscene actions, very funny and entertaining. A couple of staunch looking Otangarei guys decided it wasn't OK and told them they were going to get dealt to if they didn't shut up and leave. A couple of the table dancers promptly produced warrant cards and told them they were under arrest. Turns out it was the entire CID on the razz.
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the more things change, the more things stay the same. teenagers still getting bashed for their shoes. incredible
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@mariner4life sad but true.
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ok so Ms 4 is going to be heading off to school in 2022. We live in a nice area of our local neighbourhood. But that's smack bang in a pretty low socio-economic community (Cannons Creek represent!). We are increasingly torn on whether we should move to broaden the school options, or pick the 'best' local option.
We love our whare and are tantilisingly close to being mortgage free (bought cheap in the creek over 10 years ago - not as impressive as it sounds lol). However we are looking to extend as the house if full to bursting with the 4 of us now. So that's another investment in the status quo.
Have you guys moved because of schools etc? how did it pan out? We know we have things covered at home in terms of our influence on the kids etc, but who knows how things will turn out with friends or situations where bullying might be more on the physical spectrum? fuck, feels awful and super judgemental to write all that out - but we are torn!!
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@mariner4life was origin jeans back in my day. Fucking Nomads from Otaki.
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@Paekakboyz I had a mate in Auckland who rented a house near a school they wanted, got daughter into school and went back to living where they were...helped he was a Property Manager in the area too, so could sort a short term rental agreement for himself....they have since moved into the area as well (god knows how they can afford it)
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@taniwharugby my SIL has offered her address which would give us more options - but it's the guilt factor! plus I work in education so it feels extra grimy lol
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@Paekakboyz said in Parenting:
@mariner4life was origin jeans back in my day. Fucking Nomads from Otaki.
bashing someone and then asking them to take off their pants sounds suuuuper suss