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@Kirwan weeelll....I feel they have attributed too much blame on my son for contributing to the issue for his retaliatory comments, and as TR Jnr said to me when I tell him he needs to ignore them, I can only put up with so much harassing, poking, prodding before I respond.
The other boys mother is on the BOT.
Things have stopped since the meeting between boys and Principal on Tuesday, so as I said to my wife, while it is frustrating they are blaming my son as well, if it solves the problem, then I don't really care.
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@taniwharugby said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@Kirwan weeelll....I feel they have attributed too much blame on my son for contributing to the issue for his retaliatory comments, and as TR Jnr said to me when I tell him he needs to ignore them, I can only put up with so much harassing, poking, prodding before I respond.
The other boys mother is on the BOT.
Things have stopped since the meeting between boys and Principal on Tuesday, so as I said to my wife, while it is frustrating they are blaming my son as well, if it solves the problem, then I don't really care.
Yeah, as long as it stops that's the main thing. Hopefully, her son being pulled up for bullying was embarassing enough for her to put a stop to it.
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@taniwharugby said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@Kirwan well knowing him from Primary school, kinda get the impression she gets herself on the BOT to be sure she is all over these things.
Yeah, know the type. Has he done this to any other kids? If you can identify a pattern, then it's harder for them to sweep it under the carpet. Maybe the next meeting with principal should with both sets of parents?
Annoys the crap out of me when they let bullying slide, it's their job to look after kids.
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@Kirwan well he was picking on another couple of kids, but only as they are TR Jnrs mates sticking up for him...while he didn't have issues at Primary (that I was aware of) I know he does seem to have anger issues.
Problem was, there was another boy, trying to impress said bully, got in on the act, and holy moly some of the shit he said and did in front of the teacher...he is being moved to another class, apparently he has been bounced out of a few schools, but his mother says it is the schools fault.
Good thing is TR Jnr at least talks about it, hasn't bottled it up like some kids might...allowing us to deal with it before it became a bigger problem.
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@taniwharugby said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
yeah apparently it is ok for a Maori kid to call my son 'white boy' and a 'white cnut' every day at school, but as soon as my son uses the word brown in a response, he is racist!
That's the world we live in today. You hear idiots say "black people cannot be racist because they don't have the "power" to be racist". Or some other nonsensical bullshit to justify it.
My better half (who is black) constantly says by far the most racist people in the world today are black people against whites. Especially in places like the States where movements like BLM are completely normalised. It's sad and just takes us backwards when we normalise racist behaviour like that because of past injustices.
I think the term is 'white guilt' where we're supposed to apologise for shit that happened hundreds of years ago. Contrast that with me having a beer with a German bloke whose Grandad may or may not have shot at mine or vice versa in the war a mere 70 odd years ago.....
Get over it people.
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I've got 2 daughters ones at school into her 3rd year, my youngest starts in a few months
It worries me how worse girls are getting with bullying these days, especially as they reach teenage years.
If a boy started any shit I think the urge to head over there myself and pound the little prick into the ground would be hard to fight.
I'll certainly be teaching my girls to stand up for themselves, reporting it of course. All else fails a kick to the groin will drop any little shit. -
yeah is a tough one...taught TR Jnr how to defend himself (and throw some punches) but how do you tell them it's ok to smack someone, without saying its ok to smack someone, because they will invariably have a different interpretation of whats ok!
My personal approach was they get 1 free hit, happened twice in my high school years, and in each, face had a bit of a bruise, but when against 3 or 4 dudes, I thought 1 hit was a decent result....
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@taniwharugby said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
yeah is a tough one...taught TR Jnr how to defend himself (and throw some punches) but how do you tell them it's ok to smack someone, without saying its ok to smack someone, because they will invariably have a different interpretation of whats ok!
My personal approach was they get 1 free hit, happened twice in my high school years, and in each, face had a bit of a bruise, but when against 3 or 4 dudes, I thought 1 hit was a decent result....
My tactic was run like the wind
Didn't get caught by many, the highlight being 15 or so guys running after me at a party, then trying to roll the car I'd gotten into. Really shouldn't have messed with people's girlfriends so much. Lesson learned.
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@Kirwan well that's what I told TR Jnr too as one of his options, given the other kid is bigger and slower...so the other day he was kicking him TR Jnr pushed him away and ran, unfortunately the other boy had a scooter so caught him pretty quick, it was this incident that got the Principal involved.
I was lucky though, despite being a midget, my alleged sporting prowess endeared me to the big kids, so up until High School I always had 'protection'
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@Kirwan said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@taniwharugby said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
yeah is a tough one...taught TR Jnr how to defend himself (and throw some punches) but how do you tell them it's ok to smack someone, without saying its ok to smack someone, because they will invariably have a different interpretation of whats ok!
Didn't get caught by many, the highlight being 15 or so guys running after me at a party, then trying to roll the car I'd gotten into. Really shouldn't have messed with people's girlfriends so much. Lesson learned.
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@taniwharugby said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
yeah is a tough one...taught TR Jnr how to defend himself (and throw some punches) but how do you tell them it's ok to smack someone, without saying its ok to smack someone, because they will invariably have a different interpretation of whats ok!
My personal approach was they get 1 free hit, happened twice in my high school years, and in each, face had a bit of a bruise, but when against 3 or 4
dudeskindergarten kids, I thought 1 hit was a decent result....Fixed
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@taniwharugby said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@MN5 yeah nah...unlike you, I reckon I could punch my way out of a wet paper bag!
Bro, I do Pilates....I'm sensitive AND tough
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@taniwharugby said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
yeah apparently it is ok for a Maori kid to call my son 'white boy' and a 'white cnut' every day at school, but as soon as my son uses the word brown in a response, he is racist!
I really struggle to believe that any school has a policy where it is sweet as for any kid to call another kid a fluffybunny, regardless of race.
was the consistent 'white' abuse raised with the school before the 'brown' and ignored, or did both come to light at the same time?
obviously i'm just guessing here, but more often than not what you see is one has been getting away with it and the other not complaining, then when they fight back it gets noticed and looks like 'he said she said' rather than a pattern of bullying and then an eventual reaction - which is unfair and shit, but the school can only act on the evidence they have. on the other hand, if they did know it was going on already, then i'd be having some pretty strong words with the school. -
@reprobate it was more that the 'brown' comment was supposedly at the heart of the issue, other comments barely gained a mention, was all just part of him being 'mean' to TR Jnr.
As I said elsewhere, I felt blame has been unfairly apportioned to my son, IMO to appease parents who are on BOT and the claims of a racist comment made by my son, but am letting it slide if issue is resolved, as I hope it seems to be.
My complaint has been documented, so if anything continues then we will be taking it further and query why specific points were not addressed.
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I presume this is an investment / bolthole, but he could he be the first US leftie to actually put his money where his mouth is and leave the US after the Trump win?
http://www.nzherald.co.nz/business/news/article.cfm?c_id=3&objectid=11810838
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Armed and dangerous, really ? You wouldn't think so from the photo.
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@jegga said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
Armed and dangerous, really ? You wouldn't think so from the photo.
Grant Kereama's bizarro doppelganger?