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@antipodean said in Happiness Scale:
@Nepia said in Happiness Scale:
@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
Anyway what's bugging the shit out of me at the moment is - quelle surprise - the wife.
In a move that has amazed onlookers (me), she booked herself in to see a psychologist.
I'm happy this moment has finally arrived. Not thrilled about the fact that both kids are also seeing a psych as it is a bit of a drain on the finances, but hopefully something good comes of it
Are psych's (cologist or therapist?) not covered under the x amount of free appointments under Medicare?
IIRC the govt subsidised 10 appointments?
Yeah, 10 sounds about right, but I'm not sure if it's only covers counselling or psych's or both.
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@Nepia said in Happiness Scale:
@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
Anyway what's bugging the shit out of me at the moment is - quelle surprise - the wife.
In a move that has amazed onlookers (me), she booked herself in to see a psychologist.
I'm happy this moment has finally arrived. Not thrilled about the fact that both kids are also seeing a psych as it is a bit of a drain on the finances, but hopefully something good comes of it
Are psych's (cologist or therapist?) not covered under the x amount of free appointments under Medicare?
As above: you see your GP and get a referral for a mental health plan. That gives you access to a clinical psychologist for 10 sessions subsidised at about 55%.
You can get private health cover for it but the premiums aren't worth it as you can only claim a few hundred per year.
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@canefan said in Happiness Scale:
@NTA Honestly, the youth of today over analyse everything. They need to do less thinking, more doing sometimes, fear less, try more
I really don't envy the youth of today. My oldest is 11 and thankfully seems to have a really good head on his shoulders, but navigating the teenage years with the internet, social media etc I can already see is going to be very tough. Humans evolved to get out and do stuff, not sit around all day interacting with each other over screens, so I can see how mental health issues are rising. I'm kind of glad I have 3 boys in this regard as that stuff affects females even more.
I think I've said it before, but kids that grew up in the 80s & 90s had it the best. Modern comforts without the craziness of the internet and all that has come with it. Spend all day on the bikes with mates, come home to a home cooked meal and some TV in the evenings. Simpler times, great memories.
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Flying to USofA tomorrow - and it's really kicking in finally - it's fucking happening, and... what the fuck was I thinking to agree to this?
I know there's gonna be a metric (fuck I'm going to miss metric) -tonne of "Just make the most of it, enjoy it for what it is" advice - and yeah, I've been telling myself that for the last few weeks... and promised myself I'll keep telling myself that, but... this is just a bit of a rant to excise current psych-demons...I've moved around the world heaps. And always just... "Fuck it, let's try it out". This is the first time (I remember) being this nervous, as it approaches. Night before I'm due to fly, and I sit on the shitter, and say out loud "What the fuck am I doing?"
I know what I'm doing - I'm following through on my normal approach of having something new presented to me and saying "Fuck it, why not?" But for the first time - being old/cowardly/lazy/wise? enough to hesitate and go "nah... fuck... nah fuck that"And yeah - I know... "first world problems" - moving to the US is a dream for a shitload of people around the world. Just... not for anybody living anywhere else in the 'first world'.
Sorry... this is just a vent. Rather drunk on my last evening in NZ, and... if I'm honest, probably cap-in-hand begging for all those positive-encouragement responses that I pretend I don't want. But even more so... actually hoping for some that will help...
Deal with the fucking Imperial system. Fucking tipping culture. Fucking mm/dd. Fucking... trying to get an apartment lease without any credit rating, or a bank account, or a Social-Security-Number; because I can't get a fucking bank account without a proof of address... and I can't get a credit rating without a bank account, and I can't get a proof-of-address without an apartment with utilities (who will also want credit-rating); and ... just... fuck it... I'm landing tomorrow, I'll see how it goes.For now - I'm gonna watch some professional wrestling, and get in the mindset.
'Murica! Land of the Free! Whoever told you that is your enemy!! -
Immigrant!!
You took er jerbs!
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@MajorRage said in Happiness Scale:
Good luck with the DMV.
Right?
In my "Employees guide to moving to the US" - it talks about the DMV... I need to copy/paste some shit when I get the chance, but effectively... "expect long queues, confusing paperwork, just general fuckery". That's presumably written by the seppos themselves.
I've had enough of that during the visa process... I'm gonna leave the DMV until next year.Oh - and yeah - behind that post was that I'm constantly telling myself to stop being a vagina, and just... fucking deal with it, enjoy it.
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Been burning the candle at both ends, physically and mentally over the last 6 weeks or so (and the candle gets shorter as you get older).
Tons of work needed to get ahead of the garden and the weather has been shit. Also organising fund-raising events for the charity I'm involved with and also refurbing their premises. A week in Holland refreshed the brain but all the walking was tiring (in a good way) but the beer was crap. I haven't had time for much de-stressing on the Honda and, anyway, the weather has been shit.
Anxiety really kicks in when I'm on the edge - we have a big fundraising event tomorrow - so that hits sleep. Add-in mild 'flu and I'm kinda stressed right now.
But all good. The weather is due to turn next week and progress is on track. Can't complain.
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Anxiety and mental health are real. Respect them, live with them, but don't let them get to you. Change if you need to change, stopping something is not a sign of weakness.
Lots of people struggle, few are honest with themselves, fewer again publicly. A mate who had a long consulting career and was tough as nails confessed their anxiety had climbed one the last few years before retirement. Shit is real.
Hang in there, there's always the pointlessness of sport. But do get out into nature too, that's important
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Mental health and anxiety are absolutely real. My best mate at school is bipolar and he basically lost his entire 20’s to manic highs and debilitating lows. In and out of psych wards, lots of friends and family impacted. Finally turned for the better when the drug concoction recipe got the mark and he’s been in a good place since.
All that said, I think people are way too quick to pull the anxiety lever these days. Everyone gets a bit anxious, everyone gets a bit down too. People forget that life isn’t supposed to be easy and happy 100% of the time. Work is supposed to be challenging, relationships can test you. The world is a bit scary. Nobody has a unilateral right to be happy all the time. Anyone who tells you that they never feel slightly anxious is either a liar or a psychopath.
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Get on a motorbike as much as you can. The USA has an almost endless network of great places to explore by bike.
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You must be getting old.
Think of all the new booze you can try and the shit movies and um BBQ.
What's the worst that can happen. You hate it and have to tough it out or bail and take the consequences.
There's an awful lot of upsides from either of those scenarios.
Like @NTA I'm jealous. It's not ebola ridden west africa. It's Seattle
and if things do get rough you know lots of Polish chicks on the interweb
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@voodoo yep, people need to realise it is OK, to not be OK.
Other people's lives are not perfect, despite what some will try to portray to every, particularly those who like the world to know via Social Media.
What is key, is knowing when you are anxious or down, and how you deal with it, and everyone is different, along with talking about it.
Since covid, my happy place is the gym, I get anxious (😄) when I can't go for a few days...#losethosegains
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@taniwharugby absolutely all of that
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@voodoo said in Happiness Scale:
@taniwharugby absolutely all of that
I’ll agree with what you agreed on too.
I love my garage gym which is also right beside my garage bar. Trick is to get the balance right and not overdo either of them.
It will be handy to drown my sorrows as my strength inevitably declines with age though.
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Bugger me. It was all down to the steak and chips...
Eating too much steak and fries could increase the risk of anxiety
Colorado researchers found a diet rich in fatty foods like fries, pizza, and red meat can influence the activity of 'feel good' serotonin cells in the brain, leading to greater anxiety.
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