Dad advice sharing thread.
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TR Jnr has been doing Tae Kwon Do since he started getting bullied, so I know if someone has a crack, he has the tools to defend himself, and alot of the talk at TKD is about defence and then getting out of the situation (ie maybe a punch or a kick to slow the bully down, then leave)
From when I have done some sparring with him before gradings, I know he can hit hard, but I am still not sure he has it in him to hit someone.
But I have told him he needs to just be aware of people around him, when he walks past the known dickheads, he should make sure his spidey senses are on full, so he doesnt get caught by surprise.
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@antipodean said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
It's a problem that has two clear drivers; decreasing talent pool for the positions and fear of litigious parents.
It's unfortunate that a child should be punished for exercising their right to self defence.
Yep, principal admitted as much when forced into a corner. Unfortunately there are so many fucking idiot parents out there. If my son had repeatedly abused a bigger kid after being told for almost a full day to back off and warned of the repurcussions, I would have told him he deserved whatever response he received. If anything it's an important life lesson. Do that in a pub or nightclub and you may end up in hospital.
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@taniwharugby TKD is a great idea, I will get my son into that. If for nothing more than his self confidence.
@Rancid-Schnitzel that's fucking horrible mate, I would be absolutely fuming. My son's school did the same thing, trying to draw an equivalence between being physically held and my boy telling the kid to fuck off. Personally I was proud of him for standing up for himself.
I agree that if my son was involved in bullying another kid I'd want to be all over that shit, as a parent it's my primary job to ensure that sort of behavior is stamped out early. Also agree that many parents wouldn't follow through which is probably why the school attempts to downplay it initially. My wife is a lawyer so wasn't willing to just let it go, and gave the VP an absolute grilling when we met with her which was pretty amusing.
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@no-quarter yeah the confidence thing is a huge part of it.
TR Jnr is too mellow (except where his sister involved) and I am also trying to teach him a bit more awareness of the situation.
So often he'd come home saying this happened or that happened and I'd say well why didnt you just stay away or do this and he'd say oh I had to go that way, or I had to be there cos...learnign that he sees the dickheads in his path when he is going somewhere, he should go another way, or be aware of them and keep an eye on them to see if they are trying to get round behind.
But kids are dickheads these days.
Boy in story above that got kicked out of school, one day at rugby training (he aint in my team) he tried to take on one of the bigger boys, who basically tackled him to the ground and held him there saying I dont want to hurt you, but if you keep being a dick, I will.
He then threatened to go get his mates and come back, all the boys laughed and that was the last of that matter.
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My 9 year old son loves rugby, but has had to stop due to some sort of wierd issue which the doctprs cannot figure out, means he just cannot run properly/quickly. All the serious shit has been eliminated, so no cancers or nasty diseases, and they really dont think it is arthritis.
Even harder when his little sister still plays rugby...
But things have a purpose, and he still won the club champs at Tennis and most of his interclub games, and he discovered his one true sporting love.
Leg spin bowling! Little fucker is a dead set legend at it, learnt it all from youtube videos and ALOT of practice down the hallway over last summer holidays, can bowl straight and get significant turn, last few weeks he was practicing his front foot pivoting so he can bring his back leg through. Apparently that is what Shane Warne said to do on Youtube...
He is carving up at indoor cricket, not really bowling anyone as his leggies spin away from wicket and he cannot bowl a googly at will (it just happens randomly).
Last year at Bay Oval ODI Joe Root handed out practice balls to the kids, and Will was lucky enough to get one... Root offered to sign it and Wil said 'No thanks, I just want Kane williamsons signature as he went to his school, Trent Boult as he plays at the same club as Dad, and Ish Sodhis as he is a leg spinner' .. Root looked a little shocked at the speech and for once I was truly embarrassed. Could have killed him. Thankfully Root just laughed and told the ginger wicketkeeper they had... who told Sodhi and Will got all 3 signatures. I wanted a hole to open up and swallow me.
Sadly when I sggested Will play cricket this summer he has ZERO interest, would rather play tennis, and he doesnt want to play outdoor cricket he just wants to bowl legspin. Weird little freak.
Black Caps. Dream. OverHe has asked for his xmas present to be some legspin bowling lessons.. where the fuck do you order that??
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@baron-silas-greenback said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
He has asked for his xmas present to be some legspin bowling lessons.. where the fuck do you order that??
Isn't there a great coach in Tauranga for that? Taught KW et al out side of school?
I wouldn't give up the BC dream yet. He's only 9
You'll just have to make a decision on what event you want to travel to support him at. The All England Lawn Tennis and Croquet Club or at Lords
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@no-quarter said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
@taniwharugby TKD is a great idea, I will get my son into that. If for nothing more than his self confidence.
@Rancid-Schnitzel that's fucking horrible mate, I would be absolutely fuming. My son's school did the same thing, trying to draw an equivalence between being physically held and my boy telling the kid to fuck off. Personally I was proud of him for standing up for himself.
I agree that if my son was involved in bullying another kid I'd want to be all over that shit, as a parent it's my primary job to ensure that sort of behavior is stamped out early. Also agree that many parents wouldn't follow through which is probably why the school attempts to downplay it initially. My wife is a lawyer so wasn't willing to just let it go, and gave the VP an absolute grilling when we met with her which was pretty amusing.
Is this school in Aus or NZ mate?
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@antipodean said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
It's a problem that has two clear drivers; decreasing talent pool for the positions and fear of litigious parents.
It's unfortunate that a child should be punished for exercising their right to self defence.
Yeah good points. There was the story of that school that tried to discipline those entitled little shits when they rode the baggage claim at the airport, which resulted in their parents taking legal action instead of using it as a way to teach an important lesson to their own kids. Just ridiculous.
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@hooroo said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
@baron-silas-greenback said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
He has asked for his xmas present to be some legspin bowling lessons.. where the fuck do you order that??
Isn't there a great coach in Tauranga for that? Taught KW et al out side of school?
I wouldn't give up the BC dream yet. He's only 9
You'll just have to make a decision on what event you want to travel to support him at. The All England Lawn Tennis and Croquet Club or at Lords
If you want your kid to play elite level sport. Tennis is a mugs game. Nigh on impossible. Kids sport is all about discovering what they love (well duh!).. but in tennis some parents have silly aspirations for the poor kids.
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@jegga said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
@rancid-schnitzel the little shit that choked my kid busted out the tears too . I wanted him dropped from rugby but his father coaches and sponsors the first 15 and said since it didn’t happen on the rugby field it shouldn’t affect his rugby.
I was keen to take it further, a mate of mine suggested going to the papers as the kids dads former team was touring at the time and his kids behaviour coupled with his dads history would have made for some nice click bait but my son wanted to put it behind him.
Hmm.
A girl a year ahead of Ms Boo Jr and in the netball division ahead of her got into a fight with another chick and got banned from extra curricula activities including netball which is associated but separate from school.
School said basically nup, can't play, GF or no-GF.
Our school is quite strong on that. Being a church school we are not in the State school system.
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@rancid-schnitzel said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
equivalency
My opinion....
I think "counsellors" are taught that they need to find fault on both sides so that both sides can admit some fault and everyone then says "sorry' and gets on with making up is their raison d'etre.
Having been in the situation where I've been 100% the aggrieved party but had some piston wristed gibbon desperately trying to get to get me to admit to some, any, sort of culpability I've come to realise it's about bullshit process rather than trying to find the real solution (make both parties admit some degree of fault so both parties can come back and kiss and make up) I think that's why I lthink they ignore the bullies and try and victim blame the bullied.
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@booboo Drunk posting is usually the best for rants so good on you mate. Sorry to hear the reason for the drunk posting though. Hope your old dear gets better.
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I just had to hold my 6 year old son earlier this morning as he underwent a General Anaesthetic (tooth issue, not a big deal he's fine now).
It was fucking heart breaking, gut wrenching and emotionally draining all in one go. Had to sit outside afterwards for 10 mins to regather myself.
Just a heads up for those that may have to put their kids under general at some point in the future. They'll warn you it's tough, I've warned you it's tough, but you still aren't prepared. I really hope I never ever have to do that again.
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@majorrage I had to do that with Ms Cato No1and she was scared stiff she wasn't going to wake up. As you say, heartbreaking mellowed only slightly by her last words before drifting off from the gas. "Dad, they're Germans. I know they're Germans".
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@rancid-schnitzel said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
@no-quarter said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
@taniwharugby TKD is a great idea, I will get my son into that. If for nothing more than his self confidence.
@Rancid-Schnitzel that's fucking horrible mate, I would be absolutely fuming. My son's school did the same thing, trying to draw an equivalence between being physically held and my boy telling the kid to fuck off. Personally I was proud of him for standing up for himself.
I agree that if my son was involved in bullying another kid I'd want to be all over that shit, as a parent it's my primary job to ensure that sort of behavior is stamped out early. Also agree that many parents wouldn't follow through which is probably why the school attempts to downplay it initially. My wife is a lawyer so wasn't willing to just let it go, and gave the VP an absolute grilling when we met with her which was pretty amusing.
Is this school in Aus or NZ mate?
An Auckland school, though my experience seems eerily similar to yours..
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@taniwharugby said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
@mooshld TR Jnr had Grommets in and adenoids out in the same procedure, think he was about 4 (was his second set of them) Not a fun time.
Yeah my middle fellah had to get a second set at 4. The older one was fine after the first set.
