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Mental health and anxiety are absolutely real. My best mate at school is bipolar and he basically lost his entire 20’s to manic highs and debilitating lows. In and out of psych wards, lots of friends and family impacted. Finally turned for the better when the drug concoction recipe got the mark and he’s been in a good place since.
All that said, I think people are way too quick to pull the anxiety lever these days. Everyone gets a bit anxious, everyone gets a bit down too. People forget that life isn’t supposed to be easy and happy 100% of the time. Work is supposed to be challenging, relationships can test you. The world is a bit scary. Nobody has a unilateral right to be happy all the time. Anyone who tells you that they never feel slightly anxious is either a liar or a psychopath.
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Get on a motorbike as much as you can. The USA has an almost endless network of great places to explore by bike.
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You must be getting old.
Think of all the new booze you can try and the shit movies and um BBQ.
What's the worst that can happen. You hate it and have to tough it out or bail and take the consequences.
There's an awful lot of upsides from either of those scenarios.
Like @NTA I'm jealous. It's not ebola ridden west africa. It's Seattle
and if things do get rough you know lots of Polish chicks on the interweb
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@voodoo yep, people need to realise it is OK, to not be OK.
Other people's lives are not perfect, despite what some will try to portray to every, particularly those who like the world to know via Social Media.
What is key, is knowing when you are anxious or down, and how you deal with it, and everyone is different, along with talking about it.
Since covid, my happy place is the gym, I get anxious (😄) when I can't go for a few days...#losethosegains
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@taniwharugby absolutely all of that
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@voodoo said in Happiness Scale:
@taniwharugby absolutely all of that
I’ll agree with what you agreed on too.
I love my garage gym which is also right beside my garage bar. Trick is to get the balance right and not overdo either of them.
It will be handy to drown my sorrows as my strength inevitably declines with age though.
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Bugger me. It was all down to the steak and chips...
Eating too much steak and fries could increase the risk of anxiety
Colorado researchers found a diet rich in fatty foods like fries, pizza, and red meat can influence the activity of 'feel good' serotonin cells in the brain, leading to greater anxiety.
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@Victor-Meldrew said in Happiness Scale:
Bugger me. It was all down to the steak and chips...
Eating too much steak and fries could increase the risk of anxiety
Colorado researchers found a diet rich in fatty foods like fries, pizza, and red meat can influence the activity of 'feel good' serotonin cells in the brain, leading to greater anxiety.
Fake news clearly written by a vegan
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@voodoo said in Happiness Scale:
All that said, I think people are way too quick to pull the anxiety lever these days. Everyone gets a bit anxious, everyone gets a bit down too. People forget that life isn’t supposed to be easy and happy 100% of the time. Work is supposed to be challenging, relationships can test you. The world is a bit scary. Nobody has a unilateral right to be happy all the time. Anyone who tells you that they never feel slightly anxious is either a liar or a psychopath.
I think the issue is when you are in the anxiety it's hard to see the other side. One of the reasons I'm better at dealing with it now is that with every bout I become increasingly confident it's just temporary and it will pass. So I just have to put my head down and get through it.
But the early days were tough as I had no real conception as to why it was all happening, and if it would ever pass. And no idea what tools I had at my disposal to get on top of it.
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@canefan said in Happiness Scale:
@Victor-Meldrew said in Happiness Scale:
Bugger me. It was all down to the steak and chips...
Eating too much steak and fries could increase the risk of anxiety
Colorado researchers found a diet rich in fatty foods like fries, pizza, and red meat can influence the activity of 'feel good' serotonin cells in the brain, leading to greater anxiety.
Fake news clearly written by a vegan
Agreed. Who has ever felt worse after eating a good steak or pizza?
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@antipodean said in Happiness Scale:
@canefan said in Happiness Scale:
@Victor-Meldrew said in Happiness Scale:
Bugger me. It was all down to the steak and chips...
Eating too much steak and fries could increase the risk of anxiety
Colorado researchers found a diet rich in fatty foods like fries, pizza, and red meat can influence the activity of 'feel good' serotonin cells in the brain, leading to greater anxiety.
Fake news clearly written by a vegan
Agreed. Who has ever felt worse after eating a good steak or pizza?
How My Health Changed After I Started Eating Meat Again
My doctors suggested supplements, but I knew my body was asking for a change. After three years of being vegan, I decided to eat meat again.
Truth. Veganism is like trying to live with one hand tied behind your back
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I've been doing it tough lately, relating to my wife's mental health which has deteriorated badly, I was thinking about posting in here in more detail to see if it helps, maybe I will at some point. The end result is I am currently a single dad of three boys aged 3, 5 and 11. During the day I am mostly OK, work and looking after them keeps me busy, but once they are in bed in the evenings it can all suddenly hit home and I get really sad about everything. Just writing this is making me tear up a bit, I feel like I am faking it a bit for the sake of the boys, but all of these emotions are just bubbling under the surface. Life can be really hard at times.
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@No-Quarter sorry to hear it mate, that sounds super tough, i dont have kids so my opinions is pretty worthless on the subject but when things are tough, if they're dry, and fed and safe then you're doing a great job and when theyre older i have faith they'll look back and appreciate everything you do
Everyones struggles are their own, can't compare one with another but know youre not alone.....there seem to always be lunatics on here at all hours of the day and night will to talk shit about rugby
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@No-Quarter dang, that's tough to hear mate. Hope she comes out the other side for both your sake and hers - and also for the kids. Is she getting some help?
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@antipodean said in Happiness Scale:
@canefan said in Happiness Scale:
@Victor-Meldrew said in Happiness Scale:
Bugger me. It was all down to the steak and chips...
Eating too much steak and fries could increase the risk of anxiety
Colorado researchers found a diet rich in fatty foods like fries, pizza, and red meat can influence the activity of 'feel good' serotonin cells in the brain, leading to greater anxiety.
Fake news clearly written by a vegan
Agreed. Who has ever felt worse after eating a good steak or pizza?
I had a couple of 800g steaks in BA a few years back, I can't 100% say I felt better after polishing those off...
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@voodoo said in Happiness Scale:
@antipodean said in Happiness Scale:
@canefan said in Happiness Scale:
@Victor-Meldrew said in Happiness Scale:
Bugger me. It was all down to the steak and chips...
Eating too much steak and fries could increase the risk of anxiety
Colorado researchers found a diet rich in fatty foods like fries, pizza, and red meat can influence the activity of 'feel good' serotonin cells in the brain, leading to greater anxiety.
Fake news clearly written by a vegan
Agreed. Who has ever felt worse after eating a good steak or pizza?
I had a couple of 800g steaks in BA a few years back, I can't 100% say I felt better after polishing those off...
No one has ever felt better after overindulging with vegetables either. Even alcohol can be consumed excessively. Apparently.
I question the researchers' credentials and expertise.
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@No-Quarter said in Happiness Scale:
I've been doing it tough lately, relating to my wife's mental health which has deteriorated badly, I was thinking about posting in here in more detail to see if it helps, maybe I will at some point. The end result is I am currently a single dad of three boys aged 3, 5 and 11. During the day I am mostly OK, work and looking after them keeps me busy, but once they are in bed in the evenings it can all suddenly hit home and I get really sad about everything. Just writing this is making me tear up a bit, I feel like I am faking it a bit for the sake of the boys, but all of these emotions are just bubbling under the surface. Life can be really hard at times.
Shit that's tough mate. If unloading on here to a bunch of Polish chicks is cathartic then you should do it as often as you need to. Everyone is different, but I find talking things out with sympathetic like minded people makes me feel good. Share good and bad stuff, it's the sharing that helps
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@antipodean said in Happiness Scale:
..... Even alcohol can be consumed excessively. Apparently.
now you're part of the problem
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@antipodean said in Happiness Scale:
Even alcohol can be consumed excessively. Apparently.
I can actually confirm....
It's happened once... to me personally. I was on-call, and at a party with my mates' little sister's friends... and got called on to do some technical intervention.
I literally couldn't see the keys on the laptop to type my password - had to call somebody over, tell them my password, so that they could type it in, and I was away.
After that, it was all muscle memory... I typed in some highly dangerous commands after slightly dubious judgement calls - problem got solved, everybody happy.
But yeah... for a minute there... I thought "Shit... I think I've drunk too much".
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@No-Quarter said in Happiness Scale:
I've been doing it tough lately, relating to my wife's mental health which has deteriorated badly, I was thinking about posting in here in more detail to see if it helps, maybe I will at some point. The end result is I am currently a single dad of three boys aged 3, 5 and 11. During the day I am mostly OK, work and looking after them keeps me busy, but once they are in bed in the evenings it can all suddenly hit home and I get really sad about everything. Just writing this is making me tear up a bit, I feel like I am faking it a bit for the sake of the boys, but all of these emotions are just bubbling under the surface. Life can be really hard at times.
That sounds incredibly tough. Please share if it helps.
I know that reading some of @NTA's posts about family matters made me feel a bit less stuck knowing that other people were dealing with similar issues. None of us will be able to completely understand, but I'll bet get value from hearing it, so share if it helps you.
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