Dad advice sharing thread.
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@jegga said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
@rancid-schnitzel the little shit that choked my kid busted out the tears too . I wanted him dropped from rugby but his father coaches and sponsors the first 15 and said since it didn’t happen on the rugby field it shouldn’t affect his rugby.
I was keen to take it further, a mate of mine suggested going to the papers as the kids dads former team was touring at the time and his kids behaviour coupled with his dads history would have made for some nice click bait but my son wanted to put it behind him.
Hmm.
A girl a year ahead of Ms Boo Jr and in the netball division ahead of her got into a fight with another chick and got banned from extra curricula activities including netball which is associated but separate from school.
School said basically nup, can't play, GF or no-GF.
Our school is quite strong on that. Being a church school we are not in the State school system.
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@rancid-schnitzel said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
equivalency
My opinion....
I think "counsellors" are taught that they need to find fault on both sides so that both sides can admit some fault and everyone then says "sorry' and gets on with making up is their raison d'etre.
Having been in the situation where I've been 100% the aggrieved party but had some piston wristed gibbon desperately trying to get to get me to admit to some, any, sort of culpability I've come to realise it's about bullshit process rather than trying to find the real solution (make both parties admit some degree of fault so both parties can come back and kiss and make up) I think that's why I lthink they ignore the bullies and try and victim blame the bullied.
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@booboo Drunk posting is usually the best for rants so good on you mate. Sorry to hear the reason for the drunk posting though. Hope your old dear gets better.
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I just had to hold my 6 year old son earlier this morning as he underwent a General Anaesthetic (tooth issue, not a big deal he's fine now).
It was fucking heart breaking, gut wrenching and emotionally draining all in one go. Had to sit outside afterwards for 10 mins to regather myself.
Just a heads up for those that may have to put their kids under general at some point in the future. They'll warn you it's tough, I've warned you it's tough, but you still aren't prepared. I really hope I never ever have to do that again.
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@majorrage I had to do that with Ms Cato No1and she was scared stiff she wasn't going to wake up. As you say, heartbreaking mellowed only slightly by her last words before drifting off from the gas. "Dad, they're Germans. I know they're Germans".
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@rancid-schnitzel said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
@no-quarter said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
@taniwharugby TKD is a great idea, I will get my son into that. If for nothing more than his self confidence.
@Rancid-Schnitzel that's fucking horrible mate, I would be absolutely fuming. My son's school did the same thing, trying to draw an equivalence between being physically held and my boy telling the kid to fuck off. Personally I was proud of him for standing up for himself.
I agree that if my son was involved in bullying another kid I'd want to be all over that shit, as a parent it's my primary job to ensure that sort of behavior is stamped out early. Also agree that many parents wouldn't follow through which is probably why the school attempts to downplay it initially. My wife is a lawyer so wasn't willing to just let it go, and gave the VP an absolute grilling when we met with her which was pretty amusing.
Is this school in Aus or NZ mate?
An Auckland school, though my experience seems eerily similar to yours..
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@taniwharugby said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
@mooshld TR Jnr had Grommets in and adenoids out in the same procedure, think he was about 4 (was his second set of them) Not a fun time.
Yeah my middle fellah had to get a second set at 4. The older one was fine after the first set.
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Son is stepping up to hardball cricket this year. Its a year early for him so playing against older kids plus he's small so a little apprehensive but he dominated in his 8 a side T20 last year for year 3s and made the year 4 (a year up) rep squad.
Any tips for the step up? Will be first time wearing pads, helmet etc.
Had a bit of a net session with him on sat morning and to be honest I didnt like facing him that much with the add speed he gets bowling with the heavier ball. Couple of waist high full tosses came through and I was just happy to get out of the fkn way
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@jk said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
Any tips for the step up? Will be first time wearing pads, helmet etc.
Practice first- get some time in the nets.
Start with throwdowns so it's not scary. Remember full speed for an adult ain't what they'll see from Y3 and Y4. The bounce is lower, the speeds are lower, etc. Also running in pads is hard - practice that a bit!
Practice a bunch of throwing and catching - softly, and getting harder - so that the feel of the ball isn't too worrying. Time with the ball means they are more comfortable.
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@nzzp said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
@jk said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
Any tips for the step up? Will be first time wearing pads, helmet etc.
Practice first- get some time in the nets.
Start with throwdowns so it's not scary. Remember full speed for an adult ain't what they'll see from Y3 and Y4. The bounce is lower, the speeds are lower, etc. Also running in pads is hard - practice that a bit!
Practice a bunch of throwing and catching - softly, and getting harder - so that the feel of the ball isn't too worrying. Time with the ball means they are more comfortable.
On the running with pads, we used to do lots of different drills back in the day to try and make it fun.
Suicides with the pads on; team relays of running the length of field take pads off hand them to team mate and then they run. The best was having three pads, one in the middle and two at either ends of the ground, two guys start in the middle and run to either end, put the pad on and then run back to middle with one pad on and whoever got heir first and put he second one won.
As a kid back in the day with the old non-valcro strap pads half the problem was getting the damn things on so you could actually run properly. These games taught us that it was just as important to put the pads on right!
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@jk catching. Once you realise you can catch any high or hard ball hit at you, then you understand the hardness of the ball and how to combat it. If you can catch throws from the field to the stumps then you've had experience of all types of ball hurt
Sounds counter intuitive to expect this to help batting but it all ties in.Get well fitting thigh and inner thigh pads and wear them every time in the nets.
Tennis ball practice for watching and evading short bowling. Wetting the tennis ball helps too.
Remember to point out that even the pros feel anxious with short bowling so it's normal, but it's also pretty easy to evade short stuff if you can sway and duck.
Good luck to him
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Make sure he practices his 'yeah, nah' calling. If he wants to run out his teammates like real pro's do
But seriously getting consistent on your calling, and which end is calling the run, is good to bed in early.
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@paekakboyz said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
Make sure he practices his 'yeah, nah' calling. If he wants to run out his teammates like real pro's do
But seriously getting consistent on your calling, and which end is calling the run, is good to bed in early.
Being able to judge a run is important at that age. I was once run out after a magnificent cover drive where Scott and I argued if there was a run in it. After a fair bit of back and forth I committed and was subsequently run out by less than a metre. Which proved me correct.
For clarity; I hit the shot. Scott called the run. On reflection there was probably two in it.
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@antipodean fucking Scott!!
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@siam said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
@jk catching. Once you realise you can catch any high or hard ball hit at you, then you understand the hardness of the ball and how to combat it. If you can catch throws from the field to the stumps then you've had experience of all types of ball hurt
Sounds counter intuitive to expect this to help batting but it all ties in.Get well fitting thigh and inner thigh pads and wear them every time in the nets.
Tennis ball practice for watching and evading short bowling. Wetting the tennis ball helps too.
Remember to point out that even the pros feel anxious with short bowling so it's normal, but it's also pretty easy to evade short stuff if you can sway and duck.
Good luck to him
Yeah, good point on the short stuff. If you can master the sway then you suddenly feel infinitely more confident. Would expand that to ensure he has good overall defense against the hard ball - if he is comfortable getting bat on everything then that will build his confidence and he can move on to choosing which balls to have a go at.
