Dad advice sharing thread.
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@No-Quarter Judo has been the making of my son over the last year.
Thoroughly recommend a martial art for youngsters, the only advice I will give is to watch a couple of classes, and see if there are potentially kids who will disrupts, and if so, how the teacher handles them. When you are looking at a 7-1 ratio (it's 15-2 in my son's class), a couple of non listeners, disruptors can have a real influence, and really destroy the class.
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Thanks guys, much appreciated
@MajorRage very good call. I enrolled him in basketball last year and he got nothing out of it as the class was too big, and the disruptors meant he got basically 0 attention from the coaches. Was a waste of time in the end.
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@JK said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
Need advice re rugby this year for lil red.
The kids 9 going on 10 late this year and one of the smallest kids in his class at school etc. Currently weighs 28kg on the dot which is the cut off point for J5.
Played J6 last year and year before so has done two years tackle now. Not super confident but does very well when gets involved. Good tackling technique and work rate and pretty quick with a good step. Looks like a 10 to me or even a 9 as has a great pass for a kid of his age.
Anyway, he could prob hold his weight fine at 28kg through to 1 May and play J5 (pretty much same as J6 but has drop kick to start game rather than a tap and can fend). J4 goes to full field and pretty much full rugby but still no pushing in scrums I think. J4 weight grade jumps up a bit. He could be up to 38kg for his age (so 10kg heavier than current weight which is a lot at that size). Younger kids up to 50kg!
Anyone elses kid skipped a grade like this? Handle it OK?
He's keen on J4. Most, if not all, of his team from last year will be J5 and I think he would enjoy the season a hell of a lot more in J5.
Update - Well JKjnr has ended up in J5 and just managed to make the weight. Will ensure hes on the mark come round 1 as well for the proper weigh in.
Kinda had to go J5 in the end as J4 used to be full field for North Harbour but they've aligned with rest of the country to only go full field from J3. This meant that all his mates who were going to repeat J4 moved up to J3 as couldn't face going back to half field rugby. I suspect North Harbour J4 comp will be very weak this year.
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@mariner4life said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
I could easily get behind it for kids in their mid-teens, some of them are getting rapid. But younger? come on.
Yes, it's very "back in my day" but i only ever wore a lid at prem club level. Never at high school, and never at any other senior grade. And i could barely hold a bat.
@mariner4life Is correct.
He couldnt bat for shit.
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As for kids wearing helmets.. hell yes!
Not because any kid that age is ever going to bowl a bouncer.. most can bvarely keep it on the pitch and bounce it above knee roll height.
But because nearly every kids fav shot is the cross bat slog to deep square, and a top edge straight into the mouth is a real possibility for the uncoordinated little fuckers.
As fr my boy, he is now playing cricket and seems to like it, he is not really starring because spin bowlers have a disadvantage at that level, but he can now bowl leg breaks consistently and very rarely gets called for a wide , and his wrong un is now bloody mean, more of a off spinner out of the side of the hand, but effective and turns almost as far as his leg break, but just because he is weird he is developing a different wrong un.. because? Fuck knows. Apparently he reckons it is all about variations.
He doesnt really know if his team wins, but he always knows his bowling figures and who dropped catches off his bowling. He isnt much of a team player, which is strange as his dad is such an amicable team player. -
Dont think I mentioned the first game incident but HELMETS are a yes from me too.
Anyway, first game of season and my lads team won toss and chose to bowl first (all shit scared of batting against the hard ball I think).
First bowl of the game/season/hardball career and the most confident of the boys comes firing in and a full toss straight in the batsmens head...BANG! Down he goes. Lot's of 'Oh fuckkkk!!!' from the sidelines but after a few mins he is ok. Bowler told to try 'keep it down'. Next two balls are also full tosses but waste highish so umpire has another chat....'gotta keep it down son otherwise you are off'. Not the best start to season and the young fella bowling is now letting out a few tears.
Ok so 4th ball....this was the closest one of the over to bouncing....gets the batsmen on the toe on the full!! Again the batsmen is down in a heap. This one hurt and no pads there, just a cheap pair of runners...OUCH!!
Batsmen (and bowler) did see out the over and the next two balls were full tosses around knee height so allowed but thank god the kid had the helmet. That first ball could have done some real damage!
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@JK said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
Dont think I mentioned the first game incident but HELMETS are a yes from me too.
Anyway, first game of season and my lads team won toss and chose to bowl first (all shit scared of batting against the hard ball I think).
First bowl of the game/season/hardball career and the most confident of the boys comes firing in and a full toss straight in the batsmens head...BANG! Down he goes. Lot's of 'Oh fuckkkk!!!' from the sidelines but after a few mins he is ok. Bowler told to try 'keep it down'. Next two balls are also full tosses but waste highish so umpire has another chat....'gotta keep it down son otherwise you are off'. Not the best start to season and the young fella bowling is now letting out a few tears.
Ok so 4th ball....this was the closest one of the over to bouncing....gets the batsmen on the toe on the full!! Again hes down in a heap. This one hurt and no pads there, just a cheap pair of runners...OUCH!!
Batsmen (and bowler) did see out the over and the next two balls were full tosses around knee height so allowed but thank god the kid had the helmet. That first ball could have done some real damage!
Aye?
What bloody grade is your kid playing? year 35? Most kids in this area are FAR more likely to bounce it twice than bowl a full toss. The pitch is only 2 paces shorter than a full pitch. -
First year hard ball so year 5 of school.
Some of the kids have pretty good pace and to be honest I wouldn’t want to face them unless padded up.
JKjnr though isn’t one of those kids, just slow to medium but great line and length so gets plenty of wickets
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@JK said in Dad advice sharing thread.:
Some of the kids have pretty good pace and to be honest I wouldn’t want to face them unless padded up.
I've got there too. Won't go into the nets to face without protection ... pace and bounce means if you miss it, the old family jewels could be rearranged.
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I have an 11 year old son. He is probably the most innocent kid at his school. He's well liked by the kids and a teachers dream. He and I have a very close relationship and he is suddenly talking to me about a girl he likes. I asked him if he had told her how he feels and he said no. But then he said "But i guess if I don't do anything about it I won't get anywhere". I liked that he realises this, I say shit like that to him is sports(you miss 100% of the shot you don't take etc..). He's so bloody sensitive Im concerned she'll crush him if its not reciprocated. That's life, it has to happen to grow and I can live with him learning that lesson. But I have absolutely no idea what to do if he ends up with a mrs...
Any tips?
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My Ten year old has more game than me. He has had a girlfriend since last year. They have gone to different intermediates but stay in touch thanks to modern technology. I dropped him off for a movie date the other weekend. It is all innocent at this stage.
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TR Jnr (13) started High School this year...end of Week 2...has his first 'proper' g/f (Valentines day I thnk..she asked him)
With modern tech the communication thing is pretty intense...anywhoo, didnt last long, week or so...I thought he'd be crushed, cos he is like that, especially when she said she thought she could do better...I told him she was dreaming if she thought that!
Anywhoo, I gave him the whole be nice, you can be friends, maybe in a few years things might work out, dont burn bridges etc. Told him that even if she did want to get back he should say lets just be friends and we will see how things work out...
She got another b/f quickly, a 15yr old FFS!
Anywhoo, she has this week been saying I think we should get back together, but I saw that he has messaged her telling her that she broke his heart once, she doesnt get a 2nd shot...which was interestign as 1 we can tell when he is upset, and he wasnt really upset over her, but 2nd, I was impressed with the reply.
BUt then they have been away at camp all week...so will no doubt hear more tomorrow.
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Good luck I am dreading that stuff when my boys get older.
My old man used to tease us mercilessly about having friends who were girls.
Did not serve my self confidence well in my teenage years. Getting dumped or just rejected was not something I handled well. I hope I have better equipped my boys to handle that sort of stuff then my parents equipped me.
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@taniwharugby go junior! Good to see him sticking to his guns. Expect his stocks will rise as a result too!
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At this end I've been trying to sound out the boy on who he's interested in. It is a pretty blank wall so far, though it is hard to get conversation through to him when he's on the PS4 all the time
He's going to see Captain Marvel today with a bunch of his primary school friends he doesn't get to see that often as they all ended up at different high schools. Mrs TA and I (and Miss TA) will totally NOT be observing them from within the same cinema.
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@taniwharugby yep. Getting out of the car at school the other day - they had a mufti day for St Pats or something - there was a young lass who was quite well-endowed in the chest area, and I saw him looking, but didn't say anything.
But I'll occasionally drop a "... ladies!" with arched eyebrow at the end of a sentence and he'll give me the "ugh... Dad!" stuff.
I've given him the knowledge of steering clear of crazy week, but that's about all he'll take in so far. His Mum will probably give him a bunch of advice from the female point of view, and use a thousand words where ten will do. I've already told him he needs to nod, smile, thank her for the advice, and then basically throw most of it away.
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Haha shit this is going to come as a shock to my wife, she has it in her head that the boy won't have his first girlfriend until his 20s. Awesome.
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@No-Quarter haha yeah Mrs TR is always like you are too young for girlfriends, you should just be playing sports and doing school!
I'm not encouraging, but if I see him looking, I make sure he knows I seen him