Modern Day Parenting
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<p>we will get them back on Friday, am sure despite the place not quite complete without them, within 5 minutes of returning we'll be wanting them to leave again! :good:</p>
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<p>Kids had the grommets in yesterday fingers crossed its the end of the ear infections.</p>
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<p>They are pretty tough here in France a masked Nurse just whips them away all confused looking and they came back from their general anesthetic balling. The big fellah freaked out at bed time saying he doesn't want to sleep in case he wakes with strangers again. So I slept the night on the floor of his room so that he would see I was there in the morning. </p>
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<p>The alternative of letting him into our bed is never going to happen. Partially because I think its wrong and partially because he snores like a hippo and can't keep still even when asleep.</p> -
<p>hope they work out, our daughter has never had any issues with her ears, well aside fomr the usual bit about being broken and not working when you tell them to do shit, whereas my boy has had a lot of issues, he had loads of ear infections, he is a bit of a drama queen and often he'd play up to something, so we'd often brush it off, but less often with his ears. He had 2 sets of grommets in the end</p>
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<p>Kids had the grommets in yesterday fingers crossed its the end of the ear infections.</p>
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<p>They are pretty tough here in France a masked Nurse just whips them away all confused looking and they came back from their general anesthetic balling. The big fellah freaked out at bed time saying he doesn't want to sleep in case he wakes with strangers again. So I slept the night on the floor of his room so that he would see I was there in the morning. </p>
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<p>The alternative of letting him into our bed is never going to happen. Partially because I think its wrong and partially because he snores like a hippo and can't keep still even when asleep.</p>
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<p>My daughter used to snore like a train, and often had ear infections, had private health insurance so the doctor recommended getting adenoids and tonsils out and grommits in. Worked a treat, no more snoring, no more ear infections and a much happier kid due to better sleep without snoring.</p> -
<p>Thanks for the feedback, quiet night at chez moi last night so looks like the kids are mostly over the trauma.</p>
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<p>Now give them the rest of the week to recover then back into the petri dish that is public schooling. Hopefully this is the end of it, I wouldn't fancy them going through it twice.</p>
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<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="taniwharugby" data-cid="551889" data-time="1452540575"><p>my kids are both at their Nanas this week, house is strangely quiet, and empty...</p></blockquote>
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I have two weeks coming up without the kids, with one week just me and the wife. <br><br>
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<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="Kirwan" data-cid="552855" data-time="1452919192"><p>I have two weeks coming up without the kids, with one week just me and the wife. <br><br>
We realised that it was the longest we will have been on our own together for eight years.</p></blockquote> <br><br>
Go nuts! Just think of the quiet semi awkward meal times.<br>
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<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="Kirwan" data-cid="552870" data-time="1452929626"><p>
Actually, I might just do that :)</p></blockquote>
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Sleep in , go for lunch at a cafe and give the parents who's kids are running wild in the place filthy looks. -
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<blockquote class="ipsBlockquote" data-author="jegga" data-cid="552872" data-time="1452929986"><p>Sleep in , go for lunch at a cafe and give the parents who's kids are running wild in the place filthy looks.</p></blockquote>
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Ha, unfortunately my four week holiday is just coming to an end. No sleepins for me -
<p>I seem to have gotten everything arse about</p>
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<p>For years I delighted in adopting a supercilious expression whenever anyone started telling children issues - having none of my own.</p>
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<p>But for the last two years my solitary idyll has been disturbed by having a 20 year old living with me</p>
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<p>I feel the payback is now overdone </p> -
<p>We got the ownership model of our plum venture horribly wrong, the kids get all the profits.. but we didnt expect the profit they got. The 6 year old made over $600, and the younger made over $400.</p>
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<p>holy fuck!! the balance of power just shifted...</p>
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<p>That's right up there with "sure George, you can have the merchandising rights... <span style="font-size:10px;">sucker hehe<span style="font-size:14px;">"</span></span></p> -
<p>My boys tantrums seem to be worsening of late. The other day he went for 20+ minutes because we wouldn't give him a chocolate bar for breakfast.</p>
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<p>This article says giving your child a 'timeout' is not a good idea:</p>
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<p><a data-ipb='nomediaparse' href='http://time.com/3404701/discipline-time-out-is-not-good/'>http://time.com/3404701/discipline-time-out-is-not-good/</a></p>
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<p>That article seems to say you should comfort your child when he is upset. However when said child is screaming for chocolate, attempting to comfort him only winds him up further as he's not getting what he wants.</p>
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<p>Advice part 1: Don't listen to fucking hippy twats who use brain analysis for their theories. </p>
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<p>Learning boundaries and the fact that someone bigger than you holds the cards is the only way to get kids to grow. Firstly to accept some things they can't change, secondly to force them into reasoning their way around that shit. </p>
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<p>what the fuck? the shit that they talk about there, how is that practical in an everyday household? when you have more than one kid. And dinner to cook/have to get ready for work? Suddenly you have to drop everything and comfort your child who is losing his shit because you had the audacity to tell him to do something he doesn't want to do (terrible shit like eat his dinner, or not punch his brother in the face). </p>
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<p>I use a combination approach. He gets time-out in the bathroom for 2 minutes to calm himself down (normally he gets there, but only after he has wound himself up more) and then a calm discussion about what ever happened. it seems to work in the main, but he's 4, he forgets shit pretty fucking quickly. </p> -
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<p>Articles about parenting, are always based on one persons views and experiences. All kids are different, and all parents are different, so anything saying you should do xxx can pretty much so always be trashed, as no two experiences are ever the same.</p>
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<p>I find timeout works an absolute treat. Almost-4 year old loves to get upset and rock all, so I just put him on his bed, with the proviso that he can come out anytime, but no crying. Usually he comes out sheepish in 5-10 mins and takes another 5 mins or so before he's back to normal. I just completely ignore Miss almost-2 and she'll get over her tantrum in < 20 seconds.</p>
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<p>One thing which I do find annoying is phases. It's crazy how you can have something sorted, then for a couple of weeks it won't be sorted, then it'll e sorted again. My son was all toilet trained and then after about 6 months he suddenly started pissing his pants again. Every day. For about 3 weeks. And then he stopped again. No explanation, no triggers. Same with manners - we are absolute nazis about please and thank you, and it's probably the thing I'm most proud of with my son. Again, about a month ago, he just decided to stop doing it. And then he'd start having tantrums because we wouldn't give him what he wanted, and he couldn't figure out why (we don't tell them to say please/thank you, they need to work it out). Seems to be coming out the other end of it, but it's annoying the way something works one day, then the next day it just doesn't.</p>
